Fake a happy mood or smile all the time.
By sodapop
@sodapop (977)
United States
May 5, 2007 4:01am CST
Have you learned how to fake being happy even when you are really depressed? I have. Nobody really knows how depressed I really am because I have learned to fake being happy. I don't even know when I started doing this.
4 responses
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
5 May 07
No, I haven't, but I am married to someone who used to do it. I won't say that she has stopped doing it, I just made sure I could pick up the signs that all was not as good as it seemed. My wife has had a deprssive illness since she was 15, and was very good at masking her real feelings. When we got together, I had to learn how to pick the different actions that told me she was not well. We are now at the point that most times she will tell me how she is really feeling. Sure, she can still put on a happy face out in public, but at home there is no point. In the end the only person this action was really hurting was herself. I think it pays to be honest about your feelings, at least that way people know you need a little extra help, and are hopefully willing to do so.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I'm sorry, I see your problem. Are you 'allowed' to see a counsellor at all, or 'don't they know what they are talking about'? I know the attitude of people who don't believe mental illness is real, and it makes me so cross. I had a boss who use to be like that, and then one of her son's got sick. Since then, she had to have a complete turn around. I don't know what I can say to help, knowing that your husband is only adding to your problem with his attitude. I would guess he wouldn't go to see a counsellor with you either. I would be a lot happier if I knew you had someone to talk to about it.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
7 May 07
No, our insurance will only pay for so many visits a year to a therapist. I do have my mom to talk to, but I don't tell her everything because I don't want to worry her. I really don't have anybody to tell everything to; and to make things worse is everybody in this family relies on me to take care of everything. It's so overwhelming sometimes.
@rythm2rain (34)
• India
5 May 07
it's not necessary to fake happiness wen ur deppressed as that makes u more lonely. instead cry as much as u want and let the tears carry away ur deppression as they flow along.or u could even have a heart-to-heart talk with someone close to u so that u can feel light.do anything u can to let that depression out of u but never fake happiness wen u r deppressed.it makes u more bitter abt life and eveyhing around u starts looking miserable....learn to smile for small things like watching a kid play, or by watching cartoons....enjoy more...life's too short for depression
@sirfpriyanka (13)
• India
5 May 07
hey i totally agree with u..i too think that instead of faking happiness we should try to be happy from the depth..we should try to find happiness in small little things..it would help us get over the depression..all the disturbing thoughts should find a way out someway or the other..
@vanthachu (49)
• India
5 May 07
ya buddy i have been doing it for a long time with my college friends who bugg me often .i pretend to smile but really things hurt me to the dept of my heart...finaly i will decide not hurting others is good instead i decide why not to make others happy by smiling instead of showing...my...... depression.......
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Oct 10
Laughter is best medicine to all disease so as the depression. It will through the pressure in mind and lightens it and feel happy.
