Are you an Overprotective Parent? I need advice please..........
@babygurl850406 (1322)
United States
May 7, 2007 1:51am CST
Do you feel you are overly protective of your children?
I am too an extent, but my boyfriend (kids' father) is beyond being over protective i think. Any scratch, mark, bruise noticeable on them he gets upset. They are 3 and 1 year old and fall alot, play hard and get cuts on them. I think he is overacting on this, they never have had any kind of bad cut or scratch on them. Theres not much explaining anything to him, lol, he is stuck on this.
Everybody tells him kids need to be kids, they will get hurt because they are kids. Its hard to deal with at times, because the kids never complain when they get hurt, and i think he sometimes over reacts too much and scares them into thinking something is seriously wrong.
Have you seen parents this overprotective? Are you one? How can i get him to losen up some with the kids?
need advice.....thank you :)
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3 responses
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
7 May 07
Overprotectiveness spoils the kids as this makes sensitive to hurts they meet in their life time in their future some tim,es we shuld care and sometimes not becoz children learn what is difficulty and what is hard by the small accidents only at that point we should give them only the first aid and not more than that becoz facing the difficulties makesmakes them build strong by themselves and we always leave our son when he falls and we wait to getup all by himself and moreoverkids are those who often falls get hurt and as they grew they learn everything .
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 07
I was over protected as a child and I grew up very dependent upon my grandmother, when she left this world I was totally lost. I tried to bring up my son to be independent, make is own decisions when it was age appropriate etc. I had men that guided me, telling me he was a boy and scraps and bruises were just part of growing up.
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
7 May 07
I am more the opposite, I am no overly protective. I make sure that there is nothing wrong but don't restrict them that they are afraid or stop doing anything.
My kids are just about ready to be teens, 12 years old now. I try to make sure they know what they are doing, and to do what they can to be as safe as possible. At this age they also have a lot of social and other things going on.
The 2 best solutions I would have is to go to a local day care you know of that has a good reputation to ask them if they have any suggestions, and go to your doctor to talk. Either way they may be able to help by either giving you information or even sitting down and talk to you and your boyfriend.
He may have grown up in an overprotective home and may be having information given to him by an overprotective parent, and your complaints go against what he was taught as he grew up, and be seen as attacks on his parents.
