Do you stick only to what your heart feels or you use your brain?

i think that when you make a decision.. you stick more to your brain.. you have to think before you make a decision..but when it comes to love.. it's a completely different story.. don't you think so? i think love sometimes have to be stupid.. you can't say that you choose the correct girl because she didn't give you any trouble.. and you think you're making the right decision.. or .. you think you're very smart when you manage to find a rich woman who can support you for the rest of your life.. that's more like being realistic... i think it's possible to love as long as you think it's worthy.. so i prefer to follow my heart when it comes to love =)

This is very good question. I don't know where my instinct located is, but I know for sure that I learn hard way to trust my initial instincts on everything in my life. It never lies....

Yes I agree with you there I know my heart tells me a lot but the Brain also makes sure that the Person is really the Person that you think they are The only thing I will not allow my Brain to rule is when People are against my Love I will stand by my Love as it is not them that are with him but me and I know him better then anyone Fortunately though I do not have that Problem But it is important to walk into a love with open eyes and not blind

Hi, now when it comes to decision making then I have to stop and think what would be the best solution for me when it comes to love, I do agree with you that you must use both not only your heart, as otherwise you could end up with a broken heart. I have never really experienced a broken heart but I can imagine it after seeing some of my friends go through them.

Most of the time, I follow what my brain tells me rather than do what my heart wants. I dunno, maybe I'm just afraid that I might get hurt, afraid of rejections, of being left alone. Why is it so hard to be happy?Why do u have to consider so many things before getting what you want? Why is it that your mind doesn't always favor what your heart wants? And everytime it happens, why do we always end up in a very sad and bitter situation? until now, I still dunno what to follow...

I don't know but there's a lot of people saying that we should use our mind because it is placed above our hearts. I think both of them should be used in making certain decisions.

I usually use my brain in love matters but sometimes the heart has gotten in the way and I have made decisions that were wrong. I think when the heart gets involved you will do things, say things and not care who you hurt. So i try to stick with my brain. I personally think when your heart gets involved you don't think straight. I'm not talking about with your husband but with other things. I know someone who was married and loved her children but another man came along and her heart got involved and she totally forgot her kids, husband and parents and started to do things like lie and sneak around not caring who she hurt. If she had used her brain it would never have happened but her heart got involved and because of that she lost everything that ever meant anything to her. So that's my thought! lol

i always use my brain when i am making hard decisions on any matter that involves my life. i agree with you yes but i am totally the oppisite in this matter

Not only do I listen to my heart but I also listen to my gutt feelings when it comes to love matters. I have been in a very bad marraige and relationship. If I listened to my heart I would still be in the relation ship that I was in and still getting hurt to know end either. Because I listened to my gutt feeling and it told me that he was cheating on me and that I need to get out of this while I can and that is what I did. Because I did now I have found my true long lost love that I should never had let go. So listen to both your heart but also listen to your gutt feeling to and then you deside where to go from thier.

For me when it comes to love you should not only listen to your heart but also use your mind because for me this two also comes together like when loving someone you will habe happy and pain.

i use both brain as well as heart in every matter . and in my opinion it is right and i have got the benefit of using both .........

Sorry I'm one of those people who thinks with heart first then brain.. I know it should be a balance but that's me.. they said it's my curse as well as a gift...

I would prefer to use heart and brain.... God gave us this brain and heart for us to use this especially in decission making... Being inlove you use your heart for your feelings but you really need to use your brain for you to know if this person is really worth it...

although it is prefered that we use both our brains and our heart when it comes to love, we're still prone not to follow what the brain tells us when we are loving someone. i'm such a person. i do believe that some things are meant to be pondered while some are meant to be done instinctively and without reason at all. i think about math, i think about programming. but i feel love. love, for all i know, is something that is felt, not thought of.

it depends on the situation

It all depends on the different situations for me.

Yes, in decision making i am using my brain i am not going totally behind with heart. If brain is using its good in many cases heart is a key factor for making decision.

once i preferred to use my brain and now i am miserable. my brain got me the wrong man. the problem is, no matter how much i will ever be remorseful for the wrong decision, it can never make it right. what do i do now is instead to do my best to come out witht the best results for my children. i owe it to my children to love them and be responsible for them. it is best that the heart is followed however, the brain will always be consulted to make sure that the right decision iwll be arrived at.

i can't tell my friend..coz most of the time i would rather use my heart over my brain..that's foolishness, i know..and yes, i do agree that brain and heart could be equal when loving a person, so that you can't feel the big impact of pain if the time comes that you need to be parted your ways..and i learned this time that i need to use my brain first over the heart..and you too girl..good luck..have a nice day..

I use both indeed but I am not sure if I am using a good balance of both. I would try listen to what my heart wants first and then I would use my brain to analyze the situation and make a decision trying to please both of my brain and my heart. But definitely I am a person who thinks too much and something I just annoy myself with my different perspective of thinking *laughs*. I notice that I usually listen more to my brain than my heart now. I guess it's because of all my past-relationships which force me to listen to my brain more because usually it makes more sense.