Would you abort him/her at birth?

@Swtrose (3385)
Canada
May 11, 2007 12:41am CST
If you were going to have a baby and you knew that the baby was going to have a birth defect would you abort the baby, given the opportunity? My daughter was born with congenital heart disease at 5 weeks she died during surgery. Had I know prior to birth she had congenital heart disease I would not have aborted her.
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
11 May 07
No I would not abort. I am pregnant now, and actually declined the triple screen test they offer to check for birth defects and chromosonal disorders. My husband and I decided that we didn't want the test as we weren't going to abort under any circumstances.
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
12 May 07
Thank you for replying and I'm not sure I would have decline the test.
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@cutebaby4 (196)
• India
11 May 07
I would never abort a baby no matter how ill he is. Because a bay is also a human and he has got rights to live in this world. But if we know that he will die within a few hours, then i might do something to ease its pain.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
17 May 07
No i have no right to decide for the life of the baby, even if it is very ill. I will give the child the chance to live and give him/her the love and attention that she needs
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
11 May 07
No, because perhaps a surgery could save the baby. I wouldn't have aborted the baby because there is a possibility of survival, plus if you didn't want the baby you could give it up to the hospital for adoption and I am sure there will be other people that will take a baby even if he/she has a birth defect. Have a nice day. Pablo
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
12 May 07
You are absolutely right.
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• United States
11 May 07
I have not had to personally go through anything that would even make me think for a second about aborting my own child, even though I miscarried rather late in my term with my first child and had to have a D&C to stop the bleeding. :( Even if all my children were not born healthy I would not have had it in me to abort them. I just couldn't do it no matter what potential problems they might have. I love them too much. PS. I know you probably have heard it a million times by now, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you had to lose a precious child so young.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
12 May 07
Thank you. Even a brief life offers so much that is special. I could can never, will never, forget Katie as a person or my daughter.
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• United States
12 May 07
I couldn't abort the baby even if I knew the kid would only live a short time. It is still my child and deserves whatever love I can give it, even if it only turns out to be a short time. I have heard other people who have had very young childern die. One of them said they believe we are on this planet until we can learn to be angels. Some learn sooner than others and only have to stay a short time. I hope this is the case with your child Rose.
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
12 May 07
Andy, my daughter left this earth before her little life after really begun. I can't change what God has chosen, but her life was special and I will never forget her.
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@weemam (13372)
29 Jun 07
I am so sorry that you lost your baby , That must have been so heart breaking , My mum lost a baby before she had me she was 10 months old , I had a late baby 27 years ago he was strangled with the cord and he has Cerebral Palsy , our two other sons were 17 and 15 when Ross was born , we were told he would not live and if he did he would be a vegetable and be able to do nothing for himself , well he has proven them all wrong , ye still has a speech problem and a balance problem , he is 6 ft tall not in a wheel chair , he has been to college and has his HND in computing and is now taking to open university courses , A bsc and Ba , If I had known that and aborted him ( I never would havee0 I would have missed out on all the brilliant things he has done and is still doing, good luck to you and God Bless xx
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@sunshinecup (7871)
16 May 07
Yes I would. Why would I want to allow something I so love and cherish to suffer? If my child would never be able to live without me or would suffer for the time he/she was here, I would abort out of love. That's just my opinion.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
16 May 07
It would depend on the situation. There are some diseases and conditions, primarily genetic that would not provide a good quality of life for the chid. If it was determined early that my child would never be able to function on any level why burden the child with that? Having a child with a defect or condition that could be fixed is another story.If I knew there was a good chance to fix it I would not abort. I would rather try to give a good chance in that instance. But I would not want to burden any child with a life of misery.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
11 May 07
I'm sorry to hear about your baby. I do believe however God had a better plan for this little baby and I know it wasn't your plan and it must have hurt real bad. Good for you that you did all you could by getting the baby the help that was necessary. It just wasn't meant to be. Take Care and have a good weekend.
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
11 May 07
Well thank you for your sympathy, but I did not ask you to tell me that it was not meant to be. It would have been nice if you had of answered my question.
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• Canada
12 May 07
Oh I'm so sorry, I guess I could have been more clear on my answer, Yes you're right. No I would not abort myself I would leave it in Gods hands and accept his discission as to what would be the best plan. Please accept my apologue.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
12 May 07
It's ok.
@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
18 May 07
I have very stong beliefs and values. I believe abortion is killing so no i would not abort my child. I believe the only one that has the right to take away life is god it is not up to you to take that life no more than it is up to you to take your own. If god feels the child should not be brought into the world he will take care of it his way. Not one else has that right to decide.
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@msjigga (864)
• United States
18 May 07
I would not abort my baby if I knew he or she would be born with a birth defect. I would give life a chance and try to see if a miracle can be performed. I believe everyone is here for a reason and everything happens for a reason.
• Philippines
12 May 07
Sometimes, even if life only gives us just one in a million chance to win, if a life of the person depends on it then we should take the chance nonetheless. A person's life is as important as anyone else, and having defects doesn't degrade its value in anyway. Life's really full of surprises. Sure, doctors will say that my baby will be born with a life degenerating effect if allowed to be born, but i won't decide to abort the child. Why deny this child a chance to see a sun shine in the morning as the birds sing their song? why deny that child a chance to prove the doctors wrong - after all, not all diagnosis are 100% accurate. Who knows what life may bring to the child? I won't decide on abortion - my child may yet live as anormal being after all.
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18 May 07
I guess it would depend on how far pregnant you were and whether or not you had any idea of how bad the defect was. Part of me would be inclined to say 'yes' rather than bring a child into the world that is going to be in and out of hospital or worse or like yourself having to go through the agony of losing a child so young when you have already named her, held her and made her part of your family. But obviously the mum side of me would go with 'no' as you become a mum as soon as you become pregnant. I have never had such a heart-rendering decision to make and there is no wrong or right answer.
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I will never abort the baby , abortion is a sin, and against in the law of God, it consider this as a killer, you kill your own flesh and blood, the baby has a right to live so give him a chance to live, whether it has a birth defect or not. my baby born also with congenital heart disease, although at first i am blaming myself of what did i do to during pregnancy to have that made my baby have this problem and depressed when i found out that she has this heart disease but this is the reality of life we must be brave to face the truth and never be blame yourself about this. we must seek advice in a local support group or a doctor this may help you also. talking to the people who's been through the same thing can be helpful.
• United States
12 May 07
No I would not abort the baby.I feel as you do & wouldn't & couldn't have an abortion.I know there's alot of people here that believe in abortion, but even if I have to stand alone I am totally against abortion.I am so sorry for your loss your heart must be broken.I am very sorry.
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@chloe9013 (532)
12 May 07
If i was in the situation i do not know but i have to admit my first reaction would be to want to abort it. i think it is selfish of me but i dont think i could look after an ill child and i wouldnt be able to give it everything i should. meybe if i was in the situation though and i had it growing in me i would change my opinion and keep it as i have never been pregnant and i dont know what kind of bond you have with an unborn child.
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• Malaysia
11 May 07
GOD is Almighty.. he created you,mother of beautiful heart. You are strong to face the truth of losing what made you smile with every kicking in your pregnancy,i am proud of you. if i have know the truth during pregnancy. I will decide to let it go. Yes that every ego of me but if only i know that i will be with my unperfect baby for his/her life,i do other wise.
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@eden32 (3973)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Since I have been very vocal about my pro-choice beliefs here on Mylot, I think it may be surprising for me to say this- but no. I probably would not terminate for those reasons. A pregnancy is usually pretty far along before birth defects can be detected. If it was a pregnancy I intended to go through with before then I don't think I'd be able to terminate at that point. Certain conditions that some families may feel are too hard to accept (down syndrome is the one that first comes to mind for me) to me just wouldn't seem that overwhelming to me- but I have experience with children & adults with conditions like that. If my child had a condition that was un-treatable, and likely to be painful for their short life, it'd be a very hard decision to make. Especially since after being born doctors/hospitals may try heroic but hopeless measures that would just prolong my child's pain instead of letting nature peacefully take it's course. But I respect & support other families' right to make those choices for themselves.
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
6 Feb 09
First of all I'm sorry you didn't get to have your little girl with you any longer than 5 weeks! I wouldn't abort a child for being just that child - birth defect or not - how could I decide thet the babys life wouldn't be worth living. One of the sad parts is that many people that make an abortion because the child has a birth defect doesn't know what the defect would do for the child. There is never a chance of knowing hww small or big inpact a defect will do on the kids life. Some say that a child born with Spina bifida has so life, but they surley have since I know many adults with spina bifida and they have ordinary lifes just like I have.