1 May 07
logically one can say that if one has hurt someone then he should not love the other guy. but love is something to which we don't look at logically. love is a philosophical thing which one cannot control. it is a passion for something or somebody. we don't love somebody for our benefits. if we look at that side of a person ten it is not love. rather it is our thought of achieving those things by the means of that person.love is something that happens to one on its one.
3 May 07
have you ever heard love without pain? i always told that love is suffering, they say you never know the meaning of love unless you we're hurt. in every relationship there are many sacrifices you need to do, may tears to flow, there's a lot of things when you're inlove. its like you and me against the world. its kinda hard but becoz you're inlove you learn that no matter how hard it is, you keep on going. its the mystery of life and love..all of us keep asking why should i love the person who hurts me more? and why that person makes me happy also. you see that two love and hate collide. its a matter of acceptance and taking risk. love is something you have to learned, its joys and sadness. just go along, if love happened to knock on your door then be glad becoz you know how to love.
1 May 07
hi friend , nice discussion and difficult , friend there is not any person can be tell about the love because love is such a think which can be dig and can find more , so my friend if somebody hearts me then i love her or not it"s depend on the situation and the realtion of such person with me . for example suppose my son is hearts me then i am always love him but if some body hearts me which i don"t that person then i am kill that person . so friens it all depend on the situation and relation of the two persons . bye
1 May 07
Kathy u got a lovely name. well i presume u were hurt by ur lover and u dont know what to do. Well i am experienced about this. Well it all depends upon the type of situation or reaction that has hurt you. However if you have expressed your getting hurt and he has not appologised from his heart then he is solely to be blamed. I would say he probably never loved you or didnt understand you well. Well if he never loves u and yet wants to be with u i think u must not love him or trust him. He is sure to take advantage over you. I hope that everything would b fine and u would get ur love.
6 May 07
in the first place,i think, the person cannot hurt you if you don't love him. when you started to love them, when you gave them your heart, you gave them permission and every right to do anything with it,including hurting you. i strongly believe that only people that we love has the tendency to hurt us. they scare us so much, they can hurt so much because we love them so much that we are afraid to lose them. that sometimes, we prefer not to get near them or close to them maybe that way it would hurt less because they won't have the chance to flourish the feelings we have for them
5 May 07
Possible, but after several times that one is hurt, the love would soon fade out. I have experienced it in a relationship; however, after several hurts, it is difficult to hold on to such feeling 'coz you realize that it is not worth the pain. It may be difficult at first, but when one gets used to being hurt, it is a lot easier to let go the one you love.