How do you prioritize your commitments?
May 6, 2007 5:00am CST
I'm not talking about being in a committed relationship or something like that. I'm talking about commitments you make to yourself or to others, like telling someone you would be at their party and then actually sticking to that even if you don't want to, or more like keeping your promises. How do these commitments take priority? I usually give more importance to the commitment I made first. You know, that's the promise I've made and if something comes up later, no matter how tempting it is, well, it will just have to wait. Well, I like to think I'm a reliable person, if I said I would do something, then I would do it, and not leave the person who asked, hanging. I hate it when people make promises and then they don't keep them. Recently, one of my old classmates got married. She's not a very close friend of mine, but she had invited me, and I had of course agreed to be a part of her joyful day. But on the day I was supposed to go, my family decided to go for "spiderman 3". Now you must realize what a dilemma that would have been. Of course I chose my friends wedding, which I knew already wouldn't be as much fun as watching the movie with my folks, but I had made a commitment to my friend and I couldn't let her down. I can always catch the movie later right? I wouldn't like it if any of my friends did that to me. I don't like people who make false promises and I would never want to be one of them, so I stick to my commitments, and prioritize them that way. So what do you give importance to while prioritizing your commitments?
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23 May 07
The only way I would cancel a commitment is if a crisis was to occur (family member in hospital or I'm taken ill). I will NOT let someone down if I can help it, and when something unavoidable gets in the way then I still feel like I have let them down. Why am I like this? Well, my father was about as reliable as an underwater hairdryer. He said he'd take me out somewhere and he'd make an excuse at the last minute...I made a promise that I'd never EVER be like that.
6 May 07
I know that I shouldn't say anything before knowing if I could go there but then my friend is pushing me to really agree and I end up disappointing her because several reasons cause me not to be there like my father won't allow and her place of vacation is too far away for me to follow her.
6 May 07
Yeah, I know what you mean, but in these cases I guess it's better to be honest and make sure everything is okay before you commit, and not just say yes to make someone happy, because if you say yes, and then you're not there then it's worse.