A person without goal is like a ship without destination.

@lkbooi (16070)
Malaysia
May 2, 2007 4:42am CST
Two days ago I met an old friend when I got up a bus for home. I sat down by her side. After making a few conventional remarks she told me sadly that her elder son who is a 30 years old engineer had lost his normal course in life. Since his girl friend left him 6 months ago, other than going to his office for his daily routine. The rest of the time he locked himself in the room playing computer games. Before that he was a happy-go-lucky guy and took good care for his pet dog. I felt sad after hearing her story but I don’t know what to do. I suggested her to persuade him to consult a psychiatriest for help or ask his close friends to visit him frequently, try to take him to social function where he can make new friends. I hope he will forget his x girl friend very soon and found his new goal. Could anyone kindly give any good idea to help her to put her son in the right course again.
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@randy88 (683)
• Indonesia
2 May 07
This discussion makes me rember with myself when I was on school Maybe I have few friends and when on the break time,I don't know what should I do I like go crazy busy with myself
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
2 May 07
It’s nice to have few good friends to support you spiritually and keep yourself busy with time during such a difficult period. Time will pass and everything will become normal later on.
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@yanstill (1490)
• China
7 May 07
he is in depression for more than 6 months?i am sorry to hear that.for most men,i think,they won't be sad for so long,and they will use work to forget their exgirl,but this seems useless to your friend's son.maybe find a new love will be better,the best way to forget someone is to let another in,but i think he still feels hurt and no one can go into his heart,go to psychologist is useful for him now,as you said,we have to let him gain his normal life first.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
8 May 07
A man once he was jilted he may not forget his exgirl for life. One of the cases was my former art teacher whose exgirl was a writer who jilted him and he remained single for the rest of his life. He was quite a famous artist and he might have his own ideology and philosophy for being single. For present moment I do hope that my friend’s son will put the depressed memory aside and try to get to his normal course. Yeah, your suggestion to get the replacement of love is workable to some extent for certain people. Nowadays it seems that more and more men are jilted by women lol.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
10 May 07
But love is blind(aiqing shi mangmu de lol), normally a person who falls in love can't be as sensible as what we might have thought.
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@yanstill (1490)
• China
8 May 07
yes,but,women are easily hurt by men as well.:) anyway,we should move on and leave the past behind us,sometimes some people do not deserve to be loved,lol,so why we keep thinking of them?
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• Malaysia
12 May 07
It's not so easy to solve your friend's son problem. First,you have to find out how are their relationship among son and mother? Second, why his x girlfriend left him? Things occured have their causes. Since I believed in my religion, all happenings have their ??(cause and feeedback),or maybe it is one's karma?!I will solve the problem by chanting "NAMYOHORENGEKYO"and in my prayer I will appologize to my GOHONZON that I am wrong and have to realize my wrong deeds!Chants more to reduce my karma!Do your friend has any belief?If so, pray and apppologise may help.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
12 May 07
Thanks for suggesting the religious means for helping the sufferer concerned. I do believe that religious believing could enhance the spirit and confidence of a victim in general.
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