How do/would you raise your child? reward or punishment?
18 Jul 07
I think both. You can't raise a child using only reward, because you might end up spoiling the child. There is a proverb that says, "Spare the rod and spoil the child". We can punish the child as long as he/she really has done something bad, but with gentleness and love. We punish the child out of love for the child, it is also for his good. Before each punishment, a good talk between you and the child is important for the child to learn his mistakes and know why you will punish her. And of course, don't forgt to reward the child if he/she has done something good. Be fair. Everyone's entitled to their own way of parenting.
• United States
4 May 07
You can't raise a child on reward alone. That being said, I am not a believer in punishment. Instead, I am a believer in logical consequences. For instance, your child throws their food on the floor, a logical consequence is that they clean up the floor. I think rewards should be used for things that are above and beyond what is a normal family expectation. This is reality, we are not rewarded in life just to make us feel good, we have to earn them. Great topic !