Toxic Relationship?

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A toxic relationship is defined as one in which you are feeling harmed either emotionally or physically. A toxic relationship is one in which you are chronically tired, angry, or frightened. A relationship in which you worry about a safe time to talk to your partner. A relationship in which you do not have the "right" to express yourself. In short, a relationship that is abusive in any way, may be a toxic relationship. Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? What made it toxic? How did it make you feel? I was in two. One was my fiance when I was 18. I wasn't in love with him, but I stayed with him because I wanted to prove to him that I wasn't the child he constantly accused me of being. Looking back I realize that because of my age and inexperience I saw nothing wrong with it, but I see so many things that are wrong now. Our relationship ended when he started flipping out when I started smoking again after I quit and he threw me into a wall and called me a 'little nothing'. He'd just admitted to me days before that he took illegal steroids for body building and I'm sure now that it was what is commonly referred to as 'roid rage'. I walked out the door and ran into a police officer I knew socially who talked the RCMP detachment into pressing charges against him for assault and purchase of a controlled substance. He left town shortly after (the assault charges caused him to lose his job and his place to live) and I haven't seen him since. The second was my ex and first man I lived with. Initially he was the sweetest man I'd ever met, but after we moved in together he became withdrawn, lazy and emotionally abusive. He cheated on me several times, initially hiding it, and then flaunting it in my face and remaining very unapologetic about it. I broke it off with him, but he refused to move out and I didn't have the means to leave either, so I started seeing another man on the sly who gave me the courage to put my foot down and become a very unpleasant person for my ex to live with. He moved out and back in with his ex-wife shortly after.