How are your inlaws? Do you like them?

@4cuteboys (4102)
United States
May 7, 2007 8:59pm CST
I like all of my husbands family, but sometimes his sister rubs me the wrong way. Not intentionally but it happens. For an example, we had a get together at my mother in law's house, and his sister came (with their bus!) and as we were leaving she kept saying how I just HAD to bring the kids to her house for a few days or a week over the summer, that it's so much fun there and I didn't really want to, so I didn't say no, but didn't really respond either. So then she said "well margaret (my husbands ex wife) used to come to my house and stay" Um hello, talking to me like that isn't going to make me want to come at all! What about you, how do you feel about your inlaws?
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
8 May 07
I've not talked to my mother in law in two years and it has been 11 years for my father in law. I do not plan to talk to them any time soon. Heck my husband doesn't talk to them. I will not get into the reason why. We do not stop our children from seeing them, yet they too have declined not to.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
8 May 07
I have a decent relationship with my inlaws. My MIL does a lot for us, watches the kids while we work and stuff, but we still have our moments. She doesn't drink or swear and believes if you just pray everything is dandy. I wasn't raised like that, I have a more realistic view of the world. I also have a sister in law who just turned 11, she's 6 months younger than my oldest. The kid drives me nuts, she's very spoiled, can do no wrong in her mothers eyes and is the biggest drama queen ever. It was totally uncalled for for your SIL to make the remark about your hubby's ex, I commend you for keeping your mouth shut, I don't know if I would've been able to. Did you say anything to your hubby about it? That was awful rude of her, some people just don't think before they speak.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
8 May 07
Yeah and I have a hot temper so I was suprised I kept my mouth shut, I think I was just caught off guard when she said it! I told hubby on the way home and he couldn't believe it either! Oh and I know what you mean about the kids that do no wrong and are spoiled, Yuk
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
11 May 07
Thanks for the best response. Isn't it crazy when your in laws will say something to you that totally catches you off guard yet chaps your hiney at the same time? It's happened to me a couple times and I didn't like the feeling at all.
• United States
8 May 07
My sister's in-laws keep asking me stuff about what I'm doing, but I never have anything interesting to say, so I expect they think I'm a lazy bum like everyone else does.
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@fawcey (928)
• Australia
8 May 07
I have to say that I love my inlaws as they are great and I actually prefer them to my own family. My family is more like what you describe your inlaws to be like. My husbands mother has been a great friend and support for me and I love her dearly, I always feel welcome their and have been made to feel a completly part of the family. I actually don't have anything to do with my so called real family so it is good for me that I have such cool inlaws. My husband would be in your shoes though!
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
9 May 07
When I got married I thought I was getting another family. I was not prepared to be told that I wasn't part of the family - just married their son - or to be treated the way I was. I knew my in laws weren't on the list of my fan group, I was a bit different from them and I knew they didn't really approve of me, but I had never experienced people like them in my own family, so I thought that they would receive me and treat me as family the way I was used to see my family do. I must confess that my father in law was not too bad, he still isn't but of course living with my mother in law for many years he did pick up a few things here and there. My mother in law was always very negative with me, always finding fault in everything I did and sometimes being downright nasty in her comments, but I was young, not prepared for that and above all I didn't want to create problems between my husband and her parents so I never complained. I know better now :) FOr almost 20 years I was put down, criticized, talked about behind my back - and sometimes to people I didn't even know - etc. When my daughter was born I couldn't do anything right, all I did was wrong and bad for the baby. When I cooked for everyone my food wasn't good and my mother in law would even just sit at the table looking at the food and not eating anything because "Oh my God, I would never eat that ! " even if after she would eat the same thing at someone else's house and come back saying how good it was. WHen my marriage was on the rocks she was there cheering and actually went to the point of inviting my husband's "girlfriend" for dinner! I finally had enough them, and Although we are forced to leave in the same house I'm glad that the house has two different apartments because I just go straight to mine and have no special contact with them other than the normal things that need to be discussed because we're sharing this house. I also stopped worrying about getting my husband against their parents and I tell him, or better yet let him see the way she treats me. But none of this surprised me as much as my sister in law. Being even younger than us, I thought that she had to be different from her mom. I could see her mom doing some of the things she did. She is older and really has no special life, so I guess she has nothing else to do than to criticize people. But my sister in law? She's even worse than her mom and I"m really glad that she leaves far away from us. I feel physically ill when I"m close to her. She did much damage specially to my kids and my daughter had to go trough counseling in part because of something my sister in law did. It wasn't entirely her fault, but she initiated it and got involved in our life as if it was her own. OFten I feel like getting all the receipts from counseling and send them to her to pay for. But that would be even too much contact with her. Oh boy this felt good. I kept most of it inside for too long :)
@speedy1279 (2667)
• United States
9 May 07
I truly love my in laws. This is my second marriage and they are the best in laws I have ever had. They are so caring and thoughtful. Just the other day my husband called his mom to talk to her about watching the kids so I could go to the doctor about my abnormal pap. Well of course she said yes but what she said later in the conversation really touched my heart. She told my husband because I may have to have a hysterectomy (and these are her exact words) "We need her, you need her, the kids need her, everyone needs her. So tell her everything will be fine". Just typing that brought tears to my eyes.
@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
9 May 07
... So far so good, My in-laws are good to me,in my 2 years marriage, I feel so cared by my in-laws. My sister in law is a buddy of mine, and my father in law, even in his sick image, always say's hi or hello to me when we are together.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
9 May 07
LOL—As if guilt or jealousy will work- What was she thinking- I have my problems with my sig. others family as well. His one brother and wife are super! I have so much fun with them- The other brother (younger) and his wife are just not good! The wife thinks she is better than everyone else- My sig. other and his brothers and dad didn’t grow up with tons of money- all 3 of the boys are great now- Good jobs, houses etc. But she thinks she is better than us. I throw it her face a lot that she isn’t! Especially than me- lol. Anyways I can’t stand to even be around her from some of the comments she makes about my sig. others dad. So I think we all have some problems with some of the others family! My family is great! : )
@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
9 May 07
I get along with my inlaws very well. They have always accepted me more as a daughter than a daughter-in-law and that makes me feel special. I have been married to my husband for 23 years and so far I have never had any problems out of any of my in-laws.
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
8 May 07
My inlaws are great, they never said anything against me. In fact they are very open minded and they are not judgemental, not like my family who is the opposite. Its sad but true, i just found out a few weeks ago that my family were being hypocrites for the pass 5 years. And it hurt me so much until not, i lost every trust i have for them. Me and my honey never saw any sign of problems. They always smile at us as nothing was wrong. Then all of the sudden they started saying bad things and judging my honey. My honey and I were offended and i think there would be NOTHING to fix it. The GAP will always be there and NOTHING will be the same. My family in lame man's term was BACK STABBERS as i see them, they smile when they are facing you but when they turn their back... wooohhh.... they say the opposite. I'm so glad that my honey's family are not like that. I'm sad that mine is.
@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
8 May 07
To be honest, i really do not like my father in law. My MIL passed away years before i even knew my husband. Not that this happened overnight because i was not prejudiced or jugdmental against him before i got married to his son. Let's just say, who in the world, has seen their FIL butt naked in the bedroom with the door wide open? I've also seen him meddling with his private part and paid no attention what so ever that the door is again... OPEN!!! I seriously took offense! I mean, what is a door for? And of course there are the nitty gritty like he doesn't like me using chopsticks to eat my noodles! HELLo!!! what is with that? Anyway, it always gives me stress when my hubby said that we're going there for a visit. I normally tell him 2 hours max. But of course he'll drag for 3 hours. I'm fine as long as i don't make eye contact or speak with my FIL.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
8 May 07
I get along with my in law but i've lost a lot of respect for her. She shows favoritism over her other kids as compared to my husband. She takes advantage of the fact that hes the only one of them that turned out to be a responsible person. Her one son basically abuses his kids and she makes excuses for him. Her other is so babied and spoiled I can't imagine him ever taking care of himself. He's 19 and doesn't hold down a job because his mommy will make all his payments for him if he can't. So as you can imagine i'm not close with either of my brother in laws either. I didn't get to know my sister in law. She passed away before my husband and I were even offically dating. But she was very well liked and loved so I think that her and I would have gotten along.
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
8 May 07
It has been a roller coaster with my in-laws. Currently things are going well. But there have been times where they really pi**ed me off. Like not coming to my wife graduation party or our open house. However, as of late, my father in law has come to our house and helped with some repairs.
@honeyangel (1992)
8 May 07
i do get on with my inlaws,we were up at their on xmas day,were with them at easter