I need to stop... :-(
By Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
United States
April 29, 2007 1:20am CST
I need to stop cussing. I cuss like a sailor sometimes, it's disgusting! I am so used to doing it that I don't even notice...until I see 'that' look on someone's face. Isn't that horrible? I mean, I sure I think I cuss more than what I really do, but I'm aware that some times one slips out when I don't mean for it to. I said sh*t the other day when I dropped something and guess who looked at me...My Daughter! She was like OHHHH a new word! lol She didn't say it, but I'm sure she will if I don't stop.
Then (I tend to cuss alot when I'm not around kiddies) I was talking to the neighbor and I cussed like 3 sentences in a row. I have a REALLY bad habit of this! I don't even mean to do it! What the heck is wrong with me? When did this start? How long have I been like this? Lol!!
Any tips to help me NOT cuss so much? Like little tricks...because I tell myself that I'm not going to cuss, but then I end up doing it anyways, but it's not intentional...ugh, so aggervating....Any tips would be appreciated!
~Have a great 'curse free' day! :-)
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19 responses
@angela2006 (1845)
• China
29 Apr 07
you can let your husband to help you,anybody else can be,as long as he accompabies you most of the time.if only you cuss one time,then he will punish you,for example,drop one of your favorate vase or something else,then you can be careful not to cuss again.I do not know if it can help you.maybe on the beginning,it can waste you some money,but I think through you can remember if you do not change your habit,you will lose more,then you may give up that dad habit.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I'd probably ask him "What the f**k did you do that for?" lmao.
Ok, that was just a joke! Sorry, it was a bad one...
You know Angela, I think your idea is a good one! Because I think I would be a LOT more careful with my words if I knew that he was going to break one of my things! Thank you! :-)
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
3 May 07
Well very good. I have faith in you that you will stop cursing.
@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I cuss alot too. I do find it really easy not to cuss around people I don't know or in situations where I know I shouldn't. I used to work in customer service so it is pretty easy for me to turn it on and off. I would think if you pretended you were talking to a customer, your grandma, or maybe even a priest it might help you to control your language. This is the only idea I could think of. I hope that this will help you out hon! Good Luck!
@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
30 Apr 07
I cuss when I'm not around kids to but not that badly... just if I'm upset alot
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
30 Apr 07
i am the same way as you. it is hard to stop. one realization that i came to was when my 2 yr old ran down the hall way screaming "son of a bitc*". that just made me realize that i needed to stop. my 4 yr old now will tell me when i say something bad that he has to smack my face. and he does, very lightly, but he does. good luck. i need to be right along with you.
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@passionsfruit (9)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
When I was younger, those who cuss from where I come from sound cool, but since we're kids, we get in a lot of trouble when grown-ups hear us. Eventually, the "bad" side of it started to sink in and it sounded cheap and unsophisticated when young women curse in our language. So what I did was replace them with more familiar and wholesome words that sounded a bit similar, and it worked for me. Sometimes I even just end up mumbling syllables just to get by a cuss-worthy experience. lol.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Apr 07
You need to control how you speak for a start lol
Listen to yourself when you talk, talk a bit slower and get your Brain working before talking lol
I have always been told that Cursing is a way of expressing Emotions lol
I do sometimes Curse when I am really mad but there was a time I was really bad and I normally do not curse
It was when I was going through a Stressful time and the way I controlled it is how I have told you above lol
So good luck Girl
@alexdiazgranados (678)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I'm not sure how, exactly, to advise you on the topic of swearing, but maybe you should try and think about what how you express yourself says about your personality. Have you always used swear words in casual conversation? Or did you start cursing like a sailor at a specific point in time (junior/senior high school, college, marriage). Did you start cursing because your parents did it in front of you? Or did you start because friends found it amusing when you did it?
Anyway, the thing is, just think about what example you are setting for your little one when you accidentally swear in front of her, but especially try to think about what people will think of you when you cuss in casual conversation.
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@jerryn (819)
• United States
29 Apr 07
You could penalize yourself by putting a dollar in a jar everytime you cuss. With the money saved, you could reward yourself when you've accomplish your goal to stop cussing. I also suggest asking the Lord to help you stop the unwanted habit.
@FloatingGum (346)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I broke the habit when I put a jar up and we had to pay a quarter every time we cursed. It stopped me pretty fast, let me tell you, although between the four adults in the house at the time we had enough for a pizza dinner after a week. After that, though, it slowed down and took a lot longer. If you penalize yourself with something like that you will break the habit. Even now and then I still slip, but it's nowhere near as bad.
Good luck!
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@dianek93 (16)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I think using alternate words should help. That's what I started doing when my amount of cursing was uncomfortable for me. I really don't like cursing, but sometimes that's the closest word I can find for the feeling I am trying to express and it just pops out.
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@aso123 (27)
• Nigeria
29 Apr 07
Your problem is half solved because you have discovered for yourself. My advise are:
1. Take time before response to any talk, even or what have you. That is don't react spontaneously.
2. Before doing anything, ask yourself these questions:
i) Is it fear?
ii)Can I accept it if it is done onto me?
and finally, repeat this sentence 10 times is the morning and night before going to bed: "I will not do anything that will hut people"
@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
29 Apr 07
When my daughter was 2 she sat beside my fett and was mumbling. When i realized she was saying, " Sh#it, Sh#t, Sh#t," over and over in a sing song way. I realized that I had to stop cussing in front of her at all costs. Now if I do say a cuss word, I am very upset and people notice it immediately, because they have probably never heard me say such things.
I use to cuss like a sailor. In fact I was called down for it where I worked. We all cussed openly, but I guess I was the worst one. I just put it in y head that I had to stop, and did. Now believe me it was hard to do at first, but now I feel like I have committed a unforgivable sin if I even say sh#t or @ss.
You have to put your whole mind and heart into and hearing my 2 yr old saying those words was enough for me to stop.
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@Irishflame1 (57)
• Japan
29 Apr 07
I bet when you were dating you didn't cuss so much.Men hate it!It's OK if they do it though...LOL!
@momokoseiya (453)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I had a huge cussing problem before my baby came along. Then I had to condition myself not to cuss. At first, I had to completely think out what I was going to say , and then say it. Cursing turns into a habit after a while, and you don't even realize you're doing it. The key to overcoming it is to be conscious of what you say. After a while, it will fade from your vocabulary and you won't even have to think about it.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Well personally, I use Jack instead of Jack@ss, most people know what I mean, and if they don't good for me. I try and use frig or frick for the f word. I know I cussed alot. I work with the police...... shocker !! I try to say caca for sh@t, and so on. Just try and think like if you were writing in a forum, what words would you use here to get your point across instead of the curse word? I try to use Biotch instead of the other, it may not be a great word, but it's better than the alternative. Good luck and let me know if you come up with something I can use too..lol.
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@candy79 (45)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I hear ya girl! I was just the same way. I guess for me I just pretend that I am in an interview or talking to my Grandma. Or just take one cuss word at a time and replace it with a different word. Don't try to go cold turkey, you will just be disappointed. Good luck!!
