have you ever been told.....

Please don't be hurt; but, you should be concerned. This is the way a lot of abusive relationships start going down hill. The abuser starts off by charming his victim until the abuser is "secure" in the relationship. Then, they start isolating the victim from their friends and then even their family. That's when the serious abuse gets started and the victim has no place left to turn. Tell your friend you understand and if she ever needs someone, you will be there for her. She may really need you later; but, right now she will NOT believe that her husband may be a threat to her. So, don't say bad things about him now or she may be too ashamed later to admit she was wrong and ask for your help.

I was in my senior year at highschool my best friend Noah became more distant. We had been friends for 5 years solidly. He had a girlfriend who was pregnant with his baby and I was very happy for them. My best friend was going to be a dad and I was going to be a god parent. Well, it went from being distant to him seeing me and pratically running when he saw me at school. Finally one day I cornered him and asked him right out what was up. He told me that his girlfriend no longer wanted him and I to associate. No other reason. I was very angry and hurt by his decision to as I told him at the time, put his tail between his legs and be whipped by a 1 year relationship over a 15 year best friendship. Looking back now, I was mean. Of course he shuold (if he had to) choose his baby over me. I should have been more understanding because I was in highschool. Over the years he has called me a few times (always in secrecy) but our friendship has never been the same. I don't know why some people are made to make a choice. I don't know whether his girlfriend thought I had a crush on Noah, or maybe she needed full control over him, I really don't know why people do that sort of thing.

That's a same. My ex husband pulled this same stuff and I told him look. I had these friends or my best friend before I ever met you so i am sorry. i am still staying friends with my friends. It sounds to me like her husband is controlling her to much. I hope she wakes up and realizes this.

My husband was very controlling, manipulative, and abusive. He also wanted me to give up some friends that I'd made. No matter what compromises I offered, reasoning, nothing would make him happy except for me to never see these people again. It finally ended in a nasty divorce for us. It was really hard and hurtful but now I'm very thankful to not be married to him anymore!! For me, it came down to a question of standing up for myself and my rights no matter what. True, it was partly because I just couldn't hurt my friends that way but it was mostly about finally drawing a line which I would not cross. If a spouse can't accept a few reasonable personal boundaries then it's time to get out!