Do you always have time for your kids?
By jhaspher
@jhaspher (105)
United States
April 27, 2007 4:41pm CST
When was the last time you've had fun with your kids?
Nowadays, children are more curious on all things and they're more sensitive than before. That's is why we should always be there for our kids no matter what, we should always make them feel that they are very important and special to us even we're too busy at work or too tired from work.
I'm just saying these things because i don't want you too experience what my friend is experiencing now. He have 2 kids (9 is eldest and 7 is the youngest). He doesn't have time for his kids because he's always busy doing at work. But after couple of years, he noticed that for his kids it looks like he doesn't exists at all. Because his kids didn't even miss him or talk to him when his home. Right now he is trying to give the attention that he should given them before when they're still a little younger but i think that'll be too late for him, because i've talked to his kids and asked them one question. "Do you love your dad?", they didn't answer the question instead, they tell me "we think daddy doesn't love us". I was so shocked to hear that from them, I don't know what to do to help them understand that their dad was doing those things just for them.
With this kind of situation, what would do?
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5 responses
@msjigga (864)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I completely agree with you. I am a Mother of 2 a 5yr old and a 9 mth old. I believe you should try to spend as much time as possible with your kids because they are only kids for a little while. I have a friend that works 2 jobs, she hardly ever spends time with her kid and is still struggling. She refuses to quit her 2nd job because she is struggling. I refuse to work 2 jobs while my kids are young.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
this situation is still easy to deal with. it is good that the father has come to realize his shortcoming this early. all that he will have to do will be to be with his family on day offs from work. spend easy time and fun times at the beach, go on a picnic, go fishing, go camping, go malling, eat out, anything at all. for as long as the activity will involve only the family for the children to get to know their father better while having fun time.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
28 Apr 07
Well being a housewife i finish up my every work before my little one wakesup and i try to do bit faster when he is playing with his dad and i will spend all the day aong with him,very rare my hubby gets time to spend with him but he spends with him on weekends totally with without giving a chance to me and at the same time my son doesnot ask for me too,he enjoys a lot being with his dad.We take him out at weekends to parks,amusements,picnics...........and we never allow him to think that his parents are laeast bothered about him.Ask your friend to sped alot at weekends with his kids alone so that they may realise what is their is and why cant he spend with them while on the other days,ask your friends wife to tell their children all aboput their dads inconvience towars them and i think they understand and they love their father.Hope this works out better and all the best to your friend.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I think that he is still able to fix his relationship with his children. He should make a point of trying to learn all their likes and dislikes. He has to make the time to get to know his kids. He could also set a certain time of the day to spend with his children. Their mother can help by explaining to the children that the reason their dad works so much is because he does love them and he wants to provide well for them. He will need to work hard to show his children that he loves and needs them. He won't be able to fix this quickly but by him showing them love and attention on a daily basis would help alot.
