Have you ever looked back and wondered where you went wrong?
By liyan97
@liyan97 (2127)
Northern Mariana Islands
May 6, 2007 9:01pm CST
In every realtionship that I have been in, the men in my life walked away.......They all choose to walk down the same path, which is toward the arms of someone else. I tell myself that it is their loss and that I couldn't have done anything better because I gave all I had, which was the best of me. Nonetheless, I often get this thought from time to time that has me wondering "were did I go wrong?" I mean it makes me wonder what I did that so bad that they would choose to walk into another womans arms?
Have you ever felt that way and how do you cope with it?
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6 responses
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
10 May 07
I had one relationship that ended for unknown reasons to me and I did think about what I done wrong and I sometimes let that thought back in, but I am married to a wonderful man that I love dearly and I know that if I had stayed in that relationship then I would never have been with him and have the children that I have today.
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
7 May 07
ive wondererd many times, but not about my relationship with my husband. sometimes with my children. it seems to me that we give them so much of ourselves and they really don't know what we have sacrificed and dealt with for them all these years. I think to myself sometimes i did wrong by being so giving and loving all the time. You don't really have children to get anything from them, and you do it because you want to, but its not fun when they grow up,and you have nothing but memories. I know it is suppose to be that way, it just hurts, and for some stupid reason, i feel like i was cheated with my life., because i wasted time and money (lots of it) giving it away for them, and now i have not so much time, and not so much money because of it!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
10 May 07
Very much so, in actual fact because of the disastrous relationships that I have had in the past it has put me off for life! I never want to get into another relationships, I have been used, abused, manipulated and trapped and even controlled? Why on EARTH? would I want to go through that again? I am not going to make the same mistakes again. I how vowed to spend the rest of my life alone, safer, easier and no regrets that way. Life is simpler being single, no hurts and in the words of the beautiful Whitney Houston
"It's not right, but it's ok, I'm going to make it on my own, pack my bags, up and leave, I'd rather be alone than unhappy"
@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
7 May 07
I don'treally believe in having regrets. I have been hurt because someone wanted to be with someone besides me, but I am pretty good at moving on. That got me the man I am married to today which makes me feel fortunate. So, in answer to your questions, it was probably nothing you did rather they just wanted a different path.
@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
7 May 07
Hmm, we have a different experience on love. I was the one who turn away from my lovers. But sometimes i asked myself where did i do wrong because i fell out of love. I cope with it by not thinking about it. Time heals all wounds, and you should learn to move on and never to look back unless to see back the lessons you learned from that experience.
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@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
7 May 07
Thanx for the reply! I know that time heals all wounds, but I am not sure uf that logic applies to me. With the relationship came my three BEAUTIFUL kids, I can't imagine my life without them, but then again, I can't find a way around the situation that has left me a single parent....But Thank You for your words of wisdom.
