Have you ever had a friend who was more of an enemy?

United States
May 5, 2007 7:24pm CST
Have you ever been betrayed by a friend? Have you had a friend who competed with you or constantly tried to undermine your self-esteem? If so how did you handle the situation?
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• United States
6 May 07
I have a friend that I have known for almost 12 years and they have been trying to keep up with whatever I do or get! I can't seem to tell her that I am not interested in what she does or that I don't care how she handles her life anymore! I honestly don't know what to do in this situation!!
• United States
6 May 07
Women who do this to eachother are insecure. This is why I prefer friends with confidence.
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@windhair (498)
• Germany
6 May 07
not prejudice, but I find more females treat their firends like this than males. More chance to get this in teenage beauties. As a outsider, it is so funny to watch what they are doing to their friends, some of their trick are so clumsy. Their is a movie about such girl, but I can not find the name in my mind now. For such "friends", the bast way is to reveal what they have done in front of himself.
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• United States
6 May 07
I think very young woman areinclined to be competative from a sense of insecurity. I avoid such people.
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@carryli (875)
• China
6 May 07
yes,females are envious of others easily.If two females are friends ,one is more beautiful than other one,and the one is more popular of the boys,the other one will be envious of it.And the other one will comepete to the beautiful one.Sometimes,the other one will do something to hurt the beautiful one.
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@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
6 May 07
Yes, I had one. She was one of the worst person I ever encounterd in my life. She was not the friendly type of person but we became friends through common friends. I find her nice and I can relate to her easily, but in the end, it was just all nothing. She just uses the friendship to help her and make a big discount on my professional fee(Which I did because of the friendship). But I found that it's already an abuse, so I decline to continue the job and what I receive was all negative feedbacks about my work even it it's not true. I was badly hurt and it took me a lot of time to surpass it. And the friendship was no longer there...
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• United States
6 May 07
There are users eveywhere. We live and learn, hopefully. I remember my grandmother saying she disliked certain people I would introduce her to, and thinking her judgemental, but in the end she was always correct. Hopefully with experience comes wisdom when it comes to choosing our friends.
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@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
6 May 07
I had a friend in the past who was like that. She'd make little remarks like how she was happy she was naturally slender (when she knew I struggled to stay thin) or how she didn't didn't need to put highlights into her hair because it was naturally highlighted right after she knew I spent $60 to get mine done at a salon. Whenever I had a boyfriend (which was, uncannily enough, more often than her naturally highlighted, slender self, did) she'd tell me she thought I could do better behind their backs, and flirt with them to their faces. At one point, she actually asked out a guy she knew I liked, and them admitted after they started dating that she didn't even find him attractive. After high school, when I didn't need to see her anymore, I stopped returning her phone calls and emails, and when I moved away I didn't keep in touch with her. Since the advent of Facebook, she's since found me and lives in the same city, but even her repeated attempts at befriending me again, I'm basically ignoring, telling her I don't really have much spare time. I want friends that like me for me, not ones that bash my self esteem to make themselves feel superior.
• United States
7 May 07
She sounds very horrible. I had a simliar "friend" once upon a time. She would tell me how small my breats were compared to hers, and make consistent subtle disparaging comments about my apppearance. When I was down on my luck and fresh our of University, struggling to find a job, she bragged about her new flat and relative financial success. She made her money as a glamour model and dancer. The sad thing is, this same girl is now a thirty three year old woman and she is still dancing in seedy clubs in my hometown, dating 18 year old boys, and competing with 18 year old girls. Meanwhile I have emigrated twice, seen a bit of the world, married wonderful man, enriched my spirit, found peace in my life and realised that looks and wealth are rather unimportant. They say she who laughs last laughs longest. People like my "friend" and yours never seem to comprehend what is really important about life. They grow old and feel empty because their focus has remained on the unimportant.
@kenetot18 (452)
• United States
6 May 07
yah!my best friend is like that! like i really love her and treat her as my sister but she keeps on competing with me that i've never notice for a long time,but thank god we have really different taste of guys so she can't compete with me in that case!but were still friends, i've never told her about that kind of felling because she never notice what she's doing.
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• United States
6 May 07
I have had similar experiences, I try to see it as a compliment but it can get annoying.
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• Malaysia
6 May 07
i think we've all been betrayed by a friend at some point in our lives. that sucks. yeah i have friends who tries to compete with me..most of the time i just ignore them and just be myself, but there are times when i just let them win..
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
6 May 07
I had a "friend" like this past year. Then more, he was a hypocrit and never showed his jelousy to me, but used my mistakes to comment them with others behind my back...grrr... It was like a Juda`s kiss when at last understood. And i am a bit little naive. But this was very painfull lesson indeed.
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