Taking care of your parents
By kaleegirl45
@kaleegirl45 (1515)
United States
May 2, 2007 11:43am CST
I had to quit working so that I can take care of my mom. I enjoy being home. I beleive that when your parents are older and thety can't take care of themselves, as their children we should help them out. If they are too sick to care for than by all means get help and it's sad to say to take them to a home for them. I would hate to do that to my mom, but if the time comes when she is so sick that I can't care for her I think (not sure) that I would ask for help.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
2 May 07
Taking care of parents is a kindness, but if there is no one else to help you may get burned out, as it is a big job. I would recommend that you get some one to share such a big responsibility, as well you need to have a life of your own., And when it becomes to much is often to late to call on others as it is seen as you have done a great job up until then so you can just carry on. So I would start off with asking for help even if it is just for a few hours a week, Remember this could go on for years. unless your mom is terminal. and that will be a very difficult thing to have to face yourself and help her as well.
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@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
2 May 07
Hi
I understand it's a big responsibility, but neither my sister or brother don't want 1. because she works and has to take care of her family, and with him, I don't know what his excuse is. I like to get away on weekends, but sometimes it's not possible. And this drives me to drink, (lol just kidding) like this weekend we're taking off to Laughlin, and next weekend she going to see her brother. So I have 2 weekends off. I don't mind taking care of her. I hope that when I am her age that my daughter will do the same for me.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
2 May 07
Well done girl I admire your courage, and with the experience you will have you may find that you would prefer not to have a child of yours tied up, It is A very difficult thing you have taken on and I know you are aware of that it is just that care givers are renowned for burn out, and I would hate to see that happen to you.
Robin
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
3 May 07
I admire you for taking care of your old folk. I have a belief that when you take care of your old folks, you will be blessed a hundredfold. . We have experienced having difficulty when my father got sick and had to be confined at a hospital. We were not only physically exhausted, but financially as well. Since there were only the 3 of us, it was really difficult taking turns in taking care of him at the hospital. The same happened with my sick mother.. .But my insight is that we were able to at least take good care of both of them before they finally left us. We have that responsibility of taking care of our parents. If we don't who will?
@hollowheart (1572)
• India
3 May 07
Hi Kallee, i understand and really appreciate the sacrifices u did in your life to take care of ur parents. Probably i would have to do the same some day. I am totally against sending oparents to an old age home. It was wrong on ur brother and sister to have neglected them. But u have done a great job. i am sure all would support you for this.
Feel free to share ur problems with me. I will try my best to help u.
