The secret to friendship is being a good listener.Are you a good listener?

China
May 11, 2007 4:46am CST
The secret to friendship is being a good listener.Best friends listen to what you don't say.For example, if you have a bad day, a good friend should listen to your complaints and do his or her best to help.Are you a good listener?
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@sunita64 (6470)
• India
11 May 07
I am a very good listener and I become so involved in listening that at times if any friend of mine is very unhappy so along with her I also start crying. Because of this good listening capacity I have many friends in my life.
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• China
11 May 07
I hope you will win more friendships in the future.
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@sunita64 (6470)
• India
11 May 07
thanks a lot.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
11 May 07
Hello,wm69love88,I will consider myself as a good listener,i like to know the stories of different people,i may not be able to give them solutions sometimes,but i will try to listen to them and share the feelings so that they can feel better.I will be happy to share tears and laughter with my friends.
• China
11 May 07
I believe you have many good friends.
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@iszo07 (473)
• Malaysia
11 May 07
I believe I'm a good listener. But the problem is I'm not very good of giving advice. :)
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• China
11 May 07
I suppose that's enough.
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• China
14 May 07
I'm a little converted and I think I am a good listener...Without permition, I won't tell others' secrets...I'm glad for my character...hehe
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• China
14 May 07
I hope you will win more friendships in the future.
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@cutiedhes (508)
• Philippines
11 May 07
I can't say that i am a good listener but i always do my best to help my friends and to listen to all of their problems. For me that's one thing i can do to my friends.
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• China
14 May 07
thanks for your reply.
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• China
11 May 07
Mostly women are good listeners,maybe I am wrong on this point; men are not unless he feels interested in you, likes you or loves you. So the common interests are very important for people to become friends. if you do not have the same common interests,you will feel the topic between you and your FRIENDS is very boring. With a boring topic, you can hardly have enough patience to be a good listener.that is why in our daily life, we often hear some people speak to some others in this way: you complain too much. Do you agree with my THEORY ?
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• China
14 May 07
hi,big boy.Generally speaking,I agree with your THEORY.I think I can understand how you feel:)
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• Philippines
25 May 07
yes i can isay that im a good listener. especially when a friend of mine has a problem and he really needs someone to talk to, i would listen to him. and i would not only listen to him but rather i would also encourage him, and advice him. however, if a friend talks too much, i mean, talks about anything that just makes no sense or nothing serious like talking on things that are not worth listening and discussing, i would pretend to be busy and would not listen to what he is saying...
• China
26 May 07
thanks for your reply.
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
14 May 07
A good friend listens yes its true and sometimes like myself I tell my problems and need someone to listens yes just listen and my friends do it in just simple way. There were times that i just needed someone to share my loneliness and it did not mean that I wanted some advice but just an ear to listen me and I think I'm not alone with that. A good friend knows when to give advice and when just to listen. Its a common sense between to people who really know each other. That's one of the reason why we need friends.
• China
17 May 07
thanks for your good comment.
@DawGwath (1042)
• Romania
24 May 07
Unfortunately, and fortunately this is probably my best quality. I listen to anyone that has something to say, and my friends know it, and always come to me when they're happy of something, if they're sad, or even if they're bored. And even though I'm quite a busy person, I try to do the best as I can to listen to them. It's the least I can do as a friend. But sometimes my kindness gets me into trouble, as many persons had a crush on me, or even fell in love, and it's kinda scary to find out that 3 or 4 friends of yours think you're their chosen one...
@calvin222 (1607)
• India
24 May 07
i used to be a good listner. but now i dont have the patience or the time anymore.
@mysiraylon (1102)
• United States
22 May 07
With all aspect of a relationship between friends, absorbing much stress that the other cannot bear any longer is the most and very important one. Imagine if your friend come to you heavily loaded with personal problems and you will just take it lightly, you do not deserve be called as friend. Offer yourself, let he/him lean unto you and most importantly give ample time for your friend to calm down on your shoulder. That way she/he will know you are sincere and real.
@dozenbiz (88)
• Philippines
15 May 07
I'd been always a good listener to my friends especially on their problems.