I don't know what to do
By prttynpnkw83
@prttynpnkw83 (444)
United States
May 5, 2007 1:27pm CST
Okay as most of you know i have been helping my 18 year old next door neighbor. She lost her 13 month old baby not to long ago and they arrested her boyfriend who didn't do anything. How do i know well we live in a duplex and the walls are really thin. If he had done anything believe me when i say i would have heard something. Anyway i have been helping her out ever since. Kinda acting like a seragant mother since her mother disowned her for staying by her boyfriends side during this whole thing. Well now she is pregnant as a matter of fact she is 6 months pregnant and you guessed it with her boyfriends baby. So i try to do as much as possible for her. She comes over all the time and i make dinner for her and she doesn't have a regular phone that her boyfriend can call (since he calls collect he can't call the cell phone has to call a landline) she pays me when i tell her the amount. But my problem right now is that we are planning on moving in to a house which would help both of us out. But lately i have noticed that she is being very lazy. She will come over bring dishes from her house and eat and stuff and then leave them over here for me to clean then she will use my dishes and leave them dirty. She also leave glasses and all sorts of types of stuff. Then i have to clean up after her. I really don't want to live with someone who can be so unclean. What should i say if anything. I mean i know she is going through a hard time right now but sometimes i feel she is taking advantage of me. I just don't know how to stop it. I also do a lot more i give her rides when i can and stuff and now she kinda just expects to be able to go with me when ever i go somewhere. I know that she doesn't have anyone but me and one other person right now but jesus christ some times i want to be alone. I'm stuck i don't know what to do.
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
5 May 07
It's true she has been going through a hard time and I don't believe anyone would argue otherwise but it does sound like she is taking advantage of your kindness . You have to break this now before it becomes even harder to say anything especially if you want to continue a friendship because if you keep this inside it will only make you more and more frustrated and then angry with her for not understanding what you don't know how to tell her . As hard as this will be for you , you have to tell her now if you hope to have a friendship with her later in the future .
Try sitting her down and explaining that you understand how difficult things have been for her lately but that she can't let everything get to her and that she still has to move forward for the sake of her baby . And then go on to tell her that you love her and care for her but can't handle the way things have been going lately and would really appreciate her understanding where you are coming from as well . Be friendly but honest with her .
Best of luck !!
