Have you ever tried to be honest with anyone only to have things come out wrong?

It seems like almost every time I'm honest with someone things blow up in my face!! It's gotten to the point that I actually pause now before being honest with someone to really consider if it's something that I really need to say to them and if so how delicately I can phrase it! It's ridiculous that things should come to that! Aren't we taught all our lives to be honest??? We shouldn't have to be afraid to be honest or walk on eggshells for each other for heaven's sake. I don't think it was wrong of you at all! If you honestly didn't feel that you could commit to him in the way he wanted then you absolutely did the right thing by being honest with him! Try not to take his reaction too hard. Many times in this kind of situation the other person takes this as a rejection or that they somehow aren't good enough so they naturally feel very hurt and angry. They simply don't seem to see that it has nothing to do with them as a person whatsoever it only has to do with what you have in you to give or not at that particular moment in your life. What you did was actually kinder and more caring then letting him continue hoping for or thinking that he had more of you than you can afford to give! If you'd let it just continue on it would've been much more hurtful later and really would've been stringing him along. We all have our limits and knowing when you've reached yours then telling people where they are is perfectly reasonable and right. You have to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your children or have anything left over to *honestly* share with anyone else.