Do women who cheat deserves what they get?

I don't know whether she is a bad mother, she may treat her children well. In essence, she is a very decitful person. I cannot agree with adultery under any circumstances. The deed is very common in the Uk, where I live, but I don't see the point in it. If you are not happy with a partner, it is always better to leave them. My wife and i have been together since we were very young. We both recognised that although we love eachother and want to be together, we cannot guarantee that forever. I vowed that i would never cheat on her. if I ever fell out of love with her or in love with somebody else, I would respect her enough to end our relationship first. You cannot use children as an excuse either. Children would much rather have parents who are separated and happy than together and miserable.

This is a very complicated situation that you are writing about. I do not think that a good mother has to due with the fact that she is having an affair. If i read right, you said that she says that she does not want a divorce because of the children. Maybe they do not know, and she is keeping it as a secret. Anyway she does care and love them and tries to give them what ever they need, doesnt she? It is becoming a problematic situation as we get older, there is always the issue of security and old habits that we have a hard time leaving, like a marriage. Does her husband know? Is the person that she is having a romance with also married, there are alote of answers and questions here that i do not know. I know that if they are married for so long, and not getting an divorce, there is a reason that we do not know, because we do not live with them. But i do hope that everything will turn fine.

i think anyone who cheets in a relationship deserves all that they get and it can never be positive blessed be

I don't think I would want to make a moral judgement on this. All I can say is that your friend will end up the looser in the long run. It's not so much the children, as I gather she kept this affair secret from them. It is the effect this will have her husband when he finds out... and this in the long run will hve detrimental effects on your friend.

Yes, she is still a mother to her kids. Even if, she is not doing the right thing. Just wondering how can she handle that situation for 25 years. If I were her, I will just end up the relationship with my husband. I know my kids will understand me for that instead of committing a sin.

I also have female friends who have illicit affairs. I don't tolerate it but I can feel the burden that they carry. They always have this guilt feeling inside, when they profess affection to their husbands despite being involved with another man. I don't think I can handle it. Suffice it to say that these women have different reasons of their own as to why they get entangled with extra marital affairs. As for me, I just mind my own business because it is not for me to condemn. Peace to all.

I think that this is awful. Of course my ex husband did this to me. i am so glad I figured him out before a lot of years went by. I sometimes miss him but realize staying with him and forgiving him that I could never ever trust him again.

I dont think her being a Mother has anything to do with her personal life. I thinks is selfish and wants the best of both worlds. I think her husband should have left her because clearly they are living a lie and that is not healthy for the kids even grown kids.

I don't think it's anyone's place to judge. I am not condoning affairs, but just because she is in one, doesn't mean she isn't a good mother. I do believe in Karma and I'm sure she is living a very unhappy life, in spite of what it may seem on the outside.

This sounds exactly like the situation I have going on in my own life. My wife has done basically the same thing. When talking about her family she will openly talk about her daughters, but make no mention of me. It is not a good situation. We are still together in the same house for the sake of the girls and for financial reasons. However, I am now living in a life of misery. Not sure how people can be so cruel to somebody they once loved enough to get married, have kids etc...