Is this wrong???

India
May 2, 2007 4:53pm CST
Having a serious relationship and not telling our parents about it because they may not accept it? I have been in such a relation for last 1 yr and i feel guilty for this. I feel bad for my parents as well as her parents.....
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6 responses
2 May 07
I think you should be feeling bad for your partner as well because obviously you either don't love her enough to stand up to your parents or you would rather have your parents approval as opposed to your parents. As much as it can pain your parents that you have met someone they just have to deal with it. If my partner refused to tell our parents that we were an item then I would be very offended. Either way there is clearly a lack of respect somewhere and I don't know how your parents could ever take you seriously if you can not admit to this in the beginning.
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• India
2 May 07
Actually there is nothing as such. We are deeply into this relationship but we do not think that this is the right time to tell this to them. Thats the reason I can't speak this out to them. But somewhere somehow my heart says I am wrong by hiding this from them....
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• India
2 May 07
Thank You...........
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• Philippines
3 May 07
well then, vishnu, go ahead now and tell your parents about the relationship. after all, you have already said that the relationship has now attained a degree of being serious. yes, it is right to say that, to do this to your parents now is a sign of respect for them.
• Philippines
3 May 07
you should tell your parents. they deserve to know what is going on with you...as to what is going on with your life. they are supposed to be a part of your life for always. share with them your joys, your pains and your plans in life. it is best this way. do not be afraid that they will disapprove of it. explain to them why you are holding on to this girl until they can understand.
• India
3 May 07
You r absolutely right trinidadvelasco.... Thank You...
• Philippines
3 May 07
i cannot say if its right or wrong but for me, if i love my man..am gonna tell the entire world that he is my boyfriend. you should tell your parents about your relationship. there's nothing wrong in falling in love. if two both are both in love with one another so much, you should be proud to let your parents know about it..not unless there's a big/deep reason behind why you can't tell them...i think that's another story. but there's no deep reason...you should both tell your parents about relationship. be proud of it and of each other and you'll see you are going to be much happier. takecare and goodluck
• India
3 May 07
Yes.... almost the whole world knows about our relationship except our parents...... Actually speaking, there is a deep reason behind it. Thanks to all of you who have responded. All of you have given me a very good answers. Thanks Once again.....
• Philippines
3 May 07
If you feel guilty and bad about it.. then yes, it is wrong. You should tell them. There are a lot to things why we hide certain truth from people, even to our family, it is normal not to say everything and most of the time you do not feel bad about it. You know what i mean? But in your case as you said you feel guilty, then it is wrong and you know it that is why you feel that way. How can you be happy if your feeling guilty? For your own good you should tell them. I don't know why they would not accept the relationship but you just have to live the idea that you can't have the cake and eat it too. If you tell your parents and as you predicted they don't approve the relationship, you either choose to continue the realtionship and live with the fact that your parents don't like it or you side with your family and live with the fact that you need to let her go. You can't have both by lying. You need to be responsible for your actions and decisions. Besides you can't hide it forever, sooner or later they will know, so it is much better if you tell them. Anyway.. that is just my opinion..
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@castleghost (1304)
• United States
3 May 07
If you both feel deeply about one another then you should be able to tell your parents. While they might not approve of your relationship you should show them how commited you are to one another. What is it that makes you assume that they wouldn't approve of the relationship? There matbe a way to work around it.
@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
2 May 07
Myself I usually don't tell my parents till the moment I reach like a month or 4~6 of being together, basically when it becomes a bit more serious. If I'd had to introduce all my girls to my parents it could at some periods been quite a lot, even if it lasts like 3 months or so it can be far from serious in example.
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• India
2 May 07
Hm... here i am talking about a serious relation.. flirting is different story... Thanks dude.....
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