what would you do... doubting things

The first person you need to talk to is your husband and find out what's going on. It may be just a mistake on this woman's part, who may be just a little crazy or drunk, or both so don't let your mind go there yet. The other thing you can do is check the cell phone bill online. This will list all calls and you can see if there are any strange phone numbers on there that you don't recognize. The last thing you should do is call this woman back. Undoubtedly, she will just lie to cover herself anyway.

wow, have you asked your hubbie who this person is that keeps calling? find out her name and ask him if he knows her. i would feel sick too if it was me.

I would definately go to the bottom of this. I have had this happened to me in a previous relation and it turned out to be exactly what I thought. the fact that she is not answering your texts and so on is a sign that something is wrong. First talk to your husband and see what he has to say about it, otherwise try to get hold of her again.

Oh I feel your pain, I would be going through the roof right now, I am not a jealous type until something like this happens and then watch out. I would be calling her cell asking her what she knows about your husband and then calling him to find out about her. I would also do a search on the internet to find out who the phone number is registered to. Although I am the first to jump through to the wong conclusion hopefully this is just a miscommunication and hopefully that woman was just looking for Pat as she previously mentioned. But cover your tracks just in case.

Well since you caled the girl back I'm guessing you got her number when she called. Do you still have it? Do you know if it is a home phone or a cell? If you are unsure do what I do, go online and do a reverse phone number lookup. If it is a landline (home phone) you will know right away who it is and where they live. Then you can ask him who she is using her name. I know it sounds shadey but it's YOUR husband and you have the right to know if something is going on. Also, most times the password to the online account is the same as the code for the voicemail. I created the online account for my husbands cell and let him know that I did it, I thought he would get mad but he didn't. I wish you the best and hope for the sake of your marriage that it was a wrong number.

i would pursue an answer, for your own well being. i would ask him. see how he reacts. do it face to face though and not over the phone. then you can see if his facial expression changes or if he looks guilty in any way. good luck.

Ouch....I understand your feelings. Especially since she basically hung up on you...that isn't good. I would first confront your husband and find out who she is? I truly hope that you have just jumped to conclusions...Good luck...

Sorry to hear that you have this to worry about! My policy is keep a log of everything suspicious, you never know when you will need it. You need to confront your husband striaght out and see what he has to say. Don't tell him that you called her and that she hung up on you. Leave him enough rope to hang himself. If he is being honest you should know him well enough to tell. The fact that she hung up on you is questionable in itself. I have always found that in any situation, documentation is the best backup. Good luck!

woman have always a strong instinct and you have to trust on it but to be fair enough not to judge that easily you have to talk to your husband to justify your instinct. In my own thought i will think that wrong call rarely happens. So it means that call is really for your husband and not a mistake. So if you ask your husband about it and he seems angry and defensive will for me i will be worried. But im not you so better get a proof and caught him in the act. I dont know if this is silly thing to do but i know a friend who did this,I would suggest since you know the number of the girl, you text her using another number ,saying its me (name of your husband) this is my new number, we have to talk. I have something to tell you. of course you do that when your husband is in home and not holding his cell. Then after that you will have your doubts clear if she answer back. Goodluck!

It may have just been a wrong number hannah. This happens to my hubby and I all the time. However, if you really are that suspicious you need to have a talk with your hubby in a non threatening manner and let him know you are bothered by this. Is there any other reason he has given you to doubt him? I kinda had a situation similar over the weekend. My hubby and I have been having problems, although I have never thought he would cheat on me, he's just not that kinda guy. But I was gone with the kids over the weekend, and I called him so they could say goodnight. No answer on our home phone. I called his cell and he told me he was listening to music and muxt not have heard it ring. That's when I heard laughter in the background and asked him where he REALLY was. He fessed up right away and said "at the bar, I didn't want ot tell you because I thought you'd be mad." since I was stuck with the kids and he was out having fun. I wasn't mad he was at the bar, I was mad he tried to lie about it. Especially when we are supposed to be working on our relationship. I got home Sunday and he was all huggy and kissy, and our house was clean. He was washing our bed sheets, I didn't say anything because it is not unusual for him to wash bedding, but in the back of my mind I was like "why is he washing sheets?" I spoke to a mutual friend of ours and she told me her and her hubby drove mine home Saturday night because they didn't want him drinking and driving, which told me my suspicions were just silly. I guess my point is hannah when we are having problems in our relationship our mind starts to work overtime. Unless he has some other crazy behavior going on I'd just chalk it up to a wrong number, most people act like idiots when they call the wrong place.

No in my opinion you shouldn't. Don't force your way just to find out what's going on between your husband and the girl. You'll just force them into denial. The best thing to do is hire an investigator. Cost too much? You can ask a friend to do it. Because if they do have something between them, they'll probably be more careful right now and you will never find out.

Hey i konw how u feel. I would feel the same if I were in your shoes I would first talk to my partner, n then take it from there. There is nothing to hide from him. I would not do anything,no checking mobile phone bills, no tracking his calls, nothing. Just talk to him, give him your thoughts clearly about it, n then ask him calmly.Because, honestly spealing, if you snoop behind his back, n act like you were keeping a track of who he calls or speaks to , n if he finds out, he might feel insulted. He might feel you dont trust him, n matters may become worse. So speak to him first, if he says no , he doesn't know her ,then trust him hun.It could be that he seriously doesnt know her, n u r just imagining things.Tske care, n all the best...Don't 4rget to share the outcome with us,,,

Life becomes miserable in a situation like this but there is no escape. If you want to have a happy and a strong home with beautiful children then go through this time, yell at your husband but dont allow the house to break. If you do this you will never ever be happy nor will you children. Be a strong lady and ask your Almighty to tie your home with such strong iron chains that nobody can brake. Make your faith stronger and stronger and ask God's help.

I think that you should confront him not her...That is who your problem should be handled with...Find out if it's a real problem or a misunderstanding before you get too worked up over it. I don't know what kind of history you and your husband have, so I don't know if you should be worried or not..But I will hope the best for you

Oh I feel your pain, I would be going through the roof right now, I am not a jealous type until something like this happens and then watch out. I would be calling her cell asking her what she knows about your husband and then calling him to find out about her. I would also do a search on the internet to find out who the phone number is registered to. Although I am the first to jump through to the wong conclusion hopefully this is just a miscommunication and hopefully that woman was just looking for Pat as she previously mentioned. But cover your tracks just in case.