Whats married life like for you? Pls state how life has changed after marriage?

@samrat16 (2442)
India
April 28, 2007 12:34am CST
Im male. Married 3 years with no kids and I love my wife sooooooo much. Sure we have bad times but we communicate well and work through our problems. She talks to me about everything as do I and we both feel we can talk openly to each other. She shows an interest in everything I do and I do the same with her. We still have disagreements but we agree to disagree. Think she knows me inside out and I know her inside out. Probably better than we know ourselves. I feel she really cares. If she didnt, why be together? Things are no different. Her family have made things harder for us but we have a strong relationship. Does your partner TALK to you? Are they interested in your feelings, ambitions, likes and dislikes? Could they give accurate answers to questions about you? Do you feel they REALLY CARE? Is it different since you married?
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
29 Apr 07
As the name itself suggests,I am a female.Got married 24 years back.Hmmm I know,I was just a little more than an innocent kid.Lol.Happened to catch the fancy of my husband and he convinced my father for the marriage much to my chagrin(Haha!Not really). I must admit He allowed me to remain the kid I was and takes good care of me and my kids.He gets very little time to be with us but when ever he is around he showers me with his care and fuss. Now we understand each other well and have great respect for each other.The best part is that he tries to understand me and give me my space which I appreciate very much.Lol. He is not very demonstrative with my two daughters and so not very popular with them.But they understand how much he cares.I wish he could open up with them a bit more. Overall I am happy and satisfied with the family life and the atmosphere at home.:-)
• United States
29 Apr 07
My hubby and I have been married for 17 years, and been together for nearly 20. We've had our share of rough spots, but we have always managed to work it out. The thing that all newlyweds need to remember is that marriage is a team effort. If either spouse thinks that they should run the show, they may as well give up. The best advise I've ever received about being married was to never go to bed mad at each other. Even if it means staying up till the wee hours of the morning trying to work things out. Or better yet, making up.
• India
28 Apr 07
hi sam... i dont know is it early to comment or not, as not even a year has passed for our marriage but we were engage from past two years and belive me we have been to worst sides of life before marriage! my dad and his mom were not happy with our relation buy thank god we mannaged and we are happilly married now and our parents are happy too... and ya there are changes after marriage but he is really understanig and loves me too much, and we talk about anything and everything and i am the most important person for him... we have had bad times too but he is only the one to come and say sorry first... married life is different but not much after all we all need changes in our life otherwise we get bored right???
• India
30 Apr 07
thanks man...
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
I've been married for almost 6 years now. And I have to say that surprises do come after saying your wedding vows. In the 6 yrs of marriage, on my part, i've grown more mature and more independent. I mean, before i got married, i usually depend on my boyfriend's opinions about certain things. And before i married him, the romance was really sweet. We barely see each other then. When we got married, i now believe in the saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder. I don't know why but there are times that i don't want to see him or hear his voice. I think the 10th year mark in a marriage life is a very crucial point. So, whatever problems we may be having sometimes these days, it's petty and will eventually pass. After being married to my husband for 6 years, i have learned to accept all the goodness and even bad things about him. We already have passed a certain time in our lives that almost broke us apart. Whatever arguments and heartache we have passed made our relationship today much more stronger. Made us both more mature and confident that we can surpass again any future problems.
@brand4less (1061)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 07
well..besides that i have 5 extra new brothers and sisters and his family problems become mine also..nothing much different then :)) i just married 3 months ago although we already been together for 2 years and those kind of problems i mentioned above are the consequences of being married. there're also many things we disagree with. like kind of food we like, his habit against mine, etc..but it spiced our marriage. he still the same person that i've met 3 years ago. a man who always make me laugh, a place i can talk, a person who willing to become my sack everytime i feel i want to angry bcoz 'sometimes' for nothing :)) hope this feeling can last till the end and same with u too !
@deepti15 (1190)
• India
29 Apr 07
Well, I have been asked this question numerous times, mostly by people who are planning to get married, I would answer this question, just like I answer them. To me marriage is a beautiful relation, where two people are woven with a bond of love. No unequalities in terms of money, religion or any other bars. It is so enchanting that someone might be waiting for you , if you get late from work. That someone might remember little little things about you, know your wishes, your dreams. Someone might love you more than you love yourselves. How beautiful, go get settled today lolz.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
29 Apr 07
i'm a woman,i will marry my bf this year.there is something changed although i am not married. when i went to his family,i have to become more patient and tender.i have to do more and more house work to show i'm not a lasy girl.frankly,i feel very tired in those days ,i feel i'm not myself.but when he went to my house ,he didnt' do anything ,because people all think ,men should do big things not the little house work.i feel angry,but in our own house ,he will do anything for me ,washing clothes , bowls and dishes.i feel very happy at that time .i know he loves me .now ,i found we have few communications and we have less time to walk outside.2 years ago,when we were dating ,we have lots of topics to discuss,lots of places to walk .it is common for couples.when i first chat with a stranger online ,we have lots of words to say ,but a few days later,we have less and less words to say, at last ,we only say hello when we met with each other online.for couples, i think we should change ourselves everyday,from appearance to knowledge,so you can have more words to talk with your partners.if you have no words to talk with your partners,you can watch tv , go to cinema,or go shopping together happily.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
29 Apr 07
i am married for about a year and 4 months now and i think it is the best thing that ever happened to me... yes, we have a lot of fighting and disagreements and we have differences to sort out between us... but at the end, it will work out... i have a husband who is very temperemental and get angry very easily and that is the one thing tha i hate the most about him... he is not a gentle and romantic person either... but he has other ways to show his love and care to me and my life definitely has changed because of him...
@smacksman (6074)
28 Apr 07
Marriage is an excellent institution - I recommend it! Could they give accurate answers to questions about you? Oh yes. My wife runs me down to all and sundry - never does this, useless at that, but all to do with women's jobs like cooking, washing, housework. You see it has taken me 37 years to train her to think that way. haha. Yes, I'm very happy for her to tackle those chores. She even took a photograph of me using the hoover once to show her friends the 'miracle!' She's a great wife!!
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 07
I have been married for 13 yrs and have 3 sons (youngest 2 1/2). My marriage, if ask to rate from 1 to 10, I would give it a 3. Yep, that how sad is my marriage. We dont agree on lot of things especially on how to raise our sons. We argue bitterly each time. We dont really communicate. Our relationship somewhat vulnerable. It seems pretty amazing that we managed to stay married for this long. Like what other people say, couple who argue a lot tends to have lasting marriage. Well, I quess it all in because of faith in God and a lot of patience. And it is also because of my children. You are very lucky. You are very much in love with your wife and I am very sure your wife is equally have the same feeling for you. God bless.
@maevic (821)
• Bahrain
28 Apr 07
Well for me it's difficult to know what and how our life has changed. We have been boyfriends for more than five years before we get married. We really know each other so much and i really like and love him a lot. Though after marriage, living together has been a little difficult because of the adjustments, and until now we still have some issues that we are trying to resolve but we are both happy. It's not all what do you call "sweet moments" and i think all married couple goes though that point.
• Kottayam, India
28 Apr 07
Life is like that little there/here minor adjustments it will work out to fine.Congrats.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
28 Apr 07
Well since I have been married not that much has changed really as we both let each other go and visit friends not necessarily together and we have enjoyed each other company more now that we are married the main thing that changed was when we had to bring up our children and the financial problems that we had but it is getting a little easier these days. It is very different after we get married as you have a committment to each other to try and please one and other.