Your In-Laws, Love them or Hate them?

Being Italian & Puerto Rican, I would have to say, I doubt it in a big way if we would have gotten along. When I hooked up with Olivia Leigh Iguina's mother, her parents had already long passed on. So, with that being said, I never had a chance to meet them. If I judge based on the rest of her families reaction towards me, I would have to say it would have been a long rough journey. She is a African American woman, who's family has made it a point to make it clear to me that their preference is for her to be with an African American man. I think her happiness is second to this in their eyes! ...... Hmmmmmmm, go figure:-(

i'd say that i have a good relationship with them, especially with my mom-in-law. she is so loving and caring towards me. she makes sure that i feel comfortable in their house (since we live with her) and tries her best to show that she is loving me as her own daughter. but there are times when i don't agree with some of their attitude but i just keep quiet because this is how they have been in their lives.

There was honestly a time when I coul have said that I hated my in-laws. They were very nasty and mean to me. My husband cut them out for about 6 months, before I was the adult and put a end to it. Now we talk to them about once a month and they live about 3,000 miles away and honestly it may be for the best, before we have a bad fight again. So as for as right now I don't hate them or love them they are just there.

In-laws are supposed to be a source of courage, guidance and light as we go along in the turmoils of the married life. However, this is never always the case because we have a lot of in-laws who have never learned to play their right roles as far as their sons and daughters who are already have flied on their own wings or are already married. Well, frankly, to have annoying in-laws could be a burden to any married couple. There are really some of them who act as if they are the most perfect specie this world ever has. And to think that we know for sure their own lives. To offer guidance and inspiration is a great welcome thing but to intervene on how the married couple managed their lives is another story. These in-laws still think that the world revolves around them and acting as if they are above those young people who are still trying to make the relationship works. Instead of helping the marriage relationship, some in-laws are good in destroying it, much worse if your in-laws never like you in the first place. It could be worse.

I can't say love or hate, its kind of in the middle. Im lucky, my in-laws are in another state and we rarely have to "deal" with them. However, when i am around/talking to my husbands mother, she loves to bring up his ex. She also enjoys telling me how to raise my 3 children, two of which are twins. It's kind of annoying considering she smoked pot much of raising her kids, my husband included. Some of the things i hear she did as a mother, i would never do so i hate her dishing out advice. Anyway, without going on and on, my answer is somewhere in the middle leaning on hate!

At first we feel that we are unlucky to have an in-laws. But we were wrong about that notion. Knowing them and understanding what they do or say is more fun than what our partner had brought to us. It is quite odd to say that we are wed to our partner and yet we are tied to his/her family, all through the 5th degree. It's cumbersome at first but in the end they are for you and your partner's welfare for they knew your partner first before you were tied down. Anyway, people are not born to be as stubborn as what we think but they are kind as what we want us to be in the near future. Tnx - MrGenerics

My in-laws live in a different country, speak a different language (that I don't speak) and have customs that are completely different then the ones that we have here in the US. However; after saying all that, I absolutely love them. They are the most wonderful people in the world and I am so glad I was able to go half way around the world to meet them.

Well yours is really a problem which you should get rid of. You can talk to your husband about this situation and get his help. IN my case my in laws are not that worse and i have some good time with them and i can say that i am in a middle situation when love or hate comes.

hate em! my ladys mom has this habbit of calling her and upsetting her almost daily, she trys to tell her how to treat me which is in such a way know man should be treated, she trys to make her feel small for not wanting to leave me or coming back to live in the same town she is living in. i dont understand her reasoning for this but i wish she would stop, and her husband even worse, but thats a whole different beast. not enough room on here to write it lol

of course, i love them!they have supported me all the way, since my husband was still my boyfriend

I can honestly say that I dislike my in-laws. I don't hate them, I just dislike them. They have no respect for me, my husband or our three beautiful children. I can't stand being around them. My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years and their behavior has only gotten worse. They talk about me behind my back. They blame me for everything under the sun. Right after our first daughter was born, my mother-in-law told my husband that she didn't feel as though she had gained a daughter or a grandbaby but that she had lost her son. So, yeah, I wish my in-laws lived in another state....or even another universe!

I love my in-laws, there great and I'm lucky to get along with them, my mother-in-law just drives me crazy sometimes.

It is not possible to take a person you hardly know and expect them to be our family who understand us perfectly or whom we can understand perfectly. Yet this is what we do with our inlaws. All of us have to try and try to fit together as a family. If one side does not do that, it becomes tougher for the other side. But simply hating them or putting them out of the way does not solve the problem. After all they are now our family.

I liked my in-laws at first or could at least tolerate them. But they really upset me and disrespected me last year for Christmas (which was our first Christmas). My mother in-law invited my husbands ex-girlfriend (they share a child together) to their house for Christmas. I felt very uncomfortable with the situation. I now have a child of my own and I refuse to sit through another Christmas like last year. I may be childish but I can't help my feelings. Also his mother acts like she's everyones boss. When he tells his other child no about something she lets her do it anyway. She's the same way with his daughters mother. My mother would never let my child do something after I say no. I believe that it is the parents decision and the grandparents should stay out of it. So needless to say right now I really dislike them. I'm glad that you have a good relationship with your in-laws now. Have a great day.