Please pray for me, this is going to be a sad Mother's Day.

United States
May 10, 2007 4:35pm CST
This will be my first Mother's Day without my mama. I am 52 and she was 77 when she passed away but I still miss her so much. I know this is going to be hard on Mother's Day without my mama but I know by the grace of God I will make it through and all my family will. I am an only child and lost my daddy 3 years ago in July and then lost my mama in September of last year. I know they both are in a better place and they are with their Lord and Savior and they are together. When my mama passed away, I saw the moment she saw my daddy waiting for her, a small grin came on her face and she left us. I knew she was with Daddy. I just wanted to ask for a few extra prayers to help me get thru this sad day. I know I'm not the only one but I want to pray for you too.
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• United States
10 May 07
oh, you are in my prayers for sure! i am so sorry to hear this. i really do not know what i would do without my mother. and even when my mom lost HER mom YEARS and YEARS ago, it is STILL hard for her on mother's day. our mother's are VERY important to us. and this day is so special and such a wonderful way of giving them respect, and thanks. but i know this one will be real hard on you, and i will pray that you will think of the happy memories you two shared. she will be with you on this special day, no doubt. talk to her, and thank her, even though she is not sitting right next to you, she's there. good luck honey. you sound like a very wonderful person. are you a mother? if so, happy mother's day to you. AND to your mom, bless her soul.
• United States
11 May 07
Thanks so much! Yes, I am a mother and grandmother (MeeMee). Your comments were so precious. Thanks so much you made me cry. Happy Mother's Day to you too.
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• United States
11 May 07
oh thank you. no i'm crying! i wish you the best this weekend.
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@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
10 May 07
Mammas garden - my Mamms garden
You are not alone here I also lost my mamma in dec this past year and it will also be my first year with out my mamma and im not sure how im gonna get thru the day. I was with my mamma when she left u also and I saw the pleasure as she was about to enter a better place.One thing we did to help us feel some better was to start a memorial garden in our yard for our mamma we let the kids and grandkids to plant what they knew my mamma loved and we will all share the garen together, my son bought a beautifull memory bench to put there. I will be praying for you and hope you make it thru ok.
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@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
11 May 07
Mammacathie looks like we have a lot in common my age is 51 will be 52 next month ,I lost my father when i was young tho. I think the garden helps me so much I can look out anyitme ans see it.We will see how the day goes i have to try to be strong for my kids but im not sure how it will go .
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• United States
11 May 07
Oh!!! Mrsbrian!!! When my daddy passed away in July we fixed a Dogwood memory garden in our front yard and I had put memory bench and plaque and other things in it for mama to see every day because she moved in with us. Now I have more in it to remind me of my mama too. I love going out there and sitting on the bench and talking to both of them. Thank you for the prayers and I'll be praying for you too. I am so sorry for your loss too and we have to stick together and pray for one another.
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@Celanith (2327)
• United States
11 May 07
Hi I know what your going through. I am not an only child I am the eldest. One one of my three siblings however ever talks to me. Now that mom is gone they transferred their hate and anger for all the bad things in life that happened to them, from my mom to me. Before that they transferred it from my dad who passed away 10 years ago come August to my mom. My mom passed away two years ago a day before her 75th birthday in April. So this is the second Mother's day she has been gone from us. My younger brother calls me sometimes. As a mom I have four kids too, My oldest son because of his wife who does not like me and never has won't call or send a card. We have not seen him for months. Pray for him to be a man and not let his wife keep him from his parents. She is always with her mom literally daily and expects him to be too. So I have saddness too and hurt.
• United States
13 May 07
I am so sorry for your hurt. I will be praying for you and your family.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
10 May 07
My heart goes out to you. Remember she is always in your heart and you can still give her flowers on the grave. I am praying for you to get through this .
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• United States
11 May 07
Thanks, aprilgrl. I don't even know if I can go to the graveyard to put flowers on. I want to remember her in my heart while she was living not going there to know where her shell of a body had been buried. Haven't made up my mind yet.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
11 May 07
I understand. Like I said she's always with you and your father too.(In your heart)
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• Pakistan
11 May 07
I am very sorry for your loss.MAY she rest in peace.
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• United States
11 May 07
Thank you.
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• Malaysia
11 May 07
i'm so sorry to hear that...i know you'll get thru it, don't worry. i can't imagine a world without my mom. although we have our rows and don't see eye to eye sometimes, i love her to bits and i don't ever want to live without her..if only that's possible..i hope you have a wonderful mother's day, among your loved ones. take care :)
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• United States
11 May 07
Thanks so much.
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@udayarc (428)
• India
11 May 07
My heart goes for you.
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• United States
11 May 07
Thank you, udayarc. All of you people are so nice to me.
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
11 May 07
Hi Mamacathie, Yes I know what it is like without a Mother as I lost my mother too I am 55 and my adopted mother was 77 as well when she passed away, I miss my adopted mother as well. I was the only child that she adopted. But due to it is going to be your first Mothers Day without her I sympathize with you and understand it is very difficult especially the first year, and of course my prays are with you my dear friend
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• United States
11 May 07
Thank you so much, Kathy. I am so sorry for your loss too and I will be praying for you too.
• United States
11 May 07
Yes Cathie I will pray for you this mothers day. I can't say I understand how you feel because I really don't but I will be there for you if you need. I will pray for you all this week and especially on mother's day. God will help you get through this sad day. God will bless you on mother's day.
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• United States
11 May 07
Thanks pebbles_cubbie. Your comment made me cry. It is so great to know we have so many friends even thru myLot that care so much about our hurts.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
11 May 07
happy mother's day - a picture contain a mother's day greetings..
i'm sorry for that cathie..sometimes, in our life we don't know that we need to cry and be lonely..like what happened to you..it's so painful because our mother is our partner, that she is the one who knows our feeling, that she's always there to give us comfort and care, that her love is unselfish and unconditional..and we are so thankful that we have a mom like that..and yes, i will pray for you mom and dad and for this Mother's day, you should be happy because i'm sure your mom would be sad if your sad..Cheers..:) HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO YOU MOMMY..
• United States
11 May 07
Thank you , cherriemae. I appreciate those sweet words and prayers.
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• United States
11 May 07
My heart goes out to you and we will hold you in our prayers. Moms are so special and so important and when they are gone, it is painful.But sweetie, take a few minutes of your time and close your eyes and your mom will be right there with you in spirit.When you lay those flowers on her grave, lean down and tell her how much you love her and Happy Mother's Day.Remember although our loved ones are gone from our lives, they will forever live in our hearts and we cherish all those memories. I wish you a Happy Mother's Day and may God bless you and your family.
• United States
11 May 07
Thanks, kntcallahan. Those were such sweet words. Thanks for your prayers.
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@shinjiao (1457)
• China
11 May 07
My heart goes out of you.I am praying for you and I hope you can go throug it.Believe me,your mother's soul is still loving you in Heaven.
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• United States
11 May 07
Yes, I have my mother's memories and my daddy's in my heart. I try to cling to them. Thanks for your prayers.
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@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
11 May 07
I am very sorry to hear that. I am also only one child for my parents. I'm 31 now and my parents are still with us. Sometimes it'll worry me and it's hard for me to think if one day they leave me. I hope you won't go so sad, as you know your parents want you to be happy. When they see you from the heaven, I'm sure they want to see your smile than tears. They are in the heaven in pease now, so please try to cheer up. You are still with your family and friends.
• United States
11 May 07
Thank you so much, youless.
@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
11 May 07
Cathie, You are in my prayers. The first year is always the hardest, then it gets a little easier. But, I don't think the pain ever really goes away.
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• United States
11 May 07
Thank you, Sherry. I appreciate all these prayers.
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• United States
12 May 07
My sympathys for the passing of your Mother. I lost mine back in 2001. It is sad and emotionally at any age that you lose someone close to you. My husband lost his Mom on Mothers Day, so this day is always rough for him. Please try to keep your chin up and remember all of the happy times you had together.
• United States
13 May 07
Oh my sympathies go our to you and your husband. I knew there were others just like me and that needed prayer just like I did. I will be praying for y'all too. Thanks for the encouraging words.
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
10 May 07
Sorry for your losses. You just have to remember that they are in a better place and together. It sounds like she went with a smile and like you said with someone there to greet her. Just try to keep her in your heart on Mother's Day and that is all you need...I hope you have a nice mother's day with your family....
• United States
11 May 07
Thank you for you comment. I hope you have a great Mother's Day too.
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@wm69love88 (3466)
• China
11 May 07
I feel for you,mamacathie.And I pray for you and your dear mother.You should, therefore, cherish whatever you have.Leave all your worries behind you. Health wealth and happiness for you as long as you live.
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• United States
11 May 07
Thanks so much for your prayers and wishes. I will be praying for you too.
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@Celanith (2327)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Hi Mamacathie I will pray for you. I know the hurt, saddness and feeling your experincing. I am not an only child but the oldest of four. However two of my siblings are by their choice estranged from me. I lost my mama 12 hours short of her 75th birthday two years and 2 months ago. Daddy went 10 years ago come August 4 days before my birthday. I deeply miss them both. It does get easier. I still ache at times to pick up a phone and call one or the other but I have lots of memories, photos, letters and stories from both and it helps.
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• United States
12 Jun 07
I am so sorry for your loss of your parents and your distance between two ofyour siblings. This is so hard but we manage to make it through it. I have started a blog dealing with grief and this if you would like to visit it you are very welcome. My blog is under my profile. God bless you and I will pray for you too.
@pelo26 (1552)
• Philippines
11 May 07
Don't be sad. As you have said, they're both in a better place right now.
• United States
11 May 07
yes they are in a great place with God. Thanks.
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• China
11 May 07
best wishes for you ,pray for you and your family.you are very kind ,and please don`t be so sad ,god will help you get thru this sad day.your parents live together again in a better place.pray them.
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• United States
11 May 07
Thank you for those words, Jennifer.
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