how to tell a friend you killed there pet?

United States
April 28, 2007 7:36am CST
i got a call from a friend last night and she was really upset. she had been watching a puppy for another friend while she was out of town. they come back in 2 days. well some how the pup got out of the house and she didnt know and she went to leave she ran over the pup. it died and now she has to tell her friend. the pup was her best friend she got it from her dad 1 week before he died in a car accident of all things. she is scared to tell her what she did. it was an accident and she feels really bad. she was thinking of saying it ran away but she cant do that she has to tell the truth. she took it to the vet but the vet couldnt do anything for it. the vet is holding it till the owner gets home. she didnt want to burry it etc without the owner being able to say where and how etc. what is really bad is the owner just got married and was away on her honeymoon. this will be just really bad no matter what. how would you tell them?
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9 responses
• United States
28 Apr 07
Oh how sad!! There is really no easy way to tell someone that, so it will be hard regardless of how she approaches it. I would let her get home and settled for a few minutes and ask how the honeymoon was and then let them know gently what happened. I am sure that they friend will be very upset, but as long as your friend shows true sorrow and compassion hopefully your other friend wont become too angry with her, and her anger will fade. She cant stay made at her forever, it was an honest accident that could have happened to anyone that week, it just happened to her. Best regards to both of your friends
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
28 Apr 07
All i can say is be honest, you don't want to lie coz they usually backfire anyway so if the person responsible owns up to what happened then it will make things easier for both parties. Perhaps the friend could get a replacement pup, i know it's not the same thing but it is a showing of guilt & i'm sure the friend would appreciate the thought. It's a hard one though, i would be in the sme situation, not knowing exactly what to say but in the end, if this peron really is a friend, she will find it in her heart to forgive.
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
im sorry for the puppy. it is hard to tell the truth but it is also important that you do. it will surely hurt your friend's feeling specially that puppy meant so much because its a gift from her dad. you should sincerely apologize and explain how this things have happened. somehow your friend will understand that it happened accidentally and you did not do it on purpose. it may take sometime for her to accept your apology but the fact that you told her the truth and sincerely ask for her apology will lessen the burden that youre carrying.
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
30 Apr 07
That is going to be a hard one. She did what she could to try to make it right. She took him to the vet and tried what she could. Her friend is going to be upset but should understand. It may take a while to get over, but I think she will come around.
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• Malaysia
28 Apr 07
just tell the truth.. and explain to her that you did it not on purpose... tell her that you'll buy another one..and you're really sorry that you accidently killed her pet..it's better for you to tell the truth.. than later she found out the truth that you've been lying to her.. then she will ignore you forever.. don't you think that's even worse? .. i think it's better to bury the pet first.. you don't want to keep the corpse for days right? i know it's really difficult. .and it's a dilemma whether to tell the truth or not... but.. to be frank with you.. telling the truth is always much better than lying... just apologize as you didn't want it to happen that way too..
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@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
28 Apr 07
call them on the phone and tell them.
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@lisado (1230)
• United States
2 May 07
Oh no!! How sad! If I were your friend I would tell the truth, and she will want to do it before the friend gets home. You don't want to ruin her vacation, but it would be best if she knew before she got home so that she is prepared for an empty house. She might be upset at first, but it was an accident. Your friend took the pup to the vet and tried to get it help. She did everything she could. Good luck to your friend! I can't imagine how hurt she is right now knowing that she not only hurt the pup but how much it meant to your other friend.
@xcjune (162)
• China
1 May 07
It is best to tell her friend the truth and apologize sincerely after they back.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
1 May 07
If she is a real friend she will understand that what happened was an accident. It is best if your friend tells the truth about what happened as that would free her from her burden, she never meant to killy the pup. In the first place the owner of the puppy should be greatful enough that her friend agreed to watch over her puppy.