why do husband and wife share a bed?

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
May 3, 2007 3:16pm CST
Have you ever wonder why each married couple will want to share a bed? Why cant they sleep in a separate bed? When I was just married, I slept in the same room and bed with my husband. But after having my babies and his snoring affect my sleep, I moved to another room where I can sleep better. I feel by not sharing the same bed give me quality sleep that I much sought after. Do you think it is really necessary to share a bed with your wife/husband? What is the reason?
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@iszo07 (473)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
They got to, I guess. I believe husband and wife should share a bed as a symbol of marriage. A symbol that they love each other. In certain cases, just like your snoring husband, the choice maybe not very much. But still, I guess your husband can go to the clinic or something to cure the problem. Just my opinion :)
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
I might just get my husband to see a doctor. Thanks you.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
4 May 07
I can't seperate from my bf when I go to bed. His smell can let me have a sound sleep. But I dont think a couple must share a bed, if he/she affects your sleep. Good sleep,good life. If someone affect my sleep, I will be very angry and sometimes I will hit him/her. I have lots of things to do in the day, when I get home I only want to have a sound sleep. I will be in bad mood in the day if I dont have a good sleep. People often say that if you don't share with your parter in a bed for a long time, your marriage will be in trouble. So I hope you can share a bed with your partner in the weekends. Good luck.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
I agree with you that sleeping alone can affect the relationship. It a matter of understanding and arrangement to keep the fire from burning out.
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• India
4 May 07
nice observation friend,but i want to you to make you suggest that one thing you noticed or not, when u married to a stranger ,he slept with you because he took care for you, he understands that you are now his responsibilities and he is always near you so that you feel protected.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
You are right, my friend. But does his responsibilities cover a good night sleep for his partner? Having a sleepless night everyday throughout your life is not healthy. So, if sleeping together means less sleep, is it his responsibility to make sure that she gets enough sleep so it wont effect her health?
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
It is a matter of preference. Since my children are grown up and staying on their own I have 3 empty rooms in the house and I will hope from one room to another to sleep. Besides I can't tolerate sleeping with my husband when he is drunk. There is no big deal sleeping seperately as long as both are comfortable with the arrangement. Don't you like sleeping in a big bed all byyourself with no disturbances? No midnight wake up call!
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
I think thought we are married, it does not we have to sleep together. Sometimes we do need some space alone and for you, you are lucky where you can hop from one room to the other.
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• Philippines
3 May 07
whew, what a nice observation, actually same here when we first got married with my wife not only that we shared same bed, we also share same plate, and we even hold hands while walking....and kissed each other when we woke-up. As time pass by we, dont share same bed anymore.... we dont share same plate anymore and sometimes we dont hold hands hands while walking....lol...And the worst thing seldom did we kiss in the morning...lol
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
It is quite understood and it is normal for every married couple that after a while they just lost the "spark".
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• United States
3 May 07
I think sharing a bed is a sweet and loving thing, and it brings you closer together. But usually it is up to the couple themselves to decide. To me it just seems to make more sense to share a bed when you are a married couple.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
4 May 07
not necessarily...sometimes sharing a bed can actually drive a couple apart...thats what was happening with my husband and I....he snores horribly, I thrash about in my sleep, he likes to spoon but I cant stand being touched when I'm sleeping so us sharing a bed was a bad thing...
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• United States
3 May 07
It is up to the couple on what they want to do. I sleep in bed with my hubby. He snores loud but I guess I got used to it cause it doesn't bother me too much anymore.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
My husband's snoring is really bad. I couldnt get a good night sleep. So, I decided to sleep in another room.
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• India
4 May 07
No its not neccessary to share bed with ur partner ...if u r having any problems regarding sleep but it is just meant to know each other better as we feel much relaxed at that time and can discuss anything under the sun.....
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@geeta151 (312)
• India
4 May 07
Well,It depends on the couple.When newly married you are alovey dovey couple inseperable at times .As the time flies by you have other priorities in life which you have to give your divided attention.Is geeting good sleep is your pourpose it is up to you as to where you would like to sleep.Sleeping together adds to the feeling of security of your partner being around you.
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
4 May 07
I guess its for the feeling of security... that you have your better half with you...since only during bedtime you can have his whole time with you...since in the morning you have lots of things to do... But if you find it more comfortable... sleeping into the next room... as long as its ok with him then its fine... though it seems very unusual hehehe...
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• United States
3 May 07
I don't really think where you sleep should sum up your relationship. I just think husbands and wifes sleep in the same bed together because it's sort of a sign of comfort and security. You don't just go around sleeping in the same bed with anybody. Ya know? It makes you feel close to them, and it makes you feel secure.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
4 May 07
I shar a bed with my husband because I love him and want to be with him all the time. I love being able to cuddle up to him at night.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
4 May 07
You are so romantic. You must love your husband so much.
• China
5 May 07
In my opnion,sleep alone is comfort in fact, but I prefer to sleep in boyfriend's aim!
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@Smile25 (43)
4 May 07
Marriage is believed to be all about SHARING & CARING!! so you share the bed too!!
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@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
4 May 07
Sharing is caring - kidding! Following the busy life, I think it is up to the couples want to sleep together or separated as long as they are happy the way they choose. For me, we sleep most of the time together. But on some occasions like either he or I were sick, he/I would go to the spare room to sleep so that he/I can have a good night sleep.
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• India
4 May 07
it's upto the couples..if there is not enough space in the bed, they can have seperate beds....
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
4 May 07
I dont think sharing a bed or even a bedroom is necessary at all....I have my own room and my husband has his and it works out much better that way for us....in fact our relationship overall is much better because of it.....I'm not a fan of "tradition" when it comes to life in general but especially when it comes to my marriage and my parenting...As far as i'm concerned one doesnt have to go with tradition at all and in fact IMO sometimes tradition causes more troubles in a marriage then not if that makes sense...
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• Australia
4 May 07
I think at the beginning couples cant get enough of cuddling and stuff and waking up next to each other,but as time goes by I think 1 out of 2 people wouldnt mind a night on their own.When I was with my husband I did it a couple of times a week and really enjoyed it/I would do it with my next partner cause there isnt a law stating we have to give up a heavenly,spread out ,snoreless,not getting kicked in the ribs sleep is there?
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@maddog108 (3441)
• Australia
4 May 07
well i must say its nice to cuddle ect and if you can sleep together i personally prefer it but when it comes down to loud snoreing and lack of sleep i can see your point
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@Trambak (161)
• India
4 May 07
Being married doesnt mean you lose out on your individuality.If sleeping in separate beds gives good physical and mental health, you should go ahead with that.No relationship can sustain if the people involved in it are not happy.
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