Can you teach Common Sense?

@34momma (13891)
United States
May 2, 2007 10:59am CST
I have notice in the last 10 years or so that children now are so smart. they know more about computers then we ever will. they are reading at age 2 and 3. I am stunned by this. What really get's me is they have all the books smart, but no Common Sense!!!! Can you teach children common sense? is it something you just have? what is more important, book smarts or common sense are do they go hand and hand?
6 responses
• United States
2 May 07
its funny that you bring this up because I was just conversing with my friend the other day on how my generation and all the ones after me are Weaker Yet wiser... today parents teach their kids all that they feel will benifit them in the future not realizing it clashes with them being a child... you have to grow to know things experience is the best teacher... My mom always said Bought wisdom is beter than told... and common sense can't be taught you have to have instinctivly...
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
2 May 07
you are so right. but i think we as parents take those instincts away from them buy not letting them fend for themselves. i know that i personally have done so. i know that i use to be so worried about not letting them do for themselves that i took that instinct they are born with and put out it's flame. i know growing up it was either do it or it's not getting done, or do it or get your butt whipped. and children know don't have that. i have learned to let me children take care of themselves, and let the figure it out on their own. learn their own lesson, and to stop trying to cover their eyes to the truth.. this way they have to do what feels right to them and not ask someone else what do you think!
• United States
2 May 07
that is so true because my mother was old school... didn't play type of women and she made me feel it all there was no sheltering so I grew up with those instincts...I can see how some parents today try not to be so hard on there kids because they didn't like the way their parents where so hard on them...I don't think that is a bad approach, letting them see for themselfs to me its a great appraoch I only say that because you can tell a child the fire's how but untill they touch it they will never know how hot it really is... but when you look at it there are some really great parents out there but they have things like TV... Radio ...Music... and such which can set them back... kids today are to influenced by the outside world... that sometimes you feel all you have holding them together is prayer...
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
2 May 07
Can I just say Amen to that my sista
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 May 07
Its like you said this will come with experience. But it is sad but many adults like commonn sense or just refuse to use it...Peoplely with their foolishness.. I belive this is a lack up proper parenting, many times its because the parents were not around becaus they were working all day..I think that is part of the job God intended for the parents to provide. I don't think God intended for both parents to to work and leave the children to try and figure things out by themselves. God created animals with commonn sense almost animals can survive at a young age without parents. So God gave us something to do..If a child was born with common sence they would not need parents. Kind of like animals. You have to teach a child not to run in the street or not to touch fire...That is learned common sense. If a grown person/adult touches fire you would say"where is your common sense"?...so yes you have to teach kids common sense..
@34momma (13891)
• United States
2 May 07
yes i guess you are right, there are some things you must learn that are common sense.
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 May 07
Yeah but there are times we say things like "now I know they know better" they do things just because they want to not caring about the outcome.
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• United States
5 May 07
Well my experience common sense is developed over time now granted some people never occur it. It is not something I believe you can teach, now book smarts are very important but without the ability to apply that knowledge to life it will be useless. You need both book smarts and common sense one without the other leaves you open to deception and limits your judgement.
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
5 May 07
now that is what i am talking about. you are so right girl. total package is the key
5 May 07
I think some parents are so intent on having a brainbox as their child they forget to teach them the basic skills they need in life, such as common sense. Parents seem to wrap their kids in cotton wool and refuse for them to experience any knocks or hardship that comes with growing up. I don't mean horrible things but even down to falling out with their friends, parents interfere instead of letting their kids deal with things on their own. A parent at my nursery is murder. His son got accidently scratched by his friend so the father kept the child off, saying he didn't want his son coming to nursery to get scratched. Then he kept him off because he didn't like the school dinners and was having nightmares. We have never forced his child to eat anything he didn't want to. On another occassion he kept him off because he fell and hurt himself one day. Each time the father phones in and expects us to run around him and believe that his son is so distraught he does not want to come back to nursery. What is so funny though is each time he brings his son back, he runs off straightaway and goes and plays with his friends. He loves coming to nursery. We recognise it is the father who just cannot accept that his son is growing up and becoming independent from him. Parents seem to be getting worse. The amount of kids I work with who are smothered by their parents, it must be awful for them. We are our kids teachers who have a responsibility to help them grow into mature adults not a bunch of whimps they seem to be making them.
@34momma (13891)
• United States
5 May 07
you are right about that. i know myself as a parent of three children, i try to make sure that they are aware of every accept of life. i allow them to make there on mistake and pay the price for them. i don't sugar coat my words or my feelings when i deal with them. i love my children, and i know that i am never to old to learn new lesson when it comes to dealing with them. talking to my brother today, has open my eyes to things i was doing and didn't notice. but as i always tell my children, you do better when you know better
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
5 May 07
While I am a firm believer in education and "book learning"....I do not believe that you can "teach" common sense....I do think that we as parent are supposed to teach our children ways to "deal" with the world....like teaching honesty, responsibility, respect for others and independence. Common sense, in my opinion, you have to be born with.
@34momma (13891)
• United States
5 May 07
i think it is more allow them to learn on their own. it is about not sugar coating things for them. you learn common sense from what you are allowed to experince
@magnet (2087)
• United States
2 May 07
Common sense is rare (Ralph Waldo Emerson), therefore, true common sense is uncommon - true common sense is "uncommon sense". Emerson and Einstein believed that common sense is so rare that it is Genius. Clearly, genius is quite uncommon! "Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen." -- Albert Einstein I remember when this one woman told me You have Book sense but no common sense when I was in high school. I use to find that offensive when she told me that, but now I don't. Who can determine if you have sense? I had sense enough to make something out of my life and she is still where she was 15 years ago.
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
3 May 07
I know that's right!! that is the best revenge, just to do well.