Whats married life like for you? Pls state how life has changed after marriage?

@samrat16 (2442)
India
April 28, 2007 12:34am CST
Im male. Married 3 years with no kids and I love my wife sooooooo much. Sure we have bad times but we communicate well and work through our problems. She talks to me about everything as do I and we both feel we can talk openly to each other. She shows an interest in everything I do and I do the same with her. We still have disagreements but we agree to disagree. Think she knows me inside out and I know her inside out. Probably better than we know ourselves. I feel she really cares. If she didnt, why be together? Things are no different. Her family have made things harder for us but we have a strong relationship. Does your partner TALK to you? Are they interested in your feelings, ambitions, likes and dislikes? Could they give accurate answers to questions about you? Do you feel they REALLY CARE? Is it different since you married?
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• United States
29 Apr 07
I appreciate your care and love for your wife - it is apparent through your description of the relationship. I am married 15 years. I can't say that I know my husband inside and out - sometimes he surprises me. But I do know that his is very dependable and I can count on him every single day. I appreciate him and I hope he appreciates me!
• Melbourne, Australia
29 Apr 07
I have been married almost 11 years. I met & married my husband in a month & we have a 13yo son. I loe him like no other & he has been a fantastic father to my son. Life since we got married did not change as wel only started living together about 2 years ago after his mother suddenly passed away. He was looking after her and she and I did not get along well. She was very sick for years & we decided it wouldbe better to keep things the way they were.
• United States
29 Apr 07
Sam, I have not yet married and nor will I in the very near future. But I would wish to have a partner that would talk to me and want to know my ambitions, likes dislikes and are interested in my feelings. I would want someone whom I can talk openly with and that I could be with for the rest of OUR lives. And sometimes it just so happens that someone can know you better then you know yourself, that is if you let them.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
i cannot answer that since i am not married yet, but i can only speculate. well, my cousein is having a hard time with his wife now, his wife has turned in to a nagger after they live together and what is worst in their relationship is that he wants to separate with his wife and i think he has a new girlfriend. well, for their experience, marriage has not been healthy for them. the foundation is not good even from the start. the relationship is so full of distrust and insecurity that is now affecting their lives as a couple! the sad part is that they got a little girl and if they will really get separated then their daughter will be the one who eill be affected the most. marriage entails a lot of responsibility so before one would really make up his or her mind about getting married, he or she should think hard about it!:)
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
I've been married for 7 years and blessed with 2 kids. Life has changed differently from the day I have married. Living away from my parents and starting life with my wife. I have to do the things that my parent usually does to me, like cooking, washing clothes, and other household chores. And also, taking time with my friends (good time) had been limited or totally stopped. But my life as a married person makes me to be more responsible and not to be one sided. Now in every decision I make, I see to it that the concerned of my family (wife and kids) have also been taken into consideration. It also make me to home body, always spending time with my children. Communication and support with one another make married life to work.
• United States
28 Apr 07
Well I am not sure I qualify to answer this since I am divorced not once but twice basically for above mentioned reasons. For some reason I always picked the kind of guy that was a me myself and I type after marriage. My first husband wanted me to stay at home and be a baby factory even though we couldn't afford a large family. He was not exactly a practical person. My second was very happy with me supporting him....I was working three part time jobs and getting sleep in two hour shifts...being very considerate he said I could make supper whenever I wanted. Needless to say I am not rushing to find another candidate. I think I may just be too picky now after what has happened. I am not knocking marriage as an institution, far from it, I just admit to making regretable choices. Maybe I was just destined to be single one nevr really knows.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I have been married for 11 years and counting. We have 2 boys and life couldn't be better. yes we have had ups and downs, but we have always managed to work through them. You have to WANT to make a marriage work, it's not going to be perfect magically. My life has changed alot as I come from a family that let's just say wasn't very caring. He comes from a very caring background. We have grown togther, cried together, fought together, raised children together and loved together.There is no one in this wrld that knows me better than he, and no one that knows him better than I. We are each others best friend, confidant, critic, lover, teahcer, and so much more. My life would never be the same without him.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Apr 07
It sounds as though you have been blessed with a wonderful marriage.The things you say about talking to each other and telling each other everything,that is what keeps a marriage strong,communication is the key.I like what you said about agree to disagree,thats a very good point..I am married now to a very good man,we have been married like 4 years,and he is not a big talker,but he is very good to me and caring,and i am happy..I was in a bad marriage for years and it is so nice to have someone who cares for you and shows it..Yes i feel my husband really cares because he tries very hard to help me around the house and he goes everywhere with me and we don't fuss and we get along well..