Spouse Perfection: Does It Exist?

United States
May 6, 2007 4:00pm CST
I have been married for over 33 years to the same woman. She is still as beautiful as the day we were married, but I have never expected perfection in her. I believe that she has been a "Perfect" wife, and I wonder why she is still married to me, because I am not the perfect husband. I try, on a daily basis, to be a good husband, but it seems that I fall short, because things never seem to be good enough. Looking for comments as to what you all would think is the best approach to being the best husband/wife one can be. I help around the house by cooking, cleaning, doing wash and watching after the children/grandchildren over the years. I do the "honey-do's" and all that is asked of me. And yet, it seems that it is not good enough. What do you think?
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24 responses
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
7 May 07
Wow, it's good to hear that until now you are still married with your wife and you are still together. I think that when your in love, you do not really find perfection in your partner. Don't try so hard being perfect because there is really no perfection in this world. Your wife will accept who you are for the simple reason that she loves you. SO don't worry too much on being perfect.
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
6 May 07
Rob, I'm glad you joined. Please do not forget to add me as a friend. My friend request is pending. There is no such thing as the perfect husband. Do you know why? Because we as wives are not perfect. Like every woman, each man has his flaws, his weaknesses, and his strengths. Perfection does not exist, therefore how can the perfect husband exist?
@calvin222 (1606)
• India
6 May 07
perfection especially in a relationship involving two people is not possible.
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
6 May 07
Glad to hear about your happy marriage. There are not too much couples who keep the harmony between them so long time and still can tell: "She the perfect one" Dont underestimate yourself. She loves you as you love her. That`s means that you are may be perfect for her too.
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@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
7 May 07
There is no such thing as perfection in anyone or anything. However, sometimes we get very close to that, and that is a good thing. I did not get so lucky on the first try, but this time I did.
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@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
7 May 07
The only reason I am not married to the perfect man is because someone in the garden made a big booboo. Although not perfect he is close, he dose all you do and I believe your wife is blessed to have you,so many women would love to have a husband who did half of what you do. So dont sell yourself short.Congrats for haveing such a long marriage when in todays world they seem to fall apart so quickly.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
7 May 07
Noone is perfect and noone can expect another person to be perfect. I think it is important to tallkm about how you feel. Maybe she is not even aware of whatshe is doing. After 33 years you should be that comfortable with eachothetr to be ale to say whatever =) Good luck!
@smacksman (6053)
7 May 07
No. Lesson #37 in how to stay married. Do NOT say whatever you want. Button your lip if you have something nasty to say. The exception is if you can say it in a humerous way to take the sting out of it. Here endeth the lesson.
• Philippines
8 May 07
i would say, your wife is very lucky to be married to you. dont worry about the being the perfect husband part, because there really is no perfect wife or husband. it's all about accepting your partner wholly for who she is and what she does that make her seem perfect to you. but so far, i would say that you are doing a very good job as a husband. it's nice to hear that there are still some couples who can still appreciate the beauty of his/her partner even after being married for over 30 years. More power to you robert!
• United States
6 May 07
You sound like the perfect husband to me.You help around the house, you complete your " Honey Do" lists.I can't see where you fall short.
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7 May 07
First let me congratulate you on your 33 years of marriage. In todays world that is an achievment in itself. Just continue to do what you are doing to help your wife. I am sure that even some times you might feel that your efforts are not good enough, but at the end of the day people are only human. By nature we sometimes find things to moan and groan about! But deep down we appreciate what is being done. Lynn-Marie
• Kottayam, India
7 May 07
Youngman, you got great heart keep it up
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
8 May 07
How do you know it is not good enough? You sound pretty perfect to me. Are you being too hard on yourself? Lighten up. She is still around after 33 years. You are doing SOMEthing right.
@casinocat (284)
• United States
7 May 07
Why do you think that you "fall short" and that "things never seem to be good enough?" In that answer is the imperfection.
@betchai (140)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Perfect spouse doesn't exist. Everybody would be perfect if each spouse would learn to love the shortcomings of his partner. Some say if you really love a person then you will love all his imperfections. I think that would make a spouse perfect.
• Philippines
7 May 07
his imperfection makes my spouse perfect...
@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
7 May 07
Congratulations to you and your wife. She is a blessed woman and you are also obviously blessed.
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
7 May 07
You sounds like a very great husband and it seemed that you love your wife very much. You're on the right track, you just feel that you're not enough because you still want to look for ways to show your love for her and that is good. I'm sure your wife is very aware of how lucky she is so don't worry too much. Here'a a tip I'll give you, women love to talk with their husbands, no matter how simple the subject is.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
7 May 07
Who says its not good enough??? The perfect wife??
@lani0529 (1722)
• Philippines
7 May 07
Hello robertegg!(",) I'm so glad to hear about your happy marriage!(",) Congratulations to you and to your wife because you were able to stay married for so many years. I am not yet married but I'm always inspired by stories such as yours. Somehow, it's difficult to attain perfection in its perfect sense but its nice to hear that you are achieving to be one. I guess, you should ask your wife about your status of being a husband because she knows you best. As what you have mentioned you are a loving husband and a very responsible one. Keep it up!(",) I'll be praying that your marriage will continue to blossom and that you will be together forever as one...just perfect for each other.(",) Great day!
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
7 May 07
It si good that you still find your wife as beautifula as earlier.It is very mature of you that you never expected her to be perfect.People make this mistake by expecting spouse to be perfect.Perfection donot exits.Actually nobody is perfect.
• Malaysia
7 May 07
nobody's perfect, and you have to accept that. whenever you truly love someone, you accept their flaws, and accept them as they are. for example, if that person if not good looking, but to your eyes he/she is. if someone says that person is lazy, but to you, you'll think of all the things that he/she has done for you and wouldn't think that he/she is lazy at all, and the like. when you accept the good and the bad side of the person that you love, that person will be the most 'perfect' person you've ever met