Do you spend lots of money on birthday presents?

@muscare (3068)
Australia
May 6, 2007 7:11am CST
With my wife's birthday coming up next weekend, I usually spend roughly the same amount on her each year. I never know whether I spend the right amount, or not enough, and I always have trouble trying to work out what to get her. Sometimes she'll tell me what she would like but most times I have to work something out. Ever since I was a kid I've been hopeless at birthday and christmas shopping. Just wondering if you are an extravagant spender on gifts, or do you just get the bare minimum. Is it really the thought that counts? I myself would rather people not get me expensive gifts. I've never really known whether there's a right or wrong idea when it comes to presents. What are your views?
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@niang03 (147)
• China
6 May 07
For me,i don't expect an expensive gift from the other..If they're remember and congratulate me,it's already enough..I think,the important thing is when my birthday comes,i can enjoy it with my friends,hanging out with them although they don't give me a present.I usually buy them a birthday cake or ask them what she/he want for the present or buy somethin which they're really need it although if it's cheap rather than an expensive gifts..I've just thought lucky me if i buy an expensive one and they use it..if not,i've just spent my money for the useless thing.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I agree, if they remember it's your birthday, that's usually enough. I would hope that if you have spent money on an expensive gift that the recipient has enough tact to at least say that they like it, just so you can feel happy about it.
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@mik0930 (371)
• Philippines
6 May 07
For me, I don't spend too much for a birthday present. It's really the thought of giving a gift that counts. Try to give a practical nice gift. :D
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I like the idea that it's the thought that counts. I usually try to think of something useful, and my wife is too nice to say if she doesn't like something anyway.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
7 May 07
For me, it all depends on who I am giving the presents to. Most of the time, it is the thought that counts. It doesn't matter how much I should spend as long as it is within my spending power. I do have budgets for such expenses though. I often buy things that I think the person will find it useful. For close friends, I would specifically ask what they want. There are occasions I pool resources with several other friends to buy a decent gift for a friend.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
7 May 07
Personally, I feel there is nothing wrong with sticking to a budget. However, for spouses and family members, I do not go based on budget. As long as they are happy, I am happy. If it is for your wife, she might not be looking forward to expensive presents, just the thought might do wonders already.... :P
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I think that is a better idea, pooling resources to get a more expensive gift for a special occaision. I usually stick to a budget as well for gifts, I was just wanting to know if it was a good or bad idea. Something with a bit of thought is really the main idea for a good present, not cost.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Yes, I think that is true of my wife.I think she would much rather I didn't spend too much money, in fact she wouldn't really care at all.
@aciddrop (798)
7 May 07
for some special occasions,you should buy her nice things regardless of how much are they.or you may simply make her presents by yourself,which will be considered of more thought.i am not an extravagant spender on gifts,but i am gonna buy my bf a nice belt and book him a cake coz his birthday is coming.i just dont want to be stingy because whenever he gets me things,he wouldnt mind the prices of them but if i really like them or not.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Thanks for that reply, I'm glad others apreciate that sort of thing too. I often wondered whether it was a good idea or not, knowing my wife would tell me she liked anything if it made me happy!
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I try to get something that I think will have the best reaction. I often make her a card so I can put my own verse in it, and I like to draw, and I know she appreciates this sort of sentiment. My 4yr old son has already said he wants us to bake her a cake, so that should be extra special too!
@aciddrop (798)
7 May 07
i am sure your wife appreciates the cards you've made her a lot.coz i do to the ones my bf makes me.he likes drawing as well and i think this is a very cute hobby:P by far he has drawn me 3 pictures including a portrait of himeself lol,and two cards.i keep them in a private place and i really cherish them a lot,probably more than the perfume or clothes he bought me.
@jenstcbt (52)
• Hong Kong
6 May 07
for me, its the thought that counts... well, im not extravagant... i dont spend so much money for birthday presents... for persons who are very close to me,i give a very touching letter, a painting, or a cross stitch of the thing he/she likes most which i myself did...
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I like that idea, something you've made yourself. I will often make a card for my wife. I feel that means more then a shop bought card where someone else has written the verse.
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@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
6 May 07
It totally depends on who it is I am giving a birthday gift to, girlfriends and such I always spend quite a bit more on than just friends in example. But I never do something totally outrageous, or at least I think so :P.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I think that is only normal if you want to spend more on your girlfriend. After all, you are trying to impress her!
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@nancygibson (3736)
• France
8 May 07
I've always felt that the monetary value of a gift is irrelevant, and if anything I would prefer people didnt spend a lot of money on me. What means the most to me is a gift chosen with care, preferably made by the person giving it but I know thats not alwayspractcial so just something chosen carefully. I've had really wonderful gifts before now that a friend has found for a few pence in a charity shop, I'm not at all worried by that, if its something that they know I will love.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
I guess that is the main thing I need to remember, something from the heart rather than from the wallet. I know my wife loves anything I get her, I guess it is just me that wasn't really sure.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
7 May 07
Well I am far situated from my dear ones so it is just the birthday card I sent and a call. But when I am there at my native place then I like to give useful and relevant gifts, at times they cost a lot but it is very rare so I do not mind spending it once a while.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
I guess it is harder not seeing your loved ones. At least you make up for it when you finally do catch up again.
• Canada
6 May 07
I am totally againt expensive gifts, i give those gifts which are of need and useful in some ways.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Yes I think you are is right. Useful gifts are better than expensive gifts.
• Indonesia
7 May 07
The main thing is giving the right gift, not always the expensive one. But sometimes the expensive one is one of the right gifts.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Yes, that is so true also!
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
7 May 07
i think depends on who you are buying for, in your case well i would probably spend about $50 on my partner. but if someone else like my parents 30 and if its children usually 10 - 20 i guess there age, and who they are to how much to spend and your financial situation at the time. theres not really exact amount to spend on a person i dont think like not enough or to much or right amount etc i think the thought that counts, and your showing your love, i think your wife should be happy since your willing to buy her something, my partner and i have been together and he has only got me apresent in the first yr of us being together, and the last 2 i have got nothing, other than what others spend on me.
• Australia
7 May 07
aw that is so sweet of you to make a card for her. that really shows ur love. i get my partner little gifts all the time to show him my love. he not into showing his love in occassions like that
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
Thanks, I try. She is the best thing that has happened to me, so I like to keep her smiling!
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
That's about what I do spend on my wife, although I admit that I do spend more on my son than on my parents. I will make my wife a card too, so that will have a lot of my sentiment and love in it too. I think that's a bit off, your partner not getting you anything. Have you stopped buying him anything to show him how it feels?
@bindishah (2062)
• India
7 May 07
Rather than thinking about how much money you will spend on particular gifts, think about what you could get for your loved one that they need/would appreciate/would tell them how you feel about them. If you do that thn you will never worry about whether you are spending the right amount. A gift that comes form the heart is always appreciated.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
Thanks, I guess I've sort of focussed a bit on my budget in the past, thinking I'm a bit stingy if I find something I know my wife will like, but it is less than I have spent previously. In the end, the monetary value doesn't worry her in the least.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 May 07
I seldom give out presents. I rather give them cash in place of presents. Its the norm here.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
I must say that would be a lot easier then trying to find the right present. Then the recipient can get exactly what he wants!
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
7 May 07
I don't spend lots of money on my bf's birthday presents. I only give him a little present, such as a pair of shoes, a pair of trousers and a shirt. They are all necessary, because i don't have enough money for expensive presents. And I think it is not important about the presents, the most important is I remember his birtheday and I must stay with him that day. But I will send an expensive money to a friend. Frankly ,we are not real good friends, so the value of the present is more important.It is related to your relationship. And when you have a birthday, he/she will sent an expensive to you too. I don't care about money when I decide to give my parents a gift. When I find something they need , I will buy it for them.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
It is nice to spend quality time with someone special on their birthday, sometimes I think that is as good, or better than the present itself. And yes, it does depend on who it is!
• Philippines
7 May 07
nope, i don't usually spend a lot of money for a birthday presents, for me, the important is not base on how much & how expensive your gift is, as long as it came from your heart, you gave it sincerely to the celebrant, i think it is enough to make them happy & recognize your gift with all their hearts too. thats my view...
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 May 07
Thanks for your view, I like your thoughts. I do make my own card for my wife, so she knows that is definitely straight from the heart!
@maddog108 (3435)
• Australia
7 May 07
i spend heaps of cash on birthday presents for my daughter but anyone else i spend very little same as christmas ect its important to look after the kids but hey as far as i can see ive had enough birdays and dont want to get any older
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I agree with everything you just said. I don't want anymore birthdays either, and yes my son does seem to get a lot better than anyone else!
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
7 May 07
I think it depends on who you are going the present to. Since it is your wife. I would make sure it is something she really wants or needs.Or give her something that you know will make her feel happy.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
I always try to make sure it is something she needs, but it is a lot easier if she drops hints sometimes!
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
7 May 07
It all depends on who the gifts are for & what the occasion is. My daughter gets quite a few gifts but she's very easy to buy for since she's only 11 months old :) My partner on the other hand is more difficult because he always says he doesn't want anything but i don't want to just not get him nothing. With our nieces - there are too many of them :) 5 so far plus 1 niece & 2 nephews on the way, so with them, i buy the bare minimum to keep them happy because i just cant afford to be all extravagant with that many of them! I try my best with my parents but my mum never wants anything, my dad's impossible to buy for coz he has everything already, my sister is easy enough to buy for but a little fussy & my brother makes quite a lot of money so he's hard to buy for without spending alot of money! So yeah, i guess i spend differently with different people - depending on their likes & how close we are too!
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Yes, I can see why you limit your spending with your family. My son does seem to get the better of most, and I think that is the way it should be. And yes, he is a lot easier to buy for as well! I always tell my wife not to worry about getting me anything either but she never listens!
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
7 May 07
No, for me it's the thought that counts. Giving a gift to someone is really hard especially if you don't know what they like. Spending a lot of time in shopping, thinking and looking what is the best gift but same thing, usually it ends up of getting negative result. So what I'm doing now is asking my kids or wife what they like or bringing them to the mall so I'll get a positive result, though I admit that I'm not spending much for the gift especially during Christmas for there a lots of people to give. Birthdays and anniversaries just fine though.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Well, being my wife, you would think I should know what she wants. I'm usually very in tune with her feelings, but this time of year I seem to go awol!! There are times I do take her to the mall, and get ideas. Just asking doesn't always get a result though. She just says 'you'll work something out!'
@arsena (293)
• Germany
7 May 07
This was a funny topic. You spend the same amount? Hmmm...Is like your wife values this x sum of money. I never think about a limit, or an amount, but I think about what a person would love to get and if I can afford it I would buy it , of course. And I think that it doesn't matter if you buy an expensive gift or no, it matters if you really think what your wife would like and not buying the first thing you met in the Mall
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Hmm, yes I see what you mean. Maybe I should've worded it like 'this amount is what the budget allows'. Sometimes I don't spend as much, sometimes a little more. Maybe I'll stop, seems I'm digging a bigger hole!!Lol. I do just spend a lot of time just wandering around looking for things that I think she would like, I just didn't want her to think I was stingy. Ok, she knows I'm not, I didn't want to feel stingy.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
7 May 07
I don't really buy gifts for anyone. i am not just used to it. But if i got the chance to buy one, i think it does not really matter on how expensive it is, but its the thought that really counts. But i also make sure that it is something that the receiver will like.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 May 07
Yes that is sometimes the tricky bit, finding something you think they will like.