April 30, 2007 1:12am CST
When we face certain problems in our life... Or something bad happens to us or dear ones around us... We tend to feel sad, deppress, down... And wise men advice that we stay calm and be positive. Everything will be okay.. But i have the experience where I try to be positive, and I do. But its melt away easily. I can't stay positive even I try harder. There is always "What if...OH!Gush it's all my fault!!! I should do like this not that..." I will start blaming my self, worst blames other people. What is the secret of staying positive? How did you oevrcome the negative thoughts?
1 May 07
Most predictions are connected with the auto-suggestion. You must teach your mind how to control the negative emotions and thoughts and to transform them. There are many techniques of it. Some work, other-no.Just try to find this one what is more suitable for you personally. And dont discourage very quickly...the mind is lazy, most of theese negative stereotypes are deeply rooted in our conciousness and we need a constant work with this. Good luck:-)
30 Apr 07
I have to agree it is very hard to stay positive when bad things happen to us, or worse, the people we love. I am actually the full time carer for my wife, who suffers from major depression, so I do often have the ongoing battle of keeping both her and myself positive. One thing I always try to tell her is that no matter how bad things may seem at any particular moment, things do improve. Now I also know that telling someone that things are going to be ok in the future, doesn't mean a lot at the time. My wife and I have been together for 8 yrs, and have been through so many tough times, but we keep on bouncing back. As to 'what ifs', most of the energy used thinking about what may happen, is just a waste of energy, because most times, it doesn't. I'm sorry if none of this really helps, just try to focus on where you really want to be, and think of the things that really make you happy.
30 Apr 07
Hey you know what...You did help me..Your comment just help me to boost my motivation.. It's amazing how both of you manage to handle your situations..You truly are the back-bone for your wife..She's lucky..It's a lot more easy handling things, having a partners/someone to share with then handling it on your own..Don't you think? Thanks for the comment.. I will always try to be positive.. peace :)