Have you faced this situation ever?
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
May 8, 2007 5:04am CST
I want to know whether any one of you have faced this situation ever like me. Say you met a person and you two becomes very good friends with time. Everything seems Ok.But say after some time you somehow can understand taht your friend is avoiding you a little bit.Aftwer taht the distance widens and although you keep every effort to be as close as before your friend avoid for practically no reason. Even he/she does not tell the reason. And eventually denies the fact that he/she is avoiding you. You get very hurt at last.Plsase share with me if any of you have this type of situation and how you have tackled it?
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4 responses
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
9 May 07
Sometimes people just grow apart. Maybe this person doesn't enjoy the same things as before. Maybe they got upset by something that was said or done. Point is, to move on and find people that want to be your friend. no matter what you are doing or saying, the person obviously doesn't want to talk now. Maybe when they cool off or have had some alone time, they will come around. Sometimes people may feel smothered as well. Too much time/texting/calling sometimes makes for a fast burn out of a relationship.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
8 May 07
It definitely hurts and pains if someone close suddenly decides to avoid you or possibly evade you? The evade reason was what a friend reasoned has happened in my case.
There is no fire without smoke. If such happen, there is bound to have some misunderstanding somewhere. The party might not acknowledge it even though you are still blur as to what is happening. You could have offended or hurt the person without you knowing. Unless that person tells you so, you will never know the true reason.
In my opinion, one appropriate thing to do is to stop harping on it and give the person some personal space, give him a cooling period. One week, two week, it is up to you, but do let him know what and why you are doing this. Then follow up and don't give up. All it needs is for the person to listen to you. All the best to you.
@subathra (3519)
• India
8 May 07
Had faced a similar situation very recently and still its hurting me a lot.We were good frieds and shared sms, mail and telephonic conversation almost daily.But suddenly my friend stopped to message me and i thought may be its due to office work and dont have time.
One day when i messaged to come online i got a blank reply sorry i cannot and no more replies but i continued to mail and message daily for almost 2 weeks without getting any replies from the other end.Then i realised that friend is avoiding me and i really dont understand the reason behind it.I was just telling this to a friend whom we both knew and he just convinced me to leave it off.
This happened before 2 months & last week i got 2 sms message from him.Since i have deleted his number but could identify its his number and clarified the same with my friend.But since i was much insulted and hurted i didnt reply for that.I think this friendship will not work out for me and i want to stay away from this.
@jayant_bommisetty (569)
• India
8 May 07
If i face these type of situation then i will go and ask straightly wat happ and y r u not talking with me otherwise i will send my friend who is best to both sides and i will ask through him wat happ and i will be clear the status.





