communicating with my ex

I think that it would be easier for you both if you each were to suggest a couple of times a piece that he could visit Kierrah. If he calls and saids that Monday works for him and you have somethiing planned suggest another day. You both are surpose to compromise not just you. Explain that you would like to work everything out but he needs to start compromising with you and before he schedules anything he will need to make sure that you don't have something already planned.

Since he doesn't seem to understand and a permanent schedule doesn't work for him I think you should go back to court and have more specific details put in it. The arrangement my ex-hubby and I had put in writing specifically listed that no matter what I had first rights to have them on my birthday and mother's day, he had first rights on his birthday and father's day. We also put in a two week period for each of us in the summer for us to use however we wanted to with the kids. Mine was for the 3rd and 4th week of July, his was the 2nd and 3rd week of August, no matter what the other parent had going on we were guaranteed those two weeks. What we worked out when my oldest's father wanted to visit was that he HAD to call at least a day before and if it wasn't good for us we could refuse. He didn't like that very much though so I can't say how well it would work for you.

Sounds like he just didn't listen to you when you told him about June ... perhaps he was like this when you were together and you just don't remember, I find most men only listen to about 10% of our conversations, I know I feel like I repeat myself most of the time, and yes, I do find this annoying, very annoying.

I have to say that maybe you need to write down dates that are definetely your time with your daughter and tell him he can never have these times. Do it in writing so that there is no mistake. Make sure you make a copy for yourself as well. It might even be a good idea to have him sign your copy so that you have proof that he knows about these times. The other thing you can do is say I am sorry but I have plans and since you are talking about a month away maybe you need to see if you can change your schedual because you and the child will not be home at that time. Good luck. don't let him push you around.

There is not much you can do other then to try what you are doing by talking to him but if he doesn't take the time to be with her now then it will be too late when he decided he wants to see her . Children grow so fast and if we are not there for them when they are younger they are not necessarily going to take the time for us when we are older and would like to see more of them . Even though a child may not agree with all that we do for them , they learn quickly who was there for them when they needed help , when they were sick or even when they did something wrong in life . They know who was there to back them up and when one doesn't take the time when they are younger they are risking the chance of never knowing who their children really are . Your ex needs to do this for himself as well as his daughter . They are young for such a short period of time and no one wants to look back years later and regret all that they missed because no matter what you can never get this time back with your child . It will be your ex'es loss not yours if he does not take the time for her now . She will never forget all that he missed when she was growing up and may find this very hard to forgive . He is not seeing his daughter enough and he is missing out on so many wonderful things and getting to know his daughter as an individual , getting to know her likes and dislikes and getting to know who she will one day be . This is in no way your fault , you are doing the best you can and if he doesn't take the time to listen to you now it will be his loss years from now . Best of luck !!

What it sounds like you need is scheduled visitation. I would get one and then let him work around it my self. I would just tell him we need one to make it clear on who has her and when and we will stick to it.