Do you get on well with your neighbours?

@rhinoboy (2129)
May 8, 2007 11:56am CST
A treasured mylot friend's discussion ( ;-) Gabs ) got me thinking about how we relate to our neighbours. I'm ashamed to say that I had something of a disagreement with a previous neighbour that resulted in me flinging dog excrement on & around their door. I wasn't proud or malicious, but driven to distraction by having to clean up after their pet. (The poo I threw was from their dog, but continuously deposited on my lawn). When I was a child, I knew all of my neighbours and several of the families knew eachother well enough to share childcare, borrow cups of milk / sugar / cigarettes etc. etc. It seems idyllic with the blurring of time, but it was certainly a lot more community spirited than anywhere I know today. How do you get on with your neighbours? Have you had any raging fights or do you have any heartwarming tales of caring and friendly neighbourliness?
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
8 May 07
I used to live in a condo complex where my wife and neighbors would get into it all the time. Most of the people who lived there, did not care about the place. When moved out and bought a house where we have yet (knock on wood) to get into any disagreements with any of our neighbors. Most of our neighbors have been helpful in taking care of pets or watching the house is secure when we go somewhere. One of my neighbors helped me move a gutter on my garage the other day. It was causing his back yard to flood a bit and he could have so easily told me this was my problem. Instead, he was helping me. Or I should say I was helping him as he had the knowledge of how to do it. I help the gutter and handed him the pieces need most the time.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
8 May 07
Apart from that one person, we usually keep pretty much to ourselves. Our neighbours have been great for taking in packages when we've been out etc. We even put eachothers bins out and put them back on bin day (garbage collection day). Apart from that, and a few brief conversations with the guy next door though, we're not over-friendly with anyone. It's nice that your neighbour was easy-going and co-operative with you about that gutter. So many people would just gripe at you and tell you you had to fix it.
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
8 May 07
I agree. I think we found a great neighborhood. There is a lady on our street who is unable to move around much and leaves her garbage bags just outside her front door. Someone always takes them to the curb for her. She is so sweet and kind. I fell bad that she cannot get around so much.
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@Poison_Girl (4163)
• United States
20 May 07
I don't really know my neighbors. Everyone kinda stays indoors and keeps to themselves. I've talked with one of my upstairs neighbors a few times and he seems pretty nice. I hate the fact that he takes his dog out at 4 in the morning, though. Not a big deal really except that I have to hear the dog run down the stairs that run against my bedroom wall. Then I hear the neighbor stomping down the stairs only to hear it all over again when they go back up. It's incredibly irritating and they wake me up every morning. Worse than that is "Old Leadfoot" who lives right above me. He's some old guy who likes to stay up late, but he makes a lot of noise walking around his place and doing whatever it is he's doing. That's even MORE irritating. I can't sleep with him up and walking around. *sigh* I heard him come home at 12:30am the other morning. And again (another morning) walking around at 2-something in the morning. I can't wait to have my own house.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
21 May 07
That must be a real pain. I'm really lucky that I have nice quiet old folks next door to me (joined). I find it a bit strange that they close doors and things in the middle of the night, and keep thinking someone's stealing my car because it usually falls deadly silent at night.
• United States
26 May 07
I can imagine that'd be pretty irritating, too. Do you ever get up and run to the window to make sure nobody's stealing your car?
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@rhinoboy (2129)
1 Jun 07
All the damn time!! lol As I say, they're old folks so you don't expect them to be slamming doors at 3am, so I always think something is happening!
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9 May 07
I'm pretty lucky with most of my neighbours and we get along just fine. However We have a *problem family* in the street who cause a lot of hassle for us all. Their kids terrorise the neighbourhood on minibikes and a quad bike (illegal on the roads) the parents spend a lot of time sitting in their wreck of a front garden drinking and playing loud and usually bad music, the house and the front garden are filthy dirty and the little problem is awful. The kids on the minibikes cause most of the trouble though as our street is a bus route and it is an accident waiting to happen. A group of us went and spoke to the family and got a barrage of abuse so we have been in touch with the local authority about the family and, with any luck, they will either be cautioned, or removed totally.
@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
Oh god, that sound like a nightmare! My brother lives in some flats that he endearingly calls Beiruit! The kids there are always riding around on motorbikes, setting fire to bins, getting drunk etc. I have no idea how they manage to get any sleep as the place is complete bedlam. I was lucky enough to get on the property ladder very young, so I live in a reasonable house in a decent street now. It sounds really snobbish, but I think that's why people always want to live in more expensive 'posher' places. It's the only way you can price 'that type' of family out of the area. When a couple both work full time to spend loads on a house, it sort of reassures you that most of the neighbours are in the same situation. so they'r eworking rather than causing trouble too. I grew up in 'council houses' and some of the nutters we had as neighbours over the years would turn your hair pink!
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3 Jul 07
Thanks for the best response hun. With the school holidays only a few days away I am dreading the time when the little darlings will be out in the street until midnight with the music blasting :-(
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@rhinoboy (2129)
3 Jul 07
I'm feeling it for you hun. The little scumbags have found a new drinking spot in the trees near our house. I have a plan you're welcome to share though!! lol My mother has 3 cats. If I find their noise is troubling me, I'll be asking mam to store up a nice big stinky bag of cat sh!t (feeding them on fresh fish first of course!) which I will spread liberally around the area. If that doesn't work, I'll take a few loaves of bread and keep putting them out until the place is running with rats and mice. Vengeful? Moi?
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
8 May 07
lol Hi Rhino Well in the old Place I got on ok with the Neighbors that I wanted to There was a bad lot living there as well Here I speak and say hello to People but I keep to myself I will talk to other Dog owners who walk their Dogs My Landlady I will talk to as she lives here to As for Elephants well they just live their own way and they don't want to know so I leave them to it They don't really speak to anyone in the Village As for what you did good on you as they should have the decency to keep their dog of your Lawn or at least come and clean it up
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
Dog walkers are one of the few 'types' who still speak to one-another. I live close to a nature reserve thing where most local people walk their dogs. Most people with a dog will at least say 'morning or whatever as they pass. That neighbour just drove me nuts! My old house was near by, and was also on the edge of the field. There was literally about 10 sqaure miles of parkland (mostly grass, some trees, pathways etc) on her doorstep. She also had an enclosed garden of her own outside her back door, yet she would put the dog out of the front door (opening toward my garden and the rest of the street) several times a day to do its stuff. How annoying can a person be?!
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
10 May 07
I am sure that you can report her for that as Dogs are not allowed to roam you know
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@rhinoboy (2129)
14 May 07
Oh, no. She wouldn't leave it out to roam, she'd just put it out to do it's business on my garden first and last thing rather than into her own!
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@Dan_ul (858)
• Romania
5 Jul 07
when I was a child I also new all my neighbors... and I have a lot of friends from childhood and many beautiful memories... it was a really great time... but also a lot of fights with the elder neighbors:P... like a lot of childhood stories...
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@rhinoboy (2129)
6 Jul 07
You fought with elderly neighbours? The only old people I can remember were the ones who didn't like the kids playing by their houses and would shout at us for playing football even near their homes.
@Dan_ul (858)
• Romania
6 Jul 07
yes:D... same here... there were a couple of elder people who did not like the fact tat we where playing football, climbing trees and eating all sorts of fruits around their's houses, or from their's yards:P... the problem was that our home was just above their's... and they were coming to their's windows shouting to go somewhere else, like in front of pour homes... and not climbing in trees anymore:)... so just a day to day childhood fight:P
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
9 May 07
We don't talk to our neighbours, our neighbours don't talk to us, everyone keeps themselves to themselves, which is exactly the way I like it, no one gets involved or knows your business! Our neighbours are quiet you don't hear loud music and they do not even acknowledge you in the street.
@rekhum (2434)
• India
10 May 07
We are in the same boat. But i really want to talk to them and make friends wiht them. We rrespect each other though by not playing loud music when one is playing.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
I value my privacy, but I always make sure I say hello, or wave if we pass eachother in the car. It makes things just that bit more pleasant, and it;s nice to know I could talk to them if I needed to.
• Singapore
9 May 07
What do you think? We slam the door on each other as soon as we are aware of the other's presence. If they see anything they don't like about us, they will complain to the town council without even having the courtesy to let us know themselves.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
I can't figure out people like that. My friends were once visited by the police for 'noise'. They did have the Tv loud while watching a film or something, but the police knocking on the door was the first they knew about it. The neighbour hadn;t even asked them to turn it down!
• Singapore
10 May 07
For my case, it was about some flowerpots blocking their way - and it wasn't even true. But here's the ridiculous thing - they know have their bicycle places in the exact spot. If we were spiteful, we would have complain to the town council too.
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
22 May 07
One set of neighbors are really cool, they are an older couple and kind of have adopted my son as one of their grandchildren. The set across the street, well you just replied to my post about them lol. The boyfriend that lives there is an idiot, he's always outside hollering about something, my husband and I have both had arguments that it's not okay to be loud at 2 a.m. when you live in a subdivision where people like to sleep!
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@rhinoboy (2129)
22 May 07
As you say, that guy is an idiot. I can't remember whether I wrote something earlier in the thread, but my brother and his g/f live in an area full of those types of people. Groups of teenage thugs make it a hostile and sometimes dangerous place. I feel so sorry for them, as they can't afford to buy somewhere else. (Britain is having a house-price boom, and they're stuck in what you would probably call projects)
@rekhum (2434)
• India
10 May 07
They really look nice and friendly but i don't talk to them for no reasons. I don't have guts to open up,i guess..and so are they.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
I thought it would be a nightmare to bounce on up to these strangers and be all "Hi, I'm Rhino, me & Mrs Rhino are your new neighbours!" It was a bit awkward after I said Hi and introduced myself, but I'm terrible at small talk anyway. I'm glad I did it though, as that one awkward moment then, means we just say Hi, how are you etc. now, rahter than having awkward silences every couple of days when we see eachother.
@rosie_123 (6117)
9 May 07
I get on fine with my neighbours. I wouldn't say we are close friends or anything, but we've never had any disagreements. We always stop and say "hello" if we see each other outside, and we always keep an eye on each others' houses when we're away. I don't think I would want to be too "pally" with neighbours, because I'm a person that likes my own space too much, and I wouldn't like the idea of someone too close popping in all the time, or being "over-friendly", but I think we have got the balance just right, and have no problems.
@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
Great stuff. That sounds ideal. I'm not sure I could ask my neighbours to go in my house though, they seem very nosy when we're home, god knows what they would be looking at if we gave them a key!
• United States
9 May 07
I am very lucky that I live in the country now. I have just two neighbors who live close to me, just down the hill. We get on fine. The rest of the homes by me are second homes and the people are only there weekends in the summer, so we have very limited exposure. The ones I do know I get along with just fine. I prefer it this way to when we lived on top of each other in the suburbs of New York City.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
That sounds like a nice place to live. Watching your neighbours house while they're away must be a full time job around there! Hey, maybe you could go into business? Get them to drop you an email and you could go around leaving fresh groceries and lighting furnaces etc. ready for them coming?!
• United States
9 May 07
I love my neighbors I actually am very grateful and lucky. I am out of town often visiting family while my husband is deployed and they watch our house, and keep an eye on it. I am actually getting ready to leave again and my neighbors offered to get our mail if we needed it but I am putting a hold on it. I am very happy that we have such great neighbors for even bbq and stuff like that they are always invited. We were going to buy a bigger house but I told my husband no because I don't want to chance not having good neighbors like we do now.
@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
It really does make such a difference to life, having helpful neighbours. My father and step-mother get along great with the couple next door to them. They're always doing things together and looking after eachothers houses & pets while on holidays.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
9 May 07
i'm doing fine with my neighbours... i and my hubby live on a flat and our neighbours are quite friendly and OK in my opinion... hopefully it will stays like this for a long time...
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
I hope so too.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
8 May 07
Barring one,we have very warm relation with all other neighbors.We don't meet regularly but are secure in the knowlegde that each one is there for the other in times of need.Our children play together every day and feel free with each other's parents.Overall a very warm and friendly environment we have.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
10 May 07
That type of community spirit has dissapeared from much of the UK. It's a great shame as it is a truly valuable thing.
@shadjee1 (604)
• Philippines
22 May 07
MY neighbors and i get along well, in fact whenever one of use goes out of town, we look after each other's houses.
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@munazza (81)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
well i dun find much time to spend with my neighbours...but somehow i manage to meet and take care of some neighbours...we do borrow and lend alot of things....if i have some special dish or one that my neighbour likes, I share it with them...at any time i can call them for help...if its to move some heavy stuff or if i need pick and drop service or any help in carrer or studies...they are really a blessing of God
@youless (100217)
• Guangzhou, China
9 May 07
Here people are very cold to each other. Everyday we open the door and go to work. After work then we go home and shut the door. We don't spend time to communicate with our neighbours. Last year my neighbours was a family with a little baby girl. Since my son was also a baby at that time. We often said hello to each other and their little girl even went to my home and play my son's toys. This year they moved out and someone moved in. Since that, I have no idea how my new neighbours are.
• India
9 May 07
I believe that a person should be always nice to his neighbours as man is a social animal and needs people's assistance at any moment of time...so one should annoy their neighbours but one should realize them if they are doing anything undue to you......i hope that the other person will also understand and respond in the same manner....
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@mari123 (1862)
• China
9 May 07
i will treat people as the way people treat me,if he is friendly and zealous with me,i will visit his house and contact with his some time,and if he ask me a hand to help him,i will do well.we don't like narrow-minded man,i see that he will have no friend,and in his life full with hatred,so we should careful with this man.
@thess0312 (442)
• United States
9 May 07
I get along with all of my neighbors specialy the old lady next door to my house shes very nice to my family.
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