Whom Would You Marry?

India
May 8, 2007 3:06pm CST
I think i am confused in this...let me tell you first taht i believe in love and hope to find mine oneday, but just that i saw this on a website that made me think again and again...... The page said that if you are in doubt, and cannot decide whom to marry, always marry the person who loves lou, not the person whom you love....... Although this is a simple sentence, i got confused, why would you marry some one who loves you, but you do not like her, or you just love her, why not marry the person whom you love.......... Please guys help me out here just tell me what s correct and what will you do if you are in the position.......Will you marry the person whom you love, or the Person Who loves you?,......... For sure i am confused..........
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26 responses
• Philippines
9 May 07
It is the logical thing to do, to marry someone who love you because you are not at the loosing end. They think that way because they believe that there is a possiblity of developing the feeling of love to that person. They are more optimistic rather than realistic. They still hope that it will favor their side. Although loving someone you love is more fulfilling rather than loving the one who loves you, still, they opt to choose to be loved for fear of being alone if they choose the first option. But when it comes to marrying the one, you'll just know it. There is no such thing as signs and premonition nor manifesttation that signifies that you will marry the right person. The feeling that you choose the right one has no definition but you'll easily recognize that feeling. When you come to feel it, you'll just know...
• India
11 May 07
yes thats true, but then what about the person we are in love already...dont you think we are cheating him/her?
• Philippines
8 May 07
They said it's better to marry the person who loves you more/who thinks the work revolves around you... because you'll know for sure that person will be faithful and will love you till the ends of the world. It's like saying marry someone who's ugly and he/she will never be unfaithful to you. I think you'll know whom'll you'll marry...you'll know by touch or by looking at her/his eyes... you'll know for sure that he's/she's the one for you...
• India
11 May 07
yeah thats the truest thing i have ever heard.....communication is very essential to maintain a relationship......
• India
11 May 07
who love me , i want to marry whomw who lone me too much she like me yes one thing in her is long hairs
@scorpio16 (1707)
• India
9 May 07
Though I am married since long so I can't marry now but I would be available to my lovers to have free discussions and if possible then would like to have their glimpse also.
@anindito (58)
• Indonesia
9 May 07
i will be marry the person who really loves me and of course i love that person to.but its need time to find that one.just never stop to trying to find someone that really understand,really loves us.
• India
9 May 07
my friend dont takea quick decision.figure out if thelove is for real.but afterall i agree in marrying the person who loves u
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
9 May 07
First of all I'd like to say that I don't belive in LOVE but its a beautiful thing...!! And I think I am not that fortunate to have one..!! If the question is about whom would you marry ?? Then My answre will be ...I'll marry the person who loves me!! Its better than crying all your life being with the one you love because he do not loves you...!! As it very rare to find that bot of them love each other equally .Ots always that one "have to" compromise for another!! So finding the one whom you truely love is in love with you too is very hard...!!And very rare to see..!! Well thats the real dirty truth!! This is life...(smile). All the best.
• Philippines
9 May 07
things.. i want to do with my life? hmmm... after being hurt a couple of times, i strongly say that the best thing i should have to do with my life is to love my self first before loving someone else again because its the best gift i could ever give myself after too many hurtaches. with this, i would shower myself with vanity and fulfillment of everything.well, you could say that its being too selfish but lets just think practically and you could also then say that im almost a hundred percent stating truth hence; after loving myself i could guarantee to give some love to anyone whose worth it...
@dannyl79 (11)
• India
9 May 07
Simple statement: not you confuse you or anyone, "Marry the person whom u love and who loves you in return". Don't get too carried away by certain anectedotes cause they are just meant to confuse you more.
@venusliu (23)
• China
9 May 07
I would marry the one who loves me. Love experience for me is usually heartbreaking, especially in the situation of experiencing an unrequited love. That was not fun,really. You can lose yourself totally just wanting his or her love. As long as the one who loves me is a good person, I am sure that I can love him on the basis of understanding and caring for each other.
@cassiezm (89)
• Philippines
9 May 07
If you would to choose whom I suppose to marry,it would be the person that loves me so mush than the person that I love...Loving a person that does not love you at all would be a burden really when you marry this person. Because in love,we cannot expect that the person that we love would love as the way we love them. If I would marry the person that loves me, I know later on I would also learn to love him...Because that person that loves me, I know for sure that he accepts me and cherish me without any thing I can do just to make him in love with me. Than spending my days with the person that I love but does not love me at all..Because with this,you would force that person to love you even if you cannot call it as sincerely love and naturally fell in love with you.. I know that in the end,if I would love this person that loves me,I would be happier...
@cassiezm (89)
• Philippines
9 May 07
If you would to choose whom I suppose to marry,it would be the person that loves me so mush than the person that I love...Loving a person that does not love you at all would be a burden really when you marry this person. Because in love,we cannot expect that the person that we love would love as the way we love them. If I would marry the person that loves me, I know later on I would also learn to love him...Because that person that loves me, I know for sure that he accepts me and cherish me without any thing I can do just to make him in love with me. Than spending my days with the person that I love but does not love me at all..Because with this,you would force that person to love you even if you cannot call it as sincerely love and naturally fell in love with you.. I know that in the end,if I would love this person that loves me,I would be happier...
• Israel
9 May 07
MY BROTHER ,THIS IS ONE OF THE GREATEST PROBLEM IN LIFE,TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECESION. I will advise you to marry the person that loves you and not the person you love, with reason,love is one but people sees it as two.you can still change your mined in other to love.If you marry the person tha did not love you is a problem,but if you marry person that loves you ,without you loving her ,you can still change your mined to love ok .anthonyreal from Nigerian.
@maainim (70)
• Israel
9 May 07
there's need to be a connection between you and her/him , from both sides .. otherwise it won't be real love .
• China
9 May 07
Actually the answers depend on the individuals. i remember someone has said " if a person who love you is not the one you love , what made you to live with a person that you don't love; insteadly if you love a person who don't love you,will you spend you whole life with her/him" . yes, why not choose a person who is not noly love you ,aslo is you love, which is perfect.GOOD LUCK.
• Philippines
9 May 07
Ok, now im confused, question, you mean the person you love don't love you? and the person who loves you is not the one you love? Now if your answers are Yes and Yes, then i think you are in a deep mud. Soooo happy I'm not on your shoes (joke). Love is not sweet if it is not given back in return willingly... I don't think you should marry someone who don't love you. Infairness to you, you deserve someone who will care for you and love you no matter what. And, I don't think you should marry someone who loves you but you do not love, infairness to her, she deserves someone who will love her no matter what. What I mean is, if it is possible, drop them both and find someone who you will love and love you in return. There is someone out there somewhere. I really hope i made some sense..
@aniez0906 (264)
• Indonesia
9 May 07
yeah...it's too difficult. but if i am in your position, my choice is... marry the person who love me..., cause i know about myself, and i believe if someone love me more more and more than i love him, he will give me everything to make me happy,he will not leave me
@donglory (677)
• Ghana
9 May 07
yes is true marry the person who loves you so that u can make a better couple because if you marry the person you love and the person dont love u u can not creat love in him/her but if you marry the person who loves you, you can by all means creat love for him/her. That is you changing to a situation is not as hard as changing someone. 'food for thought'
• Philippines
9 May 07
Marrying the person who loves you is the most logical thing to do if you can't decide whom you want to marry. Why marry the person you love when there is a tendency that he is not in love with you. Better marry the person who loves you for you are already secured and as time goes by, you will learne to love the person whom you think you don't love. Got my point?
• United States
9 May 07
You should marry someone that you love And they love you back.If you marry some one that you love but she doesn't love you back, it won't be a healthy marriage.You will spend all your time trying to make her love you. And it won't work. And if you marry the woman that loves you but you don't love her. She will get on your nerves because she will be trying to make you love her. And it won't work.So you both should love each other.