Are you the person who forgives and forget?

Can you easily forgive? - Forgive and forget?
@heatspine (1141)
Philippines
May 5, 2007 1:42am CST
How easily do you forgive those people who have wronged you? Are you the type of person who can forgive easily? Or you continue to have that grudge for months or even years?
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32 responses
• Philippines
5 May 07
i can say that it is easy to forget, to forget the pain that was caused by the wrongdoing will take a little more time. i hardly have a grudge with anyone. but i must admit that there are so few which withstand the years that has passed.
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
5 May 07
yes i agree trinidadvelasco. i think we are built that way. and the grudge holds depending on the weight of the wrongdoing.
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@Cheryl99 (53)
• China
26 May 07
It really depends on who they are and what they have done! Usually it is easy for me to forgive because of my bad memory.You know sometimes I hate my poor memory,but other times,I find it do me a lot of good,it keeps me from grudge and then live much happier!
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• Philippines
27 May 07
it is always for our benefit that we learn to forgive and to forget the pain. it will only make us bitter if we will not let go of the pain.
• Philippines
27 May 07
it is easy to forgive and to forget the pain that a person has cuased us because of an offense. but we will be crazy to forget the wrong that was done to us. we always say that first hand experience is the best teacher. this only means that we must never forget the experience if we are to learn from it. i therefore say, that, to forgive and forget means that we forgive the person who has done us wrong, and then we forget the pain that was afflicted in us, and we thus learn from the experience so that its recurrence can be avoided in the future.
• Philippines
27 May 07
i am sorry about this second post. i just felt that the first one didn't really show how much i feel about this topic.
@lynboobsy11 (11337)
• Philippines
5 May 07
Yeah I'm the one who can easily forgive but easily to forget the people who did a sin to me. But if it's only mild and doesn't affect to much I will forgive and give him a chance again.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
8 May 07
as the song goes ... "why don't you give me a chance ... " of course, everyone does deserve a second chance.
@sarapooht (271)
• Philippines
5 May 07
Hello Heatspine! I'm a person who forgives easily, if he/she have sinned on me after 10 minutes I will forgive him/her. Actually I don't have anger in my heart. I will not be angry to every person that wrongs me. I easily forget his/her wrong doings on me.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
16 May 07
10 minutes .... wow that's fast ... i also forgive but maybe not as fast as you do :)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
I forgive easily. Even when i'm really angry. It takes me a while to think over my side and another's side during an argument, but in the end I get to clear my head. And so I forgive the person who's wronged me, knowing that I may commit mistakes that same as his too.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
11 Oct 07
I used to be a person like this. I used to forget all wrong doings of friends and all and believed others. But a recent behavious from a so called good friend has changed my notion completely. he took my advantage and behaved so badly with me, that i will never forgive him in my life. May be it has made me to not to trust anyone.
@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
27 May 07
I can get over things pretty easily, if the person realized what they have done to hurt me. I want them to understand so they won't do it again, then I can get over it!! I use to hold onto things ut it just makes you miserable thinking about all the bad/wrong things that have happened to you. It is better to forgive and forget and be happy!!
• United States
23 May 07
I believe that everyone deserves a second chance, but I do not forgive easily when I have been wronged, or a friend has been wronged.
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
28 May 07
I forgive those who have wronged me cos of one thing. Cos if God should forgive us, I don't see any reason why we shouldn't forgive each other. Thanks and have a nice day.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
28 May 07
I try my best to forgive and forget. Sometimes I have carried a grudge for years. It has to be something that was horribly done to me though. I mean it has to be something awful for me not to forgive. It is very difficult to move on if you can't forgive, most often you can't forget, and sometimes that is a good thing because it gives you pause to think about the situation you are in or to make sure you don't do that to someone else.
@r0131n (357)
27 May 07
I normally forgive and give the person another chance or two. As for having a grudge, I will keep away after the 3rd time. Having said this though, I have a friend who wronged me more than a few times but I still am friends with him.
@r0131n (357)
27 May 07
I normally forgive and give the person another chance or two. As for having a grudge, I will keep away after the 3rd time. Having said this though, I have a friend who wronged me more than a few times but I still am friends with him.
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
27 May 07
I have always had a little difficulty with this. To forgive and forget is divine, however it is hard to do. You are never truly healed until you do however. I guess the forgiveness will come first, but I think it takes a Long time, if ever, to forget. cheers,
• Philippines
18 May 07
For me, the forgiveness is depend upon the situation where you involved. If you think, that this kind of arguing is not a big deal or I can say, is not makes your life broken. Why you still need not to forgive the person even they beg for your forgiveness and do all their effort just you forgive them.Sometimes, our decision is based on the person who have mistakes and what mistakes did they does. For me, as long as, they are true to their self, forgiveness is easily. And I'm not the type of person who have angered longer in my heart.
@gigarange (1165)
• United States
18 May 07
I must admit its hard to forgive and forget. Sometimes we say we forgive someone but still we can't forget the pain they caused us. I would say that I don't mend fast. It will take me months and years to heal but I usually say ok, i forgive you and try not to remind myself of the pain. But I don't hate.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
22 May 07
I try to forgive and forget- but it depends on what was done to me- I say hurt me once- I'll forgive-- hurt me twice- forget it- it's not worth it- I get upset at things that are done all around me on a weekly basis- People don't try to be hurtful- sometimes I'm just emotional- so I try to forgive easily.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
15 May 07
I easily forgive... all I need are those three letter words or the one letter word, "I am sorry" or "Sorry" and I must know when someone means them. However, forgeting is not a deliberate act. One cannot decide to forget something, so nobody can claim to forget instantly.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
14 May 07
i can forgive easily, its my talent..but the problem is that once people did something to me, even if i can already forgive them its hard for me to trust that person again.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
18 May 07
Yes, I am easily to forgive someone, but I will not forget what she/he does. The more mistakes she/he make the more I can know her/him. Everyone will make many mistake in her/his life, so it is easily to forgive her/him for me. I have a good friend, we come to the city together. In my country, there is a common saying that people from a same city will treat well with each other when they come to another city together. But in fact, we don't get along well with each other. She often envy other girls especially me, if I have some friends in our college, she will say bad words about me to them. Then my friends gradually become her friends, but at last them know what kind of person I am, they become my friends too, but I can't forget that they can easily leave me just after hearing some bad words only from a person. I don't need such friends.