What is it with this guy!?
By jchampany
@jchampany (1130)
United States
April 27, 2007 12:08pm CST
So some of you already know the situtation with my daughters father. Since I went to court 3 weeks ago, I haven't heard from him. I called him to ask him to send some money and he won't answer the phone. I thought to myself that that was fine and I wasn't going to worry about it anymore. Once everything is done with the court I will have a child support order and it will just take it out of his paycheck.
Well, this morning, out of the blue, I get a text message from him say "I still love you but I am trying to forget you." WTF! So I sent him a text message back asking if he was trying to forget our daughter too. He replied "Well you took her from me." He has two other kids that his ex wife took to Japan - he never forgot about them and always kept in touch with them.
First of all, I don't want him to love me, I just want him to be responsible for his daughter. I certainly could use some help supporting her. Second, I did take her from him - because he was beating the crap out of me and my son!!!!
What's the deal? I just don't get it.
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3 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I'm not sure if I can say that he really does still love you, the fact that he beat you and your son up. You made the right decision to take your daughter from him, and the right decision to ask for support. Just like you, my ex used to physically hurt me too. When I finally separated from him, he would tell me that he still loved me everytime I asked for support for the children. It was like telling me that "ok, i'll give support on the condition that you come back to me." You know what, I gave it up! I stuck to my decision to stay away from him, and, well, what do you know... he has never sent a single cent for the kids for the last 2years! I believe that if he is really sincere with his "words of love", he will do all he can to provide for you and your daughter. Don't be deceived, stick to your decision. If he refuses to support you, you have the Law on your side in the end, anyway...let it be taken from his paycheck.
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@jchampany (1130)
• United States
27 Apr 07
You know, it has been a year since I left. All the "I love yous" "please can we be together", I told him that same thing. I told him if he could prove to be a man then I would consider it. He thought it was a dumb idea. Haven't seen anything from him. Now I don't even know what state he is in.
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
27 Apr 07
The deal is that he is unstable emotionally. Don't try to figure him out. Just get him to pay his child support if you can and, try to only communicate with him through your legal representative. It makes more of an impact and you don't have to have these kinds of communications with him that lead nowhere.
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@mummymo (23706)
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28 Apr 07
Sounds like a typical bully who hasn't gotten his own way honey! He is trying to twist things so that you feel bad-he wants to stay in control and know that he can affect the way he feels about you! I understand that you want him to be there for his daughter but unless he does so of his own accord you will be jumping through hoops to keep his relationship with his daughter going! At least soon you will get some money for your daughter and if he is still playing mind games then perhaps you should stay out of his way until he is ready to take responsibility for his daughter - at the end of the day he is the loser who is missing out on his daughters life! xx
