If you have always ignored by your friends,do you feel sad, or let it go

@tyuepsc (189)
China
April 30, 2007 5:53am CST
I feel i am always ignored by my friends because i am not excellent enough to attract the attention. I think the feeling really bad. what should i do, breaking up the friendship with them or just let it be?
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8 responses
@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
You are most probably young and had not yet learned of the intricacies and mazes in this thing called friendship. I also felt that same way before but now after many years, I just shrugged my shoulders and thought that maybe those so-called friends are not meant for me. The bottom line here is that they are not loss to you but rather that they lose you as a friend. We should not have to fret at all times over these type of friends. Believe me, I had been there before and had experienced it all the highs and lows of friendship. While we should treasure them we could not force them to treasure us they way they do.
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
30 Apr 07
Yeah, thanks you, tomibiz, you really help me a lot.Sometimes I tried my best to show kindess and sincerity to them,and they just give me no response at all.Maybe I pay much attention to the way they treat me, and how they look at me, losing myself and ignoring how i feels in the relationship, am i happy, are they really good friends worhty of trust.Next time, I will becoming active and taking care of myself.
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
30 Apr 07
Yeah, thanks you, tomibiz, you really help me a lot.Sometimes I tried my best to show kindess and sincerity to them,and they just give me no response at all.Maybe I pay much attention to the way they treat me, and how they look at me, losing myself and ignoring how i feels in the relationship, am i happy, are they really good friends worhty of trust.Next time, I will becoming active and taking care of myself.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
30 Apr 07
don't feel sad tyuepsc. i don't think they are your friends. how can they be? true friends never do that, they accept us no matter what, they accept us with our discrepancies. first and foremost increase your selfesteem, you gotta be strong and motivated. look at your strong points and work on your drawbacks. be confident ibn everything you do. now, as for your friends, you don't have to tell them off instead ignore them and see what they do. friends will come to you and you donot go out pleasing. good luck!
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
30 Apr 07
yeah, I am really not confident enough, so sometimes i often do something to please my friends and hope they may let me belong to their social circle. But the more i do things pleasing them, the more they ignoring me. I really hate myself as a dog begging his master giving some food to him.The point is not my friend, I understand the crucial issues here is i am lost myself, my self-esteem. As what you said, mimpi, 'look at your strong points and work on your drawbacks. be confident ibn everything you do' Thank you, I really like this phrase.I'll try despite it's hard for me.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
2 May 07
good luck friend. you wont lose anything by not having them as your friend, its them who gonna miss a great friend in you. God bless.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
30 Apr 07
Well, if they ignore you then maybe they are not your true friends to begin with. talk to them about your feelings - tell them you feel ignored. if they truly value you then they will make certain to not let you feel that way. otherwise you are better without such friends.
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
30 Apr 07
Thank you for your advice, I will consider whether they are true friends or not,maybe they just want to use me. I will leave them and find some new friends really taking care of me.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
3 May 07
Thank you for the BR
@auntyann (16)
30 Apr 07
True friends would not treat you this way, a true friend will accept you no matter what! You should ignore these people and just be friends with people who like you for yourself.
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
30 Apr 07
Thank your for your encourgement, now I really need someone to say some kind words to me.
@munhozmib (3852)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
30 Apr 07
I don't care if my friends start to ignore me. I don't need this kind of friends to live. My real friends are those who will never abandon me, specially my family. Also, I like to be lonely sometimes. It's not that bad.
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
30 Apr 07
Yeah, if my friends couldn't respect me and be sincere to me,I would rather don't have such friendship which just let me feel more down and disconfident:)
@yanjiaren (9050)
14 May 07
I think if you are friends, you have to be honest and open with your feelings. Tell them in a nice way that you feel rejected and neglected. If they are your true friends they will understand and rectify their mistake, if they are fake friends, then they will not respond to your plea. I would also look for new friends and do not thin k so low of yourself, remember that no one on this earth is perfect. We want to become more perfect but that is not a reason not to be liked by any one.
• Malaysia
2 May 07
of course i would feel sad..but as sad as i'd be, i'll always make a point to try my best to be there for my friends whenever they need me, regardless whether they have ignored me or not..
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
You must respect yourself and choose better friends. People who will treat you normally and will not show to u ignorance and supremacy.