How do you accept refusals?
By magica
@magica (3707)
Bulgaria
May 10, 2007 10:07pm CST
All of them...it doesnt matter if this is refusal of your potential love, a good job or something else?
Can you loose with dignity or your usual reactions are more emotional?
Some people really cant loose...and they blame everybody including themselves.If you do it, is it a problem for you and how do you try to overcome?
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7 responses
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
11 May 07
NO matter how hard I try..I am told I am very transparent..and if I had some kind of refusal..I would probably where it on my sleeve..I don't do well at hiding my emotison:)+
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
11 May 07
I am like volcano behind the mask. If this refusal is from main importance for me-there are so many passionate feelings. To show or not to show...it`s different. Of course, i will not shout to the snobish employer who refuses to have me and my skills because of the sexy blonde who is at least 10 years younger then me...But i will find a way to react to it ...at least to release the anger.
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
11 May 07
My eyes would probably start to water, but I'm not someone who goes off blaming others for getting refused. Rejection is just a part of life and I feel sorry for people who can't cope with it..:( Some people get so easily discouraged, you just hve to do your best to move on and stay positive..:)
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
11 May 07
it is by knowing one's self,having a good and kind relationship with one's self, we would know how to handle such situation.it is a basic human response to feel rejected and react to a condition but we have to decide what reaction to give.it does not mean that if we were rejected that we are a failure ,it only means it's not for us and it is not time for us to recieve such gift nor ready to take the responsiblily.failure as a foundation for us to be stronger and wiser, a time to prepare ourselves for a better opportuniy.it only means that we have not only tried bit do what we have to do to know the result and a proof that we are still capable of being human.
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
11 May 07
I think I have learned over the years to handle rejection with grace. I tend to hold my head up, thank the person for the opportunity and move on to the next one. There's no reason to dwell, and certainly, it does no good to make a scene or try to fight for it. I respect a person's right to say no, and I move on.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 May 07
I have been refused in love, in jobs in so many things. At first my feelings are hurt, but then I think about it. Am I really right for this person, am I really right for this job? I think that there is something else out there that I am meant to be with or to do and I cheer up because again I feel hope to find the right person or to find the right job for me.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
14 May 07
I just try to accept the fact that I have be rejected and try to move on. Not everyone is going to like me on this face of earth, so it is to be expected sometimes.
