How to Make Friends with Your Son in the Bloom of Youth

I feel sad too to come across the unhappy story concerning your 15 years old child. It is quite normal to see adolescents to be rebellious at this age. As in the case of lacking interest in doing school assignments I would suggest you to find out whether the assignments were really interesting and meaningful to him or whether he really understood the importance of doing the homework assigned. Reading outline novels could improve languages and playing online games could relax tensions provided that they are not to be too indulgent. You can always let him try on condition that he has finished his work nicely. Kids sometimes tend to be rude to parents for certain reasons which the parents must try find out and solve accordingly. With love and great concern is always the best solution. In my experience of over 20 years with my son I find that to instill the sense of friendship between child and parents is greatly essential. I treated him as my best friend and always shared our thoughts and feelings together. We used to bring him along with us wherever we went like shopping, gathering and vacation ever since he was a small kid. In a friendly manner I found that I could communicate with him easier and could venture into his internal world more readily especially during his adolescence. I understood that excessive care and love of parents could also be burdensome to the kid and I always tried to be more liberal with him and provided him with much freedom. In most cases I gave him counseling instead of commanding. Occasionally concession was given if the child really couldn’t comply with our requirements. Now my son is at his late 20s and having been working out station for many years. He is still asking me for opinions every now and then whenever he comes across any matter he couldn’t solve, just like friend. Dear jisir, my friend. An ambitious parent would always feel depressed if his child doesn’t comply with his expectations. I tentatively presume that you could solve your problem with your experience and wisdom plus the parental love.

It is natural for children at this age to be aggressive, naughty and fun-loving, showing disrespect to elders. But it is only momentary. It is also better to treat them as friends by parents rather than going out to discipline them. Firstly, instill confidence in them that you are always there to help them. Secondly, inculcate some good hobbies and you also participate in it by doing some collection. Take them out when ever you are going out. Treat his friends with curt and respect. Invite his friends like you invite your friends. Find out his interests and try to enrich it with resources both financial and material. Keep asking questions as if you are learning from him rather than asking questions like a teacher. This aspect of big brother role they like it and get involved. Slowly involve them in your work and all these things will go a long way in striking a good habit in the children.

Hi William, This is a universal problem and I think all parents go through this once their child reaches teens. This is a very delicate period and whatever you say ,act or advise gets boring and jittery. The children get as arrogant, rude and illmannered as it gets. And, the parents on their part rebukes, snaps and never try to understand that they are mere kids! I guess, this is what we call generation gap. I think, it's advisable to be in their shoes and talk out with them and give them some relaxation. becoming friends with them it very dificult and I know your wife is doing it all. But this time of age is like that. take it in your stride and keep your cool. Good luck. smiles...

this i sa very critical period for children as well as parents. if they are not guided and supported well, they can fall in bad hands. there are many psychological as well as physical changes at this point of time and tahts why they are vulnarable. Try to befriend with him in the way any 15 yr old will try to. Be at his level, cklear his curiosities at his level. This way he can confide in you and will ask you. Best of luck.

Hi, I hope a better child specialist in counseling can deal this smoothly. I hope prevention is better curing. An argument may give more negative returns. All will come out better. God bless you and all.

Oh I am really for you to have a scuh a problems.I am sorry I wouldn't be such great help since I don't have kids.But I think you need talk to him and tell him what everything your wife sacrifice for him and for all family.He shuld be thankfull for that.I hope it would get better.

In fact you cant prohibit him! He is almost 16. And it`s normally to feel attracted to some prohibited things and books even because of it that the prohibited fruit is sweeter. Try to discus with him more. Friendly.Without to judge or prohibit.Try to understand him, his interests.This will help to make the distance shorter. Good luck:-)

15 Is such a hard age to be they want to do grown up things , they dont want anyone telling them what to do, and it is very hard on the parents. Sometimes we have to get back to there leval and become a kid again as im sure your intrest are different from his.Try to find somethings that you could do together when you are home. I would not allow the rudeness to continue at my home he would loose his internet privelages for that kind actions, nor would I allow him to be reading things on the internet that are not geared to his age. Is he hanging out with a bad group of kids? I know kids his age dont thikits cool to hang out with there mother but maby they could do things together movies,shopping,site seeing or something he enjoys. I wish you all the best as this is a tuff time in a childs life and it makes it tuff on the parents as well.

Getting up to be a friend of your son, You should take interest in all the things what your son likes to do. So you have to understand his needs and serve him likewise. Hope you come up with him and hit the pace what the youth nowadays have adopted. Go for rock music, surfing net and include your son in any forms so that he comes more nearer to you

in my opinion ,you should communicate with your son as much as possible .every child needs the care from their parents . sometimes you should exchange the postion to think ,then you will be your son's good friends .

All kids believe it or not go through this some do it at different times in their lives, but it happens. It will end I promise.