The most hurtful kind of lies.....

Okay. Now Grandpa Bob is going to eat some Humble Pie. I lied to my family for many years of an affair that was ongoing for a long time. I knew deep in my heart that they all knew but I felt my lies made it as if they didn't know. I finally had to admit to this affair and that was one of the hardest things to ever admit to in my life. I knew the hurt it caused as that was 2 years ago and the trust is still an issue. So I all to well know the effects of lying to a loved one. Thanks for this discussion also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

there is this person who has earned my trust. one day, she came to me asking me to help her in a business which she is embarking on. it will only be for a short while. once the transaction is complied with, she will return the money immediately. it was a sizeable amount, but since i trusted her, i handed her the money which i borrowed from my neighbor to help her out. it is so sad that she never ever gave it back to me, nor did she make any effort at paying it back through the years. i know that she could have given me the amount in full if she had wanted to because, she had a house built just some two years ago. the amount that i borrowed for her, i am paying for it little by little until now. i know that this is such a bad lesson in life.

Yes my Ex Husband lied lot to me and it certainly did hurt I lost Trust and even sometimes now with People I am not to sure I have started trusting again slowly but it is hard at times it really is

I have had someone in my family lie to me repeatily and it has hurt so bad. I was forth coming with telling them that I knew about each of their lies. It does hurt very much and it causes you not to be able to trust that person at all. It takes a long time to get trust back once it is lost.

I had a really great man in my life that I trusted with all of my heart and soul. Until one day when his exwife started to accuse me of things that were not true and the only thing I asked from him was to stand up for me and tell her that it was not true. He could not do that to save his life so I ended up in prison for it and when I came out the day after mothers day I saw him with someother girl and I confronted him on it. The only thing he could say to me was that he was going to tell me when the time was right. Well after awhile he started to call me agian and come around to see me and my kids. He told me that they are just friends and nothing more than that. So I believed him for the longest time until he stopped calling me and comeing by. Till this day it hurts me to know end and to the point that I can not trust another man agian or at least it is going to take a very long time for me to trust one ever.

Yes i definitely agree with you it hurts to know that someone close has lied to you. I have been in a situation like this before from a friend and although it was painful but i managed to forgive. It is very possible to know that your close pal has lied because you know almost evry thing about him or her and even if the act succeeded initialy, it wont last long before you happen to know the truth. But it is part of human life and one has to take time and care to handle such situation maturely.

yes i do agree with you. it hurts more if people you trust betrays you with their lies and everything

Yes I would agree with this as we trust the ones we love and when they lie to us it is very hurtful and painful to us. The one that lied to me was a very close friend of mine but the other day when I went and seen my friend my friend did apologise to me and admitted to me that they were very sorry for telling lies to me. So I did accept their apology and now everything is ok but I will be on the lookout for any more lies.

i think is being cheat with another women. is the most hurtful.

yaa lying really hurts a lot. once my friend told some lie about another friend and his relationship with her. i believed him and later regretted deeply. that lie created a tumult in me.

Yes i do agree with you alot on this. I know i find it very hurtful when it is me being lied to. I used to tell fibs to my mom but then i realized like you said how hurtful i was being by doing that and i never have since. I believe that lies in a love relationship ruins trust. The most hurtful to me is when my kids lie to me when they know that i know the difference. It does nothing to help me trust them in the future either. But lies in any form are hurtful i dont know how people can do that. If i cant speak straight up then i dont speak at all and that is just the way it is.

WEll yeah of course. I am not really hurt by a stranger lying unless it causes me financial worries. But, I always think to myself, have I at least lied once in the same way? If I have I will just let it go and move on. If it is a really bad lie and it is hard to know what to do with my feelings I believe it is best to just let them know their lie hurt me and move on. If they apologize wonderful but it is up to me whether I want them in my life, if I do then I decide on whether it can be with or without them admitting they were wrong. I think true love is loving the good and bad.

Yeah,I have betrayed by one of my close friends some times.The first time,when I konw the truth I forgive her and don't tell her I kown.But latter,I find she alway tell lies.So I lose trust to her,and she is not my close friend .The betray will let you grow up.

I had an ex girlfriend that cheated on me, but I from watching friends go through hurtful relationships knew that she was. I believe in learning from other peoples mistakes myself. Everytime I see friends go through relationships with people that lie, yet they get back together with that person, I wrote it down in my heart. Knowing soon my time would come, and when it did, I decided its not the person that lies in the relationship, but the person believing the lie. I formulated a plan to keep my word in all things, I promised her when she asked me once if she ever cheated on me, what would I do? I told her it be over, and I would never get back with her again. I knew this was her time to test it, I knew she was going to, or she wouldn't have asked. She did, I kept my word on it also, heh. She still emails from time to time, thinking I will fall to compassion, but I promised her I never get back, its a matter of keeping my word, so I am not as hurtful.

you are so right, The people that u love are the ones that can hurt u the most. I had an experiance like this. I was with a guy for 4 years and in the end EVERYTHING turned out to be a lie. He had been married, he had 2 kids, neither of this things he told me even though I had asked him when we met. He lied about everything. He also cheated on me. The pain he caused me I am not even able to explain and it took me a long time to even be able to trust anyone again.

of course it is from the family who lied to you, its twice the hurt if your family lies to you than your friends or your boyfriend/.

Yes, my boyfriend lied to me. It's been two years and only now 3 weeks ago that I found out that he had a son. I left him. I never want to be with a person who lies to me. I lied to me 2 years. I just wish I never knew him. Now, I am starting a new life and a life that is with with a trauma.