What will you feel if your bf/gf FORGETS your birthday?

@zjenikka (292)
Philippines
April 26, 2007 8:27pm CST
My boyfriend is a very nice guy. I know he loves me as much as i love him. But what I cannot accept is he forgot about my birthday. When 12am stiked I did not say a word because I thought he will just remember anytime of the day (on my birthday). I was thinking maybe he was busy preparing something for my day. I waited for the whole day but there was no greeting. I went to sleep crying that night because my day ended without any greeting or gift from him. I do not care about the gift. I can accept it but what I cannot take is he forgot about my birthday... What about you? What will you feel if your gf/bf forgets your birthday? please be detailed...
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@angela2006 (1846)
• China
27 Apr 07
I will feel angry and sorrowful too.because birthday is an important day to everyone,so if my boyfriend forgets it,I will think he ignors me.but maybe he is so busy in doing other things that he does not remember it ,so I will remind him to see if he really forget my birthday or not.if he really forget it,I will punishi him in some ways,haha.if he has an proper reason,maybe I will forgive him.
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27 Apr 07
Ya it will obviously hurt but then its fine because you know how much he loves you...n cares for you ..why do you think he's your bf if he dint love you?? i guess it just happens unintentionally not that he is ignoring you or anything...but then i feel in the end he comes and tries to console you in such a way that you tend to foerget and forgive him... well i dont have a bf but then i know how it feels ...i mean its just a general feeling that anyone would get...
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
That is really foul. I have been with my girlfriend for more or less 6 years now. And i'm very much particular with dates. i remember our anniversary and monthsary dates truthfully. I also memorize her birthday, etc. On my part, I know it will be frustrating for you to be disregarded and forgotten. It's as if you got an amnesia. I don't want my girl to feel bad just because of one very petty instance. Remembering dates would simply imply that I appreciate her in any way. And that i want to let her feel she's complimented. Well, in your case, I think you'll just have to accept your boyfriend's state of mind. Maybe, he was so fed up with a lot of things. We may not know. Maybe, he's experiencing certain problems now and he was so paranoid about it. It really depends on his reasons. Just be considerate at times although it hurts. i know there are still "next times".
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@mmiller26 (1932)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
I think the problem here is expectations. You're expecting him to remember something. I don't know about your guy, but most of the guys I know don't remember when their own mother's birthday is, let alone their girlfriend's. Men just aren't wired that way. How many guys are married for 14 years and think it's 16? They just forget about things like this. You can't expect him to remember things. What you needed to do is let him know that your birthday was coming up like, a week prior to the date. Be all like "Wow, I can't believe my birthday's coming up next Thursday. I can't believe I'll be such and such age already." or "We should do something for my birthday." Give him a heads up ahead of time so he CAN'T forget. I mean, if you're going to make a big deal about your birthday, then make a big deal about it. Let him know ahead of time that it's an important date so he can be ready for it. Your being silent about it showed him that it wasn't a big deal for you, so it wasn't a big deal for him either. I know how crappy it feels to have your birthday forgotten. My dad forgot my birthday a few years back. I had to go buy my own birthday cake and everything, and while he was eating his piece, fork halfway to his lips, he's like "This is good. What did you get the cake for?" It's just how they are. Use it to guilt him into getting you something nice if you want, but don't hold it against him.
• United States
27 Apr 07
Best response right here.
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@qoo_rie (428)
• Indonesia
27 Apr 07
yep i agree with u... even i know i'm gonna hurt if my bf do so.... but i used to remind him LOL.. in jokes of course like 'could u buy me that diamond?' n he gonna ask WHY??? .. for my bday of course... n then we laugh together.. cos it's no way to buy that fantasy thing rite now.. we're just start working n haven't got that much earned.. LOL
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@venshida (4837)
• United States
3 May 07
This crap has happened to me twice. It happened last birthday, and would you believe it happen again this year. I got the apology we will do something later and nothing. He remembers Mothers Day, and Christmas no problem. I thought about dumping him, but since he remembers other special occasion I did not end it. I told him I will spend my birthday with my kids because they sure don't forget.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
same thing happened to me last birthday. just the nineth of this month. i waited for him to greet me, but he didnt.. when the clock stroke 12 am for april 9, i received a lot of birthday greetings from my friends and even received one greeting from an x boyfriend! that makes the situation worst! i mean, imagine, my x remembered my birthday, while him, my present, was not able to remeber it! like what you did, i waited for the whole day to recieve a text from him, but i never did, that's why i told him that it was my birthday....i cannot do anything anymore! so, when i checked my email, he's got a mail for me! he told me that he didnt forget my birthday..but i have a feeling that he really did! anyways, i didnt feel so bad about it because even my sister who knows me for 21 years forgot to greet me on my birthday! well, my sister forgetting my birtday is a lot more painful than my boyfriend forgetting it.:) but everythng's okay now beween my sis and i.
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
well if my bf forget my birthday thats really hurts cause thats the one important to youre life it is especial ocassion not only for you for him too.but i think u need to know why youre bf forgot youre birthday maybe he is rigth he is busy sometimes u need to understand.
• United States
28 Apr 07
I would be pretty upset about it. I think I would have said something though. I cant keep things like that to myself.
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
actually yesterday's my birth day and luckily my boyfriend didn't forget it! he even bought ice cream and sphaghetty for me im so glad he didnt forget it!
@billyboi (47)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
gubot ui... hehehe i will really feel bad
• India
27 Apr 07
i knowi hurts badly when such things happen if my gf does the same with me i would have tried to remind her i a indirect manner so that she would wish me and we would go for celebration instead of sitting ideal a thinking whwn will she wish me and when we will go for celebration.
• United States
27 Apr 07
I would be hurt...especially seeing as though I am the type of girl who remembers all the important dates in a relationship..mainly, my man's birthday..I would wait until the next day and ask him about my birthday..knowing the person I am with now, he is going to say he forgot and try to make it up to me that day..and it will be unacceptable..I won't speak to him for the next couple of days and when something important happens for him, I will pretty much make it my business to forget
@AJNAG13 (137)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
it is ok if it happens only one. hehhe. you know? once is excusable. pEACE!
@darkzzt (760)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
i think he didnt intend to forget about your birthday. how long have you been together? if its been a long time, like years already, then that sounds pretty bad. i will be hard to remember if this was the first time your birthday ever passed. for him to remember, he would have to keep your birthday in mind for all the time up until your birthday. or he could have wrote it down on a calendar but that takes effort. http://darkzzt.blogspot.com/
@vijiayyar (191)
• Ireland
27 Apr 07
i will kick him off as a person who cant remember the day i was born does not love me. Its simple there is no love involved if u cant remember a day so special to ur partner.
@chertsy (3804)
• United States
27 Apr 07
You think what your boyfriend did was bad. Try sharing the same birthday and still forgetting it. My parents share the same birthday. It's on a date that's hard to forget, Feb 2nd. Growing up we had to remind my dad the day before there birthdays so he wouldn't forget. I wouldn't have been to mad, birthdays aren't that special to me. I'm more into giving than receiving anyway. You could joke around him by saying gees thanks a lot for forgetting my birthday. Make sure you do it in a way that it doesn't hurt his feelings or make him look like a complete jackass for forgetting either. Or you could be on the phone when he's around and say, Awww thank you I did have a great birthday yesterday. You actually don't have to be talking to anyone. When he says anything say it was a friend of yours wanting to know how my birthday went yesterday. Just get the ball rolling. Good Luck.
• India
27 Apr 07
ya i will get disappointed by that Hey but what if ur gf/bf is loving u as much he can on every single day..still do u feel the same way as in first place At least i dont feel if he /she giving me gifts every day
• United States
27 Apr 07
I go through this every year with my husband of 7 years. He has worked every year for my birthday (he works offshore and is gone for 2 weeks at a time). He seems to think that time stands still when he's gone, and holidays that happen when he's at work don't count. When one our our friends asked him what he bought me for my birthday, his reply was "I didn't get her anything, I was offshore for her birthday". What a croc!
• Canada
27 Apr 07
Hey there girl friend i am a 24 maried woman and trust me when i was dateing before i got maried there was a lot of times when my b/f would forget my b day/ but i do not think they did it on purpose so i guess what i am trying to say it that you just have to forgive him and say i love you and that i forgive you i hope i helped a little
• Bangladesh
27 Apr 07
First of all a big sorry to you from yours BF's or GF's side from me and wish you a Happy birthday.Yea it is indeed a delicate issue which stirs individual's own perception towards his/her love life. If I think that it is not the end of everything or the final judgement of your beloved's depth of love towards you..than it might not hurt you so much latently for which you cudnt sleep that night. But if you thing on the other side that it is possible for a human being to forget such occasions when he is in either in deep trouble or have urgent work or busy with important work. I dont know how much depth have you both in your relationship..but treat the incedence with enough maturity and balanced thniking ...without letting your mind inclined to partial feeling ..than you will come to a good reasonable answere. I hope this is a mistake done unknowingly by your bf/gf. take it easy and talk frankly with your friend and know his true feeling and intention towards you. You can get all answeres of the questions arisen in your unrest mind.All the best and smile....
@devadoss (41)
• India
27 Apr 07
yes i'm sure my angry level reaches to exterme point