How do you deal with disrespect!!
By kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
Pakistan
May 7, 2007 8:29pm CST
In our daily life we may come across somebody who doesn't seem to respect and is repulsive. In office, super market, street, home and even on Mylot, one can face this situation any time.
I am interested to know; What is your first reaction, in mind as well as physical, facing such situation and how do you deal with such people? Do you follow tit for tat policy or... Do share your views, as this would be a learning experience and may help others too.
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7 responses
@2wicelot (2945)
•
20 Jun 07
I realise the best thing to do in these kind of circumstances is to ignore and try to avoid the person and any chance of confrontation whatsoever. This is usually my first and best approach. But unfortunately it doesn't always work out and sometimes confrotations due arise but it is best to avoid them.
@jessemt35 (294)
• Qatar
8 May 07
I deal with people who doesn't seem to respect and is repulsive the reverse way. In mind I would say that this person needs more understanding because disrespect for others IMHO means you don't respect yourself either so I just try to be polite and hold my temper.
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@jessemt35 (294)
• Qatar
8 May 07
Hello kamran. If someone nullifies my effort to be polite I will make him/her understand once and I will do it very politely with some emphasis on what I am trying to convey, but I'll do it only once for I believe that one word is enough for a wise man. If he/she persist with disrespect I'd better ignore him/her because a foolish person no matter what you do will still be foolish and if I insist on telling him/her it would foolishness on my side too. God bless.
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@tarachand (3895)
• India
10 May 07
It all depends upon how the person showing disrespect or the issue is to me or my near and dear ones.
This world is full of people who have the right to build and air their own opinions over anything, I give them a lot of leeway. Once, even on this forum, I let emotions rule me and I ended up looking the fool to me in my own eyes upon reflection, once i had calmed down.
If I find something or something offensive, I move on, try and avoid that person or issue if it has no importance for me. If the matter affects me, I try reason, if that doesn't work, well am I really a loser?
@tarachand (3895)
• India
10 May 07
oooops! a word got left out. It all depends upon how 'important' the person showing disrespect or the issue is to me or my near and dear ones.
'important' is the word left out.
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
10 May 07
Your views are appreciated Tarachand!:-). I see many people who air just anything on the pretext of freedom of expression. It's only logical that any positive thing may become negative when it badly affects others. I agree also with that letting emotions control over ourselves, may result in appearing foolish. Only wisdom can make us use our freedoms appropriately otherwise we may be adding towards destruction, anyway.
I believe that if reason doesn't work, you won't be a loser:-) Thanks for sharing:-)
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@rsa101 (37966)
• Philippines
8 May 07
If the person i met is someone I do not know I avoid that person as much as possible. If I am familiar with that person and that person seems accomodating and is ready to hear my side then i tell him my point of view but if the person is uncommunicative then I avoid that person too.
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
8 May 07
Ugh! When I see someone being disrespectful anywhere I get so angry! I am not good with confrontation so if it is face to face I dont really say anything. BUt lemme tell you if it is over the internet (like on mylot or youtube) people get an earful! lol.
On the rare occasions that someone is being SO rude and disresectful to someone in front of me I will say something to their face.
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
8 May 07
yes! beware of me if you are disrespectful! lol. But I dont think I'll ever have that problem with you *because you've been warned* jk! =P
It helps me being angry, sometimes I dont have to say anything they just see it on my face! lol.
I don't really know any strategies...hmm....maybe make yourself look bigger by puffing out your chest and holding your arms away from your body at the sides...lol
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
8 May 07
I'll be careful =P. I agree that sometimes facial expressions say more than the action itself. I hope your strategy works for you, but what if the other person has a bigger chest, like he is a body builder!
Apart from that, have you ever tried later to counsel/advise that person if you had chance to..if so, did it help?
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
8 May 07
Thanks for sharing your views, LilyoftheThorns! does it help to be angry? sometimes I think it does help in intimidating:-) but other time probably not...what do you say? hmmm. I think i should never be disrespectful with you otherwise i'll have mine earful:-) What strategy you think works best in tackling the situation?
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@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
8 May 07
Well, when I'm near this kind of people, I use to ignore them. Now, if they start yelling at me, I just show that I am a calm person. I don't want to fight. I'm a peaceful man. I try to talk to them normally. If things get heavy, and he wants to fight... Then he'd better prepare his bed at Hospital: once I am in a fight, nothing can take me away from it. But, as I said, I'm a peaceful man. I don't like to fight.
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
8 May 07
Thanks for sharing your views, munhozmib! Good to know that you are peaceful for most of your time and try to avoid conflict. Would you like to share how you avoid fight? what strategy you use to calm other person down? have you ever succeeded in that? am i asking too much questions?:-)
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@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
29 May 07
I don't really calm others. I act calmly, showing that I don't want a fight. But if the guy wants to fight me and there's no way to calm him down, let him come.
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
8 May 07
I deal with it by not dealing with it. I don't give them that power to suck me up in their negative ways. I simply smile & say .... You be blessed
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