Are you telling your secrets to your best friend?

Indonesia
May 8, 2007 6:20am CST
I know that best friends are the one we can count on, the one that we trust. But sometimes I feel unsafe to tell some secret to my best friend. Afraid that they might tell someone and the secret will reveal to everybody. A friend of mine ever had this problem and she dont talk like one year or so to her bestfriend because of revealing her secret to others. That is not what a best friends do to her mates. Until now if I have some personal secret, Still I dont tell it to my best friend. What do you think?
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47 responses
@sonone (267)
• India
8 May 07
A friend is someone when you first think of him/her during the troubles or problem arises. So, He/she is the friend on whom you b'lieve next to yourself. Friends shoud be close to each other and have gossips share tears as well as smiles. After all, y don't you share secrets with 'em? are the secrets quite secret that you don't even tell to your best friend? Don't you b'lieve your best friend? Who walks with you an extra mile! Who encourages you even u're failed? Who get's in touch in sorrow n joy? Think twice before u've discussion like this my friend. Friendship is hard to make and easy to break! Sorry if i spelled something wrong. i've got more thoughts when started
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• Indonesia
9 May 07
Thank you for your advise, someone I understand very well about your thought. I trust my friends and share anything with them except my secrets, therefore I am discussing this to understand whether or not I have to tell them my secret. Because what I understand right now is: "The person who is really close to you are on the right position to hurt you"..
@ashar123 (2357)
• India
8 May 07
Your best friend can be your best enemy someday so don't reveal all of your secrets, just reveal those secrets which are not so important.
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@ashar123 (2357)
• India
8 May 07
Thanks buddy. You want to be my friend ?
• Indonesia
9 May 07
Well this is what I am so scared about. When people that are so close to me will be by enemy someday... I hope not...
• Indonesia
8 May 07
i do agree with you. :)
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
8 May 07
Some of my secrets i share. But they are others what i share with nobody and i dont need to share.I respect my friends`s right to have their secrets too and dont force them to say everything to me.
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• Indonesia
9 May 07
Thank you for your respond. I agree with you too.. for some reason I could not reveal some of my secret to my best friend..
• China
8 May 07
I have the same feeling as you do
• Pakistan
9 May 07
Well friend's are part of your life and it is in a nature of a human being that he/she expresses our thoughts, feelings, emotions, perspectives and secrets. But at times that wonderfull friendship can suddenly turn into a horrific experience which is infact far from your imagination. I had many best friends in the past and there was even a true friend but unfortunately I trusted them a liitle too much and well I reaped what I had sowed. But it is not wrong to tell secrets to your best friend but before you do that make sure that you ask yourself as to whether if that secret could be leaked, how damaging would it be for you? or let's say how badly it can affect your reputation. After giving it a thought, if you still feel that you will be able to endure the consequences without getting to hurt, then by all means go ahead. Although it is not wrong to trust friends because trust is something that makes a friendship stronger however in reality you have to be carefull as the same trust can land you in hot water and you would be left pondering over as to what went wrong. Remember share only what you can afford to lose. I have many good friends and yes indeed I do share secrets with them but the most critical secrets are only shared with my true friend - and that is me :)
• Pakistan
11 May 07
Your Welcome :)
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• Indonesia
11 May 07
Thank you for your advise, it is so true..
• Philippines
15 May 07
The only person I shared my darkest secrets with is my husband. We were best friends before we became officially a couple, and we used to tell each other's secrets even the most shameful and confidential ones.
• Indonesia
15 May 07
oohh that is so sweet...
8 May 07
Telling secrets to your best friend isn't bad at all. In fact, it eases your emotional baggage. But...now, here's the but...try to feel as much as possible if that friend of yours which you consider your Best Friend is a real Best Friend...not just faking or using you for a selfish self-vested interest or motive. My dear, the true test of a best friend is when you're in the downest part of your life and everyone seems to abandon you...and here is someone more than willing to stay by your side and console you without asking anything in return or a favor for a good deed done to you. There is that old saying: "A friend in need, is a friend indeed!" And that still holds true until this generation. And for those who want to become someone's best friend, try to feel also if that someone is not using you. There is a colloquial phrase: "What are friends for...to be used and abused." Please don't fall into that category. This is a voice of experience...and that friend which I always took the pride of telling people that she was my best friend...was actually my worst friend!!! She used me...and when I was down and she saw she could not benefir anymore from me she...even if she wouldn't say it...I understood. From that day I turned my back on her...that was the very time that the link of friendship was shattered and I mean it forever!!! ...because she was never a Best Friend, but a user and abuser of friendship!
• Indonesia
9 May 07
Thank you for your respond and I am sorry about what happen to you and your friend. I will be a best friend and will never used or abuse them in the name of friendship...
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
9 May 07
for me, a secret is not called a secret anymore if you already reveal it even only to 1 person... a secret is meant to be kept just for yourself... and you are right... your best friend can become your best enemy because he/she is the person who you confide all your secrets and personal problems with and he/she can use those as weapons to attack you when you have disagreements with him/her... that's why i never reveal my secret to anybody... not even to my hubby and my family members... only to my God... i only trust Him to safeguard my secret...
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• Indonesia
10 May 07
I am so agree with you.. That is what I am afraid of telling secret to anybody..
• India
8 May 07
Yes I have only few best friends and I always tell them all my secret...because if you trust them then trust them like onthing else but if you did not trust them then don't tell them anything........!
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• Indonesia
9 May 07
It is just so hard to know whether I have to trust my best friend or not. Even if I know them for so long...
• Philippines
15 May 07
i dont have a bestfriend. i use to have one but she turned out to be a backstabber. i use to tell her things, we use to share secrets and stuffs. i thought i knew her but i found out that she's telling other people stuffs that nobody supposed to know except. i was hurt. i didnt know why she did those things but other said that she's jealous of me. so i guess it would be safe not to tell your bestfriends secrets.
• India
15 May 07
yes i always telling my secrets to only my best friend not to everyone. i have many friends but i think only i have two loyal and true friends who always hep me and guiding me. so i think these friends are precious and u cant get them again in this life so share every thing with your true friends only.
@niang03 (147)
• China
8 May 07
I think everyone has some personal secret,which can't share to others even best friends..I have best friends since childhood..i knew their character,personality,family very well..i often tell my secret to them..but there are things too which i can't share with them ..not because i don't trust them ..i just want to keep it on my own privacy..so,i think you didn't wrong if you don't tell some your secret to them..
• Indonesia
9 May 07
Hello Niang, Thank you for your respond not making me feel guilty because I dont share my secret to my best friends..
@rojane (500)
• Philippines
15 May 07
there's one bestfriend i can tell all my secrets to - and i mean as in everything - it's God. He sure is someone i can rely to without having any slightest doubt that He will reveal it to another person. and He listens well and cares for me so much. it's really nice pouring my heart out and even my deepest secrets to Him. :)
@dwynne (82)
• Philippines
15 May 07
The most enjoyable thing in friendships is sharing secrets! But beware! Sharing secrets are only for BESTFRIENDS! And only you can tell who your REAL friends are! If you don't, try doing a little test...reveal a 'not-so-important' secret to one of your friends. If she told anyone and it goes out, well, I guess you know where to put her. :0
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• Philippines
15 May 07
I feel the same way too.. but you know,sometimes it's just so hard to keep something,sometimes you'd feel a lot better sharing secrets to your bestfriend. As for me,i dont easily trust people, that's why i carefully choose the people that i would open up to. :p
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• India
11 May 07
Yes i like to share my secrets with my best friend and i will not share more secrets to my friends bcause it will effect with our daily life.so, i think just some secrets only i will share with my bestfriend like U :-).
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• Philippines
9 May 07
a best friend is someone who yo could trust... a true best friend does not tell anyone the secrets that her best friend tells her....that would be betraying your best friend... anyone that do that is not a true friend.... and must be perished
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@manu619 (450)
• India
9 May 07
Ya ma friend... I am a kind of man who likes to chit chat with ma friends.. Specially ma secrets.. Itz just because that friends are thos who that we can share our ideas & secrets with them.. We can exchange almost all things with our friends.. THan anyone.. Friends are the blood of our life... We cant live without them..
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• India
9 May 07
Well waht my experience says in this refard is that u should not sare much secrets with ur friend as the one whom you feels your friend today might not remain tomorrow and then u will sorry for the secrets you have told to him/her....so what i feel is taht u should act smartly as the world is not that good that some people feel...
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@jerinvar (42)
• India
9 May 07
If its a secret about you or somebody who is very close to you and its not good enough to be said to ur best friend then I think it should be kept as secret.We are sensible enough to know which are the ones to be told and which are not be told.By the secrets are always kept secret.
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• India
11 May 07
hey a best friend is a person who we should trust i really trsu my best friend coz she nevr tells anybody
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