Gay Wedding Invite....

Thank you my friend... I will. It sounds as though you've got it all sorted there, enjoying your bubbly. :-) Cheers!!! Sounds like a nice family weekend. Enjoy the rest. x

Yes, I feel quite honoured to have been asked and so adamantly, at that, Kay. You're so right when you say gay people are great people. I've always found them to be very respectful towards others and loyal and caring friends. I don't have any relatives of this tendency but if I had, I wouldn't love them any the less. They really don't want for much as a gift. One of them is a multi-millionnaire, lol. Just a small token of friendship and support would probably be a nice gift to give. I think that two people, a straight couple, that I know will be there, and another gay guy whom I like a lot, so perhaps I can sit with them and soak up the atmosphere. :-) I do have the feeling though, that there will be no expense spared and it will be rather a "posh" do! lol. Thank you for your response, my friend. I hope your weekend with hubby is going well... so what ARE you doing in here??? lol. Brightest Blessings my friend and thanks for your advice.

The wedding sounds like it will be great, and with no expense spared. My weekend is going great, just spending a couple of hours here while he busy with his and the kids computers. But getting off soon. Actually enjoying a nice bottle of bubbly, and had a great time today watching the kids play their sports. God bless, darkwing, and i am sure to enjoy the rest of the weekend. You enjoy yours too

True... you're right of course. It is best to be yourself and treat them as you would any other couple, I guess. Thank you for your response Mikki and Brightest Blessings.

Awwwwww, you've managed to lift me so high I had to smile Adren. Thank you for your kind words. I'm quite looking forward to it now. Take care my friend and Brightest Blessings for a lovely Bank Holiday weekend in sunny Manchester. :-)

Hehehehe yes watch out lol you never know your Luck when Gabs is about Do you want me to come with you hehehehe

Knowing your powers Gabs, the cake will possibly be flying through the air. lol. Thank you, I will try to be myself. I expect it's just a touch of nerves because it's my first time and like anything else, it'll be ok once I get there. Take care, my dear friend and have a great day! x

Well, yes, actually, because you'll take any eyes off me. lol. They won't be able to avoid watching what you're getting up to! ha ha ha

Ha ha ha... well they haven't asked ME to dress up yet but I don't know about anybody else! Seriously though, I don't think it will come to that, because the Tarts and Vicars Night is soon. ha ha ha. We have some real tarty "straight" guys in the village too... that should be a fun night! I strayed... yes, I guess I'll just have to treat it like any other wedding and hope I don't stand out from the crowd... well not in a derogatory way, anyway. I'm all for being the centre of attention! ha ha ha Thank you for your response, Bizzie, my friend. It's good to see you around a bit more for a while... I suppose you'll be trekking off on your summer breaks soon, in search of our history. Have a great Bank Holiday weekend, sweetie... and thanks. x

Yes I think you're right. Thank you for being so supportive and positive about this. I will go and enjoy it. I'm going to let my hair down and join the rest, regarless! Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings for a great weekend.

Yes I think you're right. Thank you for being so supportive and positive about this. I will go and enjoy it. I'm going to let my hair down and join the rest, regardless! Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings for a great weekend.

Oh, I'm definitely going... I feel quite honoured to have been asked, and I'm certainly not ASHAMED to be there. I was just unaware of whether the ceremony might be a little different, but all these friends on Mylot have put my mind at rest about that. Probably the only thing that might be different are a few of the words spoken, so now I'm more relaxed and really excited about going. I'm going to relax myself and help to make it a day they will remember. Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings.

Yes, they are my friends and yes, they love each other very much, so you're right. They do have a lot, and I mean a lot of gay friends, but there'll probably be a few others there. Thank you for our advice, Magica and Brightest Blessings.

I've already told them I will be going and wouldn't miss it for the world... more than once. So, I will be there at all costs... it's just when I get there, I'm not sure how it goes. Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings.

I won't deliberately act out of place, Kathy. I'm just a little excited and nervous that this will be my first time and I might stand out as feeling apprehensive about the way I act. Gay people make very good and loyal friends I find and these have certainly been good friends to me, so I don't want to hurt them in any way. I'll probably be ok on the day, or once I get to the wedding and find that all this anxiety was unfounded, but I needed to get it off my chest, which seems to have turned out to be a good thing, because all my friends here have been so helpful. Thank you for your response Kathy, and I will try not to let down your faith in me. :-) Brightest Blessings my dear friend. x

Thank you for that, Fallenlost; it's great advice, but you're slightly incorrect in one area... there definitely WILL be a bride. lol. This guy wears a kilt at every opportunity, so I'm sure whatever he wears, he will choose something quite frilly and feminine, but that's part of his charm, because he doesn't try to hide the fact that he's effeminate. :-) Homosexual kissing, I've seen a few times. That comes from having lived in Brighton, which has been dubbed the "Gay Capital", and also parties which have been held in the local pub. That doesn't shock me, because to me, it's a natural thing. I kiss women in greeting, so kissing is just a thing that's done between any two people. Thank you again for your very helpful response and Brightest Blessings.

Your feelings exactly describe mine MLGB, excited and a bit nervous at the same time. I have already accepted, it's just conditioning myself to overcome the nerves to be able to act naturally. Maybe it's that which frightens me. I don't want my nerves to make me stand out in a crowd, so to speak, because it would ruin the day. Oh well... I'll try to take your advice... I know I'll enjoy it as it goes on, so I'll just have to get my lavender and Kalms out, and go for it! lol. I hope you enjoy yours too, my dear friend. Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your response.

Awwwwww, thank you Mummymo. I'm certainly going and I care a lot for these two people. I just felt a little unsure of how the ceremony would be conducted, but I'm sure all you people are right in what you say. I'm going to relax, sip my lavender tea, and go enjoy the day. Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings.

Awwww thank you Kcrysea. Yes, I already feel it's important to them that I'm there, so I accepted readily. I'm just hoping I justify their wish for me to attend. Thank you for your response, and Brightest Blessings.

Thank you for the links Shelagh. I'm not worried about buying a card that's a bit risque. They like that type of thing because it shows I understand their sense of humour. A handfasting is a pagan joining and not for life, if you don't want it to be. You only agree to stay together for a year and a day, or longer if you want to. After a year and a day, you can reverse the ceremony. It's interesting that you attended one of these... care to share? :-) Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings.

Of course, you're right. After all the lovely responses I've had in here, the support and encouragement of all your guys, I'm going to relax and go make it a day they will never forget, as I AM really so happy for my great friends. They've been together a long time... it's only a matter of bonding officially, so to speak. Thank you for your response, and Brightest Blessings for a happy weekend.

What you say is quite true, Feliniti, and I know they'll be very happy. They've been together for a number of years already and the wedding will just confirm their love for one another, and bond them a little more tightly. That is, as you say, all that matters at the end of the day, and that their friends relax and enjoy themselves, so that's just what I'm going to do. It will be a good experience anyway, of that I am sure. Thank you very much for your response and Brightest Blessings for a great Bank Holiday weekend.

Oh, I do value their friendship and they value mine. That's why I would like to know the format... what is generally expected of me, so that I don't ruin their day. I'm probably being paranoid but I really want this to be their best day ever, so I'm being cautious. :-) I don't know about the setting alight of chairs. ha ha ha. These guys are not young and that flamboyant! Thank you for your advice and Brightest Blessings.

Well, for one, I don't need to take Es to have a good time, and for another, the gay community know how I am and I'm not averse to dancing with them, because in the main, they're men, and no problem at all. In fact, they're probably more polite than straight men. That wasn't at all what I was bothered about... I was more bothered about the ceremony itself and whether it was much different to a normal wedding. Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings.

lol when is the wedding? I think you go to it like any other party. New Years '06 i was hit on by a guy and it was really weird I was on E partying at a club and he basically tried to dance with me.. i pushed him away and said told him to f off. Nothing like that has happened since I am not a hater but basically thats not how you ask someone to dance.. I would have said f off anyways, probably more politely if he had be polite. As a straight guy it was weird to have to fend off a guy just to think that you are attracting guys makes you wonder! But its a fact of life that there are gay people and they want to party and dance just like anyone else. I'm sure you will be immune to their advances by the end of the night if that is what you are worried about. lol and i wasn't trying to suggest that gay men are hot! don't take my joke the wrong way lol.. but still i think it wise to be on your toes

Do you think they'll have a bouquet? Maybe you're right but I can't imagine that somehow. I'll stand in front of them and take a pic of them throwing it over their shoulders... that way, I won't have to catch it. lol. Thank you for your response and Brightest Blessings.

I'm happy you caught the humor as I intended it, II2aTee!

Hahaha this made me laugh out loud!

I always do act that way, and I would never put them down for they are my friends and the most respectful and caring people that I could wish to befriend. It's just that first-time things which seem to be different, are always a little scary and I was a little worried about the ceremony. I guess if I sit at the back and keep quiet, all will be well. I shall just smile brightly and enjoy the day. Thank you for your response, and Brightest Blessings.