What is wrong with me????

April 26, 2007 8:26pm CST
Ok I must be completely psycho or have way too much time on my hands. My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years. He was married before but for less than a year. I find myself obsessed with the past. I try to find his ex online. In fact I have. I made up a fake name and contacted her sister on a website. I also question his fidelity so I look those girls up too. He says I think too much and I need to find something to do. I dont plan to do anything when I find these people I guess I just follow the keep friends close and enemies closer. Am I completely insane? Has anyone ever felt like this before?
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• United States
27 Apr 07
i find myself doing sort of the same thing: I try to find things out about my boyfriends ex girlfriends but then i stop because it only gets me upset and the past is the past nothing can ever change it! I try to think of that, my boyfriend had a life before me as I did too just try to realize that i guess good luck to you :)
@amydawn11 (906)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
Yah i believe it's called insecure about yourself and jellousy. I get like that but so does my boyfriend although he says he is only joking when he does it but i beg to differ. You just have to trust him cause if you don't the way you feel will only get worse and in the end destroy your relationship.You also have to have more self confidence, he is with you for a reason, smile and be happy he is and not worry about the ex girlfriends.
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• United States
28 Apr 07
I read some of your other responses on this, and in truth a lot of the other posters are right. This is you. Everything about it is you. It has nothing to do with your husband, but if you continue to do this, it will involve him and your lack of trust based on things he had nothing to do with will eventually alienate him from you and destroy your relationship. Jealousy and insecurity are two of the top relationship destroyers because you treat the person with you like a possession, an object, and often overlook the fact that that person has feelings of his own. If you can get in to see a counselor about this issue, I would highly recommend it, otherwise you're going to find yourself alone.
@urbandekay (18308)
28 Apr 07
Yes, mad as a loon! Seriously, this is not beneficial behaviour. You know have a choice to resist it and cultivate an interest in the present and future or desend into it. all the best urban