What would u think was going on?

@lenapoo (678)
United States
May 6, 2007 8:03pm CST
If your spouse always went out everyday all day to work and then came home only to shower and change and go back out not even saying where they are going and come back at 1am or later everynight. What would you think? I would be very upset and I would let them know that this has got to stop or either you will be spending many nights in your car. What if they did this all week and then on the weekends they just don't come back at all? I would raise he** for sure. I mean I would definitely suspect something or someone is occupying their time and it isn't me. I have a friend that is going through this she is always at home with the kids no matter what while he runs out all the time and is never home unless he is sleeping. I told her that she should really sit down and talk with him about this and rectify the problem because coming in that late every night for no given reason isn't necessary at all. What would u do in a situation like this? Would you suspect them of cheating or having someone on the side?
4 responses
• United States
7 May 07
I'd definitely be alittle worried about this situation. If they just come and go all the time, I'd definitely think they had someone on the side, because they obviously come home to clean up and just go right back out. They even make the situation worse by not telling you where they are going. I'd demand to know what they were up to, and if they didn't tell me, well let's just say they wouldn't be getting back into the house anytime soon. As soon as they left, I'd install a new lock on the door or doors, to ensure they couldn't get in the house no matter how hard they tried. I wouldn't let them in until I knew what the deal was.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Changing the locks is a good idea. I think that I would include that in the eviction process as well. An it is only fair that they let you know where they are because you never know what could happen.
@ironstruck (2299)
• Canada
7 May 07
If he continues and never talks about it I would pay whatever it costs for someone to follow him for a few hours and get some pictures. Then if it was proven that he was meeting another woman I would divorce him as soon as possible. No second chances when it comes to adultery. With proof she could get pretty well anything she wants in a divorce settlement.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I personally wouldn't even take it thatt far. I would jus' sit down and have a talk with them to inform them that this wasn't going to work and that one of us has to go and not come back to stay. I feel that if it is meant for you to know then you will find out without having to take matters into your own hands.
• United States
7 May 07
Not sure if I would definatly say he or she was cheating all though very well sounds like they can be but would suspect something. Don't want to accuse them of something that really isn't going on, but if he is going out without explanation and doesn't want to spend no time at home I would definatly want to know why.
• Canada
7 May 07
Well this is just me and my opinion not any type of advice for anyone, I wouldn't have time to talk about it beacuse I would be to busy packing his bags and throwing them out to the curb. Even if he wasn't cheating he's doing something! That's not a relationship that's not even a friendship!