Should you date more then one person at a time?
By mikeyr6000le
@mikeyr6000le (2123)
United States
April 28, 2007 9:05pm CST
I know some people say it's OK to date more then one person at a time. I even had one persone arguee it's more responsiable and mature to do that. The argument wass omething along the lines of wasting time on one person then brushing off another then the first relationship doesn't work and you've lost the second or third person. That person was at least honest with the others involved and said their were others.
I myself think it is very irrisponsiable to do this and even inmature. I feel you said only date one person at a time. If things don't go well with them then if the other person is still around thne go for it. If they are not then maybe she will be more happy.
What do you think? Please give explainations if possiable.
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@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
29 Apr 07
The word 'dating' can mean different things to different people. To some people, this merely means going out and to others, it can be something more serious.
I think it's ok to go out with many different people at the same time. Because this is merely just socializing. One gets to know more people and also in the process, one gets to know more about oneself.
From these casual dating, one may eventually find someone whom one wants to get to know better, that's when one progresses from casual dating to serious dating.
So, when it comes to serious dating, as in if one has decided to date a person seriously after meeting various other people, then it would not be a good idea to be seeing more than one person.
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@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
29 Apr 07
He brought up that point about casual dating. Just hangn out witht hem and nothing serious. I brought up the point of what if the two or more women wanted to date exclusivly with you at the same time. Then someone is going to get hurt.
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@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
30 Apr 07
Ok, supposing a lady and I both wish to date the same guy exclusively. At this point, this guy should be mature and responsible enough to make a decision between us and if he decides on the other lady, well, I would appreciate the guy's honesty.
Granted, I'd be disappointed for a short while. But hey, life still goes on. Also, even if I knew the outcome in advance, I'd still do the same and go out with him. this is because it gives me the opportunity to learn something about people and about myself.
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@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
30 Apr 07
By the way, please excuse me for missing your point earlier. :)
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
29 Apr 07
Hello,mikeyr6000, I think it is better for a person not to date more than one person at the same time,it is hard to have enough time for both parties,one of them may have been brushed off and it is not fair for both parties,and you have to hide everything in front of both parties which is not a good thing.
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@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
29 Apr 07
that's kind of my feelings too. So far it looks like we got 50/50 on this one. Thanks for the comment.
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
1 May 07
I do not think it is a good idea to date alot of people at once. It is alot of work and you have to be very careful not to get anything disease wise from each of them.
@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
2 May 07
Disease is always something to think about no matter what. Yes it can be alot of work but too. Thanks for the comment.
