What do I do with a husband who is very unhappy?
By Anakata2007
@Anakata2007 (1783)
Canada
May 5, 2007 6:29pm CST
My husband came home today very upset because even though he makes good money and is good at his job, he always meets people who make more money and who are better at their jobs. This affects his self esteem. He came home and told me that he thinks he needs to work more to get ahead. He already works about 9 hours a day and sometimes weekends too. He seems very stressed by work. He also says he's no good at his hobbies so he just wants to sell off his guitar and bike and all his other hobby equipment and just concentrate on working so that he can feel successful.
4 responses
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
6 May 07
At least, try to relax him: bath, some massage will be very usefull.Dont force him to share with you his problems, but if he needs to do it-be a good listener and supporter.Show him that you love him, you value him and you will be with him whatever it happens.
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@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
6 May 07
Determination is good, but overdoing yourself can only negatively affect your work asides from that is bad for your health. What would be more feasible than working harder in his current job would be some sort of learning plan along to get higher up or move into a different more-paying job.
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@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
6 May 07
Human being's desire is unlimited. Your husband seems to have a nice job, and I don't think more money will be happier. You can try to give him less pressure about money. Such as do not compare your diamond rings to others' etc. He needs some time to relax and for his interests. You can help him to focus on this and he'll be happier again. Good luck and best wishes to you!
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
6 May 07
The most important thing, in my opinion, is that it might be better for him to pay less attention to his colleagues. The more he pays attention to the successes of his colleagues, the more depressed he will feel. He is aready great. We cannot expect ourselves to be always better than the others. Maybe your husband doesn't think too much about his own advantages in his work. He himself, I think, is quite possible an excellent employee in his company.
It is not a good idea to give up his hobbies like playing the guitar and riding his bike as a kind of sport.
All work, no play makes Jack a dull boy. He is supposed to know this. Besides, he is already working for so many hours a day, which is tiring. And he needs some time of his to make himself relaxed from work. Hope he will feel better soon. Good luck to you both!





